When will I know its right to have another child?

Ashley - posted on 08/23/2009

What I don't understand is how another child will "ruin" her. Children should learn that change does happen sometimes and that it is a part of life to deal with those changes. If you think that having another child will be good for her (she'll have someone to play with and to teach) then she's just going to have to learn how to deal with it like the rest of us. It may not be good that she gets everything she wants. Whether you decide to have more siblings or not she's going to need to learn that she can't be the center of attention all the time. Maybe having another kid would be good for her. She'll learn how to share, how to think of someone other than herself. You never know if she'll surprise you: she might end up being a great big sister and a great little helper. It's actually better if she learns this now while she's young instead of becoming a self absorbed grown woman always dependent on other people's attention or affection for self worth.The decision's up to you. I'm just saying... Good luck! :)

Allie - posted on 06/05/2009

I feel that ppl grow when they aren't the center of attention, and do not always get what they want. I know this mother of an almost 3 year old daughter. The mother was the only child, and got absolutely everything she ever wanted, and now that she is out there in the world, she still has mommy pay for her house, her appliances... everything, and the woman barely spends time w/ her child bc it is always about her. She makes sure that she is happy and doesn't care about anyone else. The baby doesn't even recognize her as mommy, but just a baby sitter, whenever she actually is around. The father... we won't get into that. That baby has been neglected so much, and that is why I fear spoiling my child. I had to earn almost everything I got, and I am a much better person bc of it. Not saying your child will end up that way, but if in your heart you want another child, your daughter will need to learn how to compromise for that attention, and learn the word NO. You will only be doing her a favor. Just make sure to love them equally and spend time w/ both. You can always sit her down and explain it to her before you have another. You can even make her mommy's helper. :)