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I need some advice.. My son is four years old and has ADHD. He has a problem with lying and stealing candy and hiding it in his room. We have tired everything, he also has a problem with tearing up his toys and his cousins toys. I don't know what to do!!!!! Please help

Melissa - posted on 05/21/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Tyler - posted on 07/18/2012

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You probably should try to find out what sort of things he likes or what toys he likes. If he's tearing up the toys you bought him, then chances are he doesn't like what sort they are. This is a harder case because he is at such a young age, however, this is definetly the time which is most crucial for him since he's learning the most now. Try buying him a variety of different things and watch closley how he initially responds to each item to get a sense of what he may like. With reguards to the lying and stealing you may be able to try a sort of tactic where if you notice him playing nicley you stronlgy praise him and perhaps reward him with a piece of candy. This could get through to his mind that acting or playing nicley will give him better results in life. I wouldn't have very much candy in the house right now to begin with, becuase you should try to show him that he isn't always just going to have access to whatever he wants especially when misbehaving . This might seem extremely diffcult for both you and him at first but know that however difficult it is at first, that it's still a step foward, that's the amount of progress you'd be making. The key right now since he is so young is to appear strong and tough but in a loving and consistent way. Each time he's acting out you should view as an oppurtunity and a chance to teach and move in the right direction. The more you stick to all this and keep charging confidently through the growing pains you will endure ; that will be the more long term progress you'll be making for both you and especially your son.

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