How do you bond with your children after making a bad decision that affected them

Thereesa - posted on 06/14/2009

I am not sure if this is right or wrong,but the way I did it is t talk to you kid. Remember that you are the mom and they are the kids, but at the sametime just talk to them. Do not keep apoligizing, but do let them know you are really sorry for hurting their feeling and hurting them in anyway. How old are your kids?

Allie - posted on 06/05/2009

I highly agree w/ Cindy and Jan. I have only been a mother for about 6 months, but I know that I felt a lot better when my parents let me know they made mistakes. Makes you realize that you are human and everyone does. With parents and children, we should all have that unconditional love, and let our children know it is ok to make mistakes because we will love them no matter what, and they should give you that same break. God teaches us to be Christlike, and what is more Christlike than unconditional love? Obviously he is extremely disappointed w/ a lot of ppl, bc of all of the sin in this world, but that is the reason He is here. We all need to respect and love one another no matter the mistake.

Andrea - posted on 05/31/2009

Quoting Cindi:

I realize that many parents may disagree with me, but I apologize for making a bad decision and let them know that I realize how the decision affected them. Then we discuss how everyone, even parents, make mistakes and offer to do what I can to help mitigate the impact my decision made on them. This usually works and has the additional benefit of showing the kids how I expect them to behave when they've made mistakes: acknowledge the error, apologize sincerely, and work to fix it whenever possible. Incidentally, when they make mistakes, once the above process is done, we forget about it. I don't hold their mistakes over their heads forever and don't expect them to hold mine over my head indefinitely, either.

i highly agree with this advice.

i believe in teaching my kids the reality of the world. the world our kids are going to leave home and grow up in. We lead by example. I couldn't have said it any better than Cindi did!!!

Andrea - posted on 05/31/2009

Quoting Cindi:

I realize that many parents may disagree with me, but I apologize for making a bad decision and let them know that I realize how the decision affected them. Then we discuss how everyone, even parents, make mistakes and offer to do what I can to help mitigate the impact my decision made on them. This usually works and has the additional benefit of showing the kids how I expect them to behave when they've made mistakes: acknowledge the error, apologize sincerely, and work to fix it whenever possible. Incidentally, when they make mistakes, once the above process is done, we forget about it. I don't hold their mistakes over their heads forever and don't expect them to hold mine over my head indefinitely, either.

i highly agree with this advice.

i believe in teaching my kids the reality of the world. the world our kids are going to leave home and grow up in. We lead by example. I couldn't have said it any better than Cindi did!!!

Jan - posted on 05/28/2009

I believe that we as parents need to let our children know that we make mistakes and can admit when we are wrong. An apology helps open the door for discussion. Be sure and let them know that you love them. Forgiveness is the greatest gift anyone can give or receive.

Cindi - posted on 05/20/2009

I realize that many parents may disagree with me, but I apologize for making a bad decision and let them know that I realize how the decision affected them. Then we discuss how everyone, even parents, make mistakes and offer to do what I can to help mitigate the impact my decision made on them. This usually works and has the additional benefit of showing the kids how I expect them to behave when they've made mistakes: acknowledge the error, apologize sincerely, and work to fix it whenever possible. Incidentally, when they make mistakes, once the above process is done, we forget about it. I don't hold their mistakes over their heads forever and don't expect them to hold mine over my head indefinitely, either.