Nicole - posted on 03/31/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
My daughter is almost four and just recently started in a preschool here in Okinawa. When she was younger she had a short phase of tantrums that lasted about a week. I ignored her tantrums (even though she'd follow me around the house and 're-throw' her tantrum lol) and then she gave up with them and the full blown tantrums have been gone. Well, she just recently decided it was a good idea to start throwing tantrums again! I don't know if she saw other kids at school doing it, but where she got this from is beside the point. She will scream at the top of her lungs and throw herself around and it's just full blown toddler tantrum from a preschooler! I know she's young and doesn't understand her feelings but she needs to know that these tantrums are unacceptable! Her dad and I don't scream or anything at each other ever, so she doesn't see us acting that way. I don't want to punish her for being angry, but can a tantrum be punished? I've told her its OK to be upset but she cannot act like that, but she's obviously not a little adult so I don't think that get's very far. How can I best deal with this? She's also always been a very stubborn and hard headed little girl! When she was 10 months old she crawled over and started messing with her grandma's books and I told her "no no, don't touch" and she looked at me, smiled, and put one finger on the books while still looking at me. It's all been downhill from there with testing every boundary. She might make a good leader one day but right now she just makes mommy nuts! I'd love some input! And we are a military family, so I know that puts her under some more stress with daddy coming and going, and then our move overseas, but she's always been OK with dad leaving for awhile and he's been home now since July, so I don't think she's acting out because of any of that, I think maybe it's just the age... but I'm still clueless! Thank you.