New to group just wondering if anyone is in same situation.

Kasei - posted on 03/27/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Jahel started having seizures while I was pregnant with him. He was seizing when he was born and has done so every since. He is 3 1/3 and has been hospitalized uncountable times and coded atleast 5. Has had many eegs, mris, cts , genetics testing, the regular work ups, inner crannial eeg, complete corpus colosotomy, and just had the VNS put in.

The complete corput colosotomy was soppose to stop his granmal (sp) seizures and it did for a bit but here over the last week he has went status 2 times and for hours at a time. One Dr. told me it was ok to keep him at home and just give him his buckle( valum) and watch him if he turns colors then call 911. The other came unglued when I relayed this info yesterday. His VNS got turned on yesterday so we are hoping something good happens with this. All of his Drs. have given him a life span of 5yrs. He seems to be going downhill here lately the seizures are picking up and meds levels are going toxic so we lower them then get levels down a bit and he has been on over 10 different meds and med combos. The have flat told us the only thing left to try is another inner crannial eeg because one side of his brain has 1 actve seizure hot spot the other side has 2 and they think the side with the 2 are feeding off each other. If the VNS dosne't work in 3mnths was the original plan then yesterday they tell me a month they are gonna start working him up for the next inner crannial eeg and possible lobe removal. I went through this once he coded 2 times from resp distress and the pain he looked like he was in made me hurst everyday. As a mom I know we have to suck it up and that God gave us our special children for a reason and Jahel is a happy loving boy who even though he cant say more than 5 words you can understand still gets his point across. He loves to kick the soccer ball and play with his balls, blocks , and cars. The fact that the thought of loosing him has been made so blunt even though we have been told from the start it's just getting to me more and more each day. I have 2 other children as well and It's very hard to make a 6yr old understand why we can't go to the park because Jahel had a bad night and can't stop shaking or sit up straight without falling over. Things like that get her so frusterated. How dose one deal with this without the other kids always getting put on the back burner. Sorry for this being so long I guess I had alot I needed to get off my chest to people who understand. Thanks

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Michelle - posted on 03/29/2009

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HI Kaseli I do agree w/ what Mandy is saying. See if u can get respite care for ur son. I have a daughter who is 17 and she is mentally retardated, has a seizures disorder and Austium she is not potty-trained and she does not speak at all she goes to a special school and needs help w/ everything! So I will not say that I'm in the same boat as u but I do feel ur pain and sadness because I am still there w/ my daughter. I just started to going to support group meetings and my daughter is 1 of the oldest and I still learn new things and it has helped me so much just to talk to other parents that have children w/ problems. Please find out about the waives in ur state I live in Va and we have 6 here and u have to c which ones u can get and they offer services for u and ur child. This takes a while so start ASAP. I also have a son who is ok he is 13 and while he was growing up i had respite care for 16 hours per week and I used them ever sat and sun so me and Josh did do the normal things that my daughter can't be a part of .Ask any questions or if u just need to talk I will listen! Good Luck!

Michelle - posted on 03/29/2009

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HI Kaseli I do agree w/ what Mandy is saying. See if u can get respite care for ur son. I have a daughter who is 17 and she is mentally retardated, has a seizures disorder and Austium she is not potty-trained and she does not speak at all she goes to a special school and needs help w/ everything! So I will not say that I'm in the same boat as u but I do feel ur pain and sadness because I am still there w/ my daughter. I just started to going to support group meetings and my daughter is 1 of the oldest and I still learn new things and it has helped me so much just to talk to other parents that have children w/ problems. Please find out about the waives in ur state I live in Va and we have 6 here and u have to c which ones u can get and they offer services for u and ur child. This takes a while so start ASAP. I also have a son who is ok he is 13 and while he was growing up i had respite care for 16 hours per week and I used them ever sat and sun so me and Josh did do the normal things that my daughter can't be a part of .Ask any questions or if u just need to talk I will listen! Good Luck!

Mandy - posted on 03/29/2009

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hi kalei,



 



does the usa not have respite care from the child welfare dept,whereby a trained volunteer takes Jahel for 2 or so hrs a week,so you can devote that time to your other children?



we do have this in he uk.



 



I have personally trained 2 seperate friends and 2 seperate relatives to deal with my daughter so my other 5 kids get some attention too, the neurology nurses at my local hospital were very happy to help with this.



you can always ask your neurology nurses to do this  as it helps parental carers in the long run