Lorenza - posted on 03/28/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi, I am the adoptive mother of FAS twins. They were born at 26 weeks and one of that had 2 strokes as a baby. They are now 8 years old and doing wonderfully! My problem is that I have one that has all the developmental delays and physical problems and one that has all the behavioral problems. We are gearing up for our annual IEP meeting with my one. She is ADHD, has Executive Dysfunction and Sensory Integration Dysfunction. I'm sure at some point we will have an anxiety disorder or bipolar diagnosis but not yet. I've finally been able to get the therapists and her resource room teacher to recognize that the issues we have are NOT ADHD related. She is medicated for that and it helps to calm her and focus to a point. It's not a cure all and I think that the schools thinks it should be. I have done ton of research on dealing with the behaviors such as stealing and anger but nothing seems to work. She doesn't understand consequences and doesn't get cause and effect which is typical. I can't not discipline her for taking things but she just doesn't understand. At home I try not to make it a huge issue and we refer to a "feelings chart" now so she can try to recognize different levels of her actions.
At school, I can't seem to get the principals and regular ed teachers to understand what she is capable of and what she isn't. Taking a recess away from her or making her write an apology to a classmate does not work with her, she doesn't get that what she is being made to do is a consequence of what she did 20 mins ago. I want to know if anyone has had any of these issues and found a strategy that has worked? Sticker charts, reward systems, lose of privileges do not work with her.
Thank you all!