Karen - posted on 04/29/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
Ok, so we have, after waiting for three years, finally met with the govt/health body that is completing the FASD assessment. To date, we have met the the main party arranging the assessment, pschologist and pediatrician. The pschologist has now arranged for a very needed meeting with the child pshychiatrist because the problems that we have discussed were very evident during the 5-hour meeting with our son. That being said, when we met with the pediatrician on Monday, feeling far more comfortable with the process, that comfort was quickly replaced with shame, unfound guilt and embarrassement while my crediability as a human and integrity as a parent were "stripped" all because of some bruises on his back resulting from him slamming the faucet in the bathtub-the bruises all clustered in a square shape/faucet (need I mention that he is five years old, has a twin brother and no sense of fear=normal to see bruises on this kid)! There were so many accusatory questions thrown at me as if to determine that the problems with our son are a result of bad parenting and not the drugs and alcohol that were consumed by birth mom during the pregnancy or non existent nutrition and dr. involvement or the lack of oxygen during birth as well as through his open-heart surgery when he was only a few days old!! Now I am absolutely panic stricken to attend the psychiatrist appointment and feel just sick about having to see this dr. again at the final meeting when the diagnosis (s) is revealed. Did anyone else have this or a smiliar situation and if so, did you put in a complaint or is it just me feeling so low about this situation and the constant chaos that we have been living with over theh past four years?