boys fighting

Ariana - posted on 10/22/2012

I would give consequences for physical altercations they have. So if they fight they both lose out on a privilage (going out with friends/tv/internet etc.). Even if one claims the other started it they need to be told that it takes two to tango.



I would also make them sort out their issue (even if it's after a fight). So calmly ask them what the problem was (he took my stuff etc.) and tell them you are going to put them in a room and they are not to come out until it is sorted out. I would also make a list of rules for arguing.



Something like 1. No hitting/violence 2. No name-calling 3. No yelling



For the first couple incidents you may want to be near the room to make sure they don't hit/name calletc. but DO NOT solve the issue for them. Possibly give them paper and have them write out ideas to solve the issue. Even if they say they don't care about it anymore tell them if they are willing to start a physical fight or argument over it then they're going to have to learn to work things out.



If one child is more overbearing make sure to ask the one who isn't as agressive if the solution was really solved, if he say well I guess... say it doesn't sound like things are worked out and make them go figure things out. Make sure the room is somewhere small with little distractions. So even the bathroom if you have to.



If they realize that EVERY time you hear them fighting you're going to force them to work out their issues they may just decide it's not even worth the effort. If it's something important they're learning how to work things out between each other.



Once again though, if there is a physical altercation make a consequence to both of them so they know that fighting will not be accepted and they will still be made to sit with each other until a solution is found. If they refuse to have a solution with each other I would put them in their seperate rooms (or seperate rooms in the house if they share a room) and not allow them an privilages until they decide to work things out.



Good luck!

Tracey - posted on 11/29/2010

http://www.risingchild.com/group/viewdis... this link is some advice from other moms who are dealing with the children who are fighting all the time. I hope that you are able to sort it out.