I have a 15 year old daughter who is destructive....

Terry - posted on 04/28/2009

actually when she was younger we did the whole placement therapy it helped a bit she learned to control her behaviours better but we still have alot of issues such as her not being able to get her anxiety down about school she hasnt attended for too long and no one seems to give a hoot. im back trying to get her into another program that covers all the basis and get her back on anti depressants and hoping for an anti anxiety tab for those times when she feels like she is getting out of control she knows her triggers its getting her to be able to work with them before she blows.
I Know the hospitalization is scary for you its not easy and you have to think long and hard is she hurting herself is she in any danger and do you need the much needed break so you can rejuvinate and be the woman you need to be. the thing is we tend to worry so much about our kids we forget about ourselves and we cant we have to take time for us or we become soo involved and so stuck with their issues we start to have problems and want to break down. I hope you have a good support system its very important and dont forget that you can take time out for you. itssomething i struggle with all the time and rarely do but its very important.

MaryEllen - posted on 04/28/2009

You actually have some very insightful ideas!! I never thought of emailing.

My daughter suffers as well from anxiety. Her's is socially based as well. She get very over stimulated in crowded situations, and cannot recognize her triggers.

Does your daughter see a therapist? Mine does. It has been mentioned to me that a short hospital stay might be a good idea. I am not sure how I feel about this though.

Has that ever been suggested to you???

Terry - posted on 04/27/2009

my daughter and son are both destructive my daughter who is also 15 does the same thing not as often any more thank goodness. I find walking away and letting her work it out is the easiest on me lol. That said she also no longer has an audience to perform her outburst on. My daughter has O.D.D., A.D.D., and extreme social anxiety. I also found emailing her is easiest to talk to her about things when she gets like that and she actually reads and hears what i say when we do that.
getting her on her own turf seems to be something that helps keep lines of communication open without having the arguments moms and daughters have let alone with the added crap we deal with
hope this helps a bit
Terry

Laura - posted on 04/08/2009

My 16 year old son is the same way. I wish I had advice. We make monthly visits to the ER for either manic (destructive) or depressive (suicidal) behavior. It is tiring, I know.