I just joined the group I would like to find out how other mommys punish daughters

Amy - posted on 09/01/2012

I have a 10 year old daughter myself. She is a very strong-willed child. I quickly learned time outs do not work for her. Spanking didn't either and I haven't done that since she was about 6. What works for her is taking away what she enjoys: toys, video games, playing outside, the computer, going out with friends/friends coming over for a set amount of time. Depending on what the violation is and how often it's been repeated determines the length and amount taken away. Two years ago, I began keeping charts for her so she can see her behavior patterns. I've also been able to connect this to her mental/physical growth as well. Sometimes punishment isn't the answer. But you have to find the balance and what will work with each individual child, even if there are multiple children in the home. What works for one may not work with another. You can find a way to keep your morals and standards as they are along with finding the necessary discipline for your child for the infractions.

Misty - posted on 06/01/2012

Before the taking away of items, if time out is not enough, she has to go to her room on her bed with no toys, books, or tv on.

Misty - posted on 06/01/2012

My daughter is eight, i still use timeout for spur the moment slip ups. But my husband and i are pretty strict and expect alot from our kids. So they have a lot because they truely deserve it. I punish her mainly by taking away the items she loves, (DS, WII, favorite puzzles, board games) or the weekend with grandma that she has been looking so forward to.

Jennifer - posted on 09/19/2011

Mostly time outs work with my daughter. If she has a tantrum then she is stuck in her room until she stops unless it is around nap time in which case she has to take a nap (she hates naps and if she's being good I don't make her take one). The time out is usually sufficient but if she continues in the bad behaviour she will get her butt swatted. Depending on what she did and the time she could also end up having to go to bed early or losing toys for the rest of the day.

On the flip side when she is good and does something well, or simply without having to be asked, there are lots of hugs, kisses, and "mommy's so proud of you!" going around to reinforce the good behaviour as well.

She gets a lot more hugs than time outs.

Louise - posted on 08/20/2011

My daughter is nearly three and if she steps out of line she goes to the naughty step for three minutes and then I get down to her level and ask her why she is on the naughty step. I let her tell me why she thinks shes there and then I correct her if she is wrong. I always end with a hug before she goes to play. The naughty step is rare though most of the time I can control her with the tone of my voice. She knows when I am cross.

Dee - posted on 08/18/2011

Yes! I have a 3 year old daughter. My mom tells me that I am hard on her sometimes. I just want her to grow up to be a good and respectful. She' s not a bad child by any means. I always start with a warning or 2 then i put her in time out. If she thows a fit and throws herself on the ground i will spank her bottom (not hard, and its rare when i do). Then after she gets out of time out we talk about why she was in time out to begin with and we hug and kiss. It works for us.