When Did You Think There Was Something Different About Your Child?

Marna - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I realized that something was different about my son when he began reading at the age of three, shortly after he began to talk. And from there it's been utterly amazing!

He was identified this year as profoundly gifted, and are hanging on for the ride, as this is exciting, frustrating, scary, all rolled into one!

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FERNANDA - posted on 01/21/2012

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My daughter was born stiff, crawled and walked early. She thinks differently, is very creative and has lots of imagination. Responds promptly any question and have an advanced vocabulary for his age. It has a wonderful motor skills, knowing pinching a pencil since 6 months old. She knows the alphabet and count to 20 and from 2 years to 10 and a few English words. Learned to write his name alone and now three years is able to write any capital letter, so you write a word is spelled. (I am Brazilian and I live in Brazil)

Heather - posted on 03/09/2011

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I noticed that my daughter was different was when she held her head up as a newborn and she was reaching milestones alot faster then "average" babies. She started drawing at an early age and was drawing with detail at the age of 3 in preschool. I also remember her carrying conversations with adults and they understood her and she wasn't even 2 yet. She is in 7th grade and is in 9th grade level math and accelerated classes.

Sarah - posted on 04/28/2010

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I want to talk about your kids! My friends seem to get jealous and so I am careful who I share their accomplishments with. I need friends who will be happy for my children.

Melissa - posted on 04/10/2010

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I noticed Carson was different right away, but not that he was gifted. As an infant, he slept a lot less (ugh!) than he was 'supposed' to, he got bored with toys fast, and he hated to be faced in the same direction for long. He started speaking in complete sentences before he was 12 months, walked at 9 months and gets along swimmingly with older children and adults...except with teachers of his preschool classes! I don't get it. He has been disenrolled from one school, and creates active dislike from authority figures. He is sweet, charming and funny. However, he doesn't follow rules that don't make sense to him, and he already-at 4-thinks he knows everything. I love him to pieces/he's driving me crazy. ♥

Tavane - posted on 03/13/2010

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It took about a year to get our son tested. In FLA they do Part 1 Sages and Part 2 IQ. We knew he passed the sages and so was sent on for the IQ part. We just found out Friday that he passed the IQ test. The school called. You know what happens when the school calls, your heart sinks, you wonder if he is sick or got hurt...but ti was actually good news.

Melody - posted on 10/19/2009

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Mara actually seemed to be a bit behind, at least compared to what my mom had written in my baby books. She was in speech therapy at two and that is when they discovered she had sensory integration problems. Once therapy started, her speech developed very quickly. After knowing her letters since about 18 mos, she finally started reading at 4. (This seemed late because my husband and I were reading at 2.) The funny thing was, no one taught her. Waiting for the doctor at her 4 year visit, she counted to 116. She started kindergarten this year and they had to move her to the first grade class because she was so bored she shut down and was becoming and discipline issue. They haven't tested her for gifted yet, but I am told that can take a year in our district. But she is doing well in first grade, even if she still says the work is easy.

Alicia - posted on 08/19/2009

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Our son was always attentive and alert even at only a few months old. when he began to read at about 2 we had a feeling he was going to be a quick learner. now he is 3 1/2 and has decided to branch out into learning other languages (Greek, Hebrew, Japanese, Mandarin, Arabic, Russian, Spanish and French) Most of them captured his interest because he has a dictionary that lists a few different alphabets on the page that defines the word alphabet, but the rest he is picking up because various family members have studied them. He studies their alphabets and numbering systems and is now moving onto colors and basic phrases. I spend my free time trying to find materials for him to work with (youtube videos are an awesome source of basic language tutoring) .

He started at a new Montessori school a couple of months ago. The principal identified him as gifted after our first meeting and they are slowly figuring out how to keep up with him. He doesn't relate all that well with his peers, but luckily Montessori schools have somewhat of a mixed age environment. I am hoping this school will be a good fit, but am keeping a close eye on things.

Lately he has been reluctant to go to school and I am not sure if this is just a phase of separation anxiety or if he truly is unhappy with the school. I anticipate it will always be somewhat difficult to figure out if problems stem from normal developmental issues or from being gifted.

Kim - posted on 07/25/2009

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My daughter is 8yo and has been in a gifted program since 1st grade. Her pediatrician and our gifted teacher neighbor both recommended early on to have her tested. So we have he first hurdle down! My biggest problem with her is socially like some of the others on the board. She is very controlling and bossy. She gets along with older kids much easier. She is has a very strong type A personallity. So much a perfectionist that she often is the last one to finish assignments because she starts over for writing one letter sloppy. This past year my husband and I got to a point where we were taking her to a social worker. In addition to her behavior socially she was having strong anxiety attacks to fears. The social work and gifted classes have helped her calm down and deal with things (coping skills they call it). I have found that I can't control much of how they deal with her at school. There are only 3 identified children in all the elementary grades. They aren't going to change the cirriculm to suit her needs. The gifted program helps because it gets her thinking "outside the box" not so much black and white (which is where her frustration comes in...waiting for everyone to get it). My best advice for you parents with preschool aged kids and younger is not to focus on learning the basics(reading, math, writing they are going to do that anyway). They are going to master that in school and then be bored. I am hoping this year my daughter will finally start to learn something for the past 3 years it has been review. Encourage music, arts, and sports, group activities (especially for the ones with social issues). My daughter is at the point that she won't attempt anything she is not confident she can master and be better than everyone else. It's that fear and OCD part of her personality which is not uncommon with gifted children. She isn't used to someone else being better than her at things because mostly up to this point it was all developmental and educational. I am so glad to have aplace where we can share ideas! As others have said it is hard to talk to other parents about our kids. Besides the bragging they think we have it easy.

Jodi - posted on 07/13/2009

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My son is almost 4 now and started reading a couple months ago. He's been reciting books almost since he started talking (the wildest example was Mike Mulligan and his Steamshovel- he had it memorized word for word) I couldn't believe it. Since then, he's basically taught himself how to read. We talked a little about the sounds that letters make and he put it all together from there. Now he's going back through all his books and sounding out the words. I've been fortunate in that my husband was always gifted and so my mom-in-law has lots of advice and support for us. The one complication is that my son has been diagnosed with PDD-NOS. It's an autism spectrum disorder and they think he has something like Aspergers. It makes things really challenging. On one hand having a child so smart who has such a difficult time with the littlest change in routine.

reading some of the posts here. i found it very interesting the number of moms mentioning that their child was a late talker. my son was late talking too. he was almost 2 and her first word was "who is that?" and within 3 mos his vocab exploded. it was almost like he didn't want to speak until he new he could do it right. he would never try to say a word. i'm finding all of this really fascinating and look forward to reading more of your stories.

my big question is what to do about school. he's already reading at a 1st grade level and we've got 3 yrs before he's even in first grade. not sure how i'm going to keep up with him. :-)

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Chase did not really talk till he was almost 3, I had his hearing tested because I was beginning to think he was deaf! But when he did start speaking it was perfect complete sentences. To the point where he was correcting us! In first grade his teacher showed us how he thinks differently using addition. he can "see" the answer and has to work back to the problem. we have trouble with that still in school because he just "knows" the answer. He is not sure how he knows it but its always right.

Adrienne - posted on 04/16/2009

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My daughter Faithian began talking at the age of two months and walked at six months. Read by the age of two. She continues to amaze me with her sarcastic humor and her charm. Age eight and loves to read books like a tree grows in brooklyn and other classics. She does hate to do homework though. She can't grasp that she has to prove herself through homework. Her response, " I get 100's on my tests, apparently I don't need to practice." Apparently she is gifted at procrastination, too.

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I suspect my 4 year old son is gifted. He is very well spoken and people say they have never seen a kid as good at reading, spelling and numbers at his age. He has a passion for learning and he teaches himself as I am not gifted in any way. He does however, have a really big problem with behaviour even though I refuse to spoil him and I enforce discipline. Do other parents have this problem with their gifted children or am I just a bad mother of a gifted child?

Tamara - posted on 04/12/2009

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I agree at age three I figure he was developing mentally quicker than his peers in the pre school setting .Shortly after that the family doctor suggested the issue of the possibility of him being gifted.The signs just seem to become more noticed to all as he became older.

Stephanie - posted on 03/25/2009

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I have LOVED reading all of your posts! It is such a relief to see stories SO much like ours! It makes it hard to talk to other parents, they think you are just bragging when you need peer support, too!

I was concerned about OCD/autism spectrum, too. Jade also had some balance issues (hated the baby swing and riding in the car!) and did not like her feet off the ground once she started walking.

Her kindergarten teacher sent a note home to me that she was worried about her social behavior and that she was going to go ahead and have her start doing AR books/tests to give her a bit more of a challenge. This freaked me out a little... since I had been concerned about this to begin with. When I had a conference with the teacher, the social behavior she was referring to was 1)correcting & telling on other kids in the class 2)interrupting during lessons 3)holding a grudge for a week or two towards a classmate she was frustrated with 4)doodling or talking instead of doing her worksheets (which were alphabet/printing... all a review for her). I was actually relieved at this explanation! It seems more like a frustration and boredom to me. Once they finished the alphabet and sight words (which she knew before starting preK) things have been better. She loves their free writing time.

She told me last week that they just play at school now that they are "finished learning everything!" =D

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Dear Mindi,Thankyou so much for the advice,it really did help and it is nice to get some feed back from other people who are in the same boat.I have got her some school books for her to learn from and enjoy,but i do try to make sure we do 3 year old activities as welll,walks,park,playdoh and dressing up etc.As she is so advanced with everything it is so easy ro forget she is only 3.

Mindi - posted on 03/07/2009

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Joanne, your daughter definitely sounds like she is gifted. As she is gifted, she will learn much on her own. Remember that although she is advanced in many ways, she is still 3, so make sure she still does 3-year-old things. Gifted children often miss developmental milestones because they advance so rapidly, and that will cause further problems down the line. The best thing you can do for her is to provide her with a variety of learning opportunities, i.e. playdates with friends (crucial for her social develpment, and is often difficult for gifted kids), museums, books about high-interest subjects for her, hands-on activities (don't skip these because she is able to read and write, as they are also crucial to her develpment). If possible, request a teacher for her that is knowledgable about gifted students. Speak to her teacher about her abilities before school even starts and find out what learning opportunities are available to her at her level. Be prepared to fight for what she needs in school. Gifted kids who are not challenged in elementary school often have difficulties later in high school and college when the material is finally challenging. But most of all, just love her as she is and don't worry too much about what you need to "do" for her. I think the best thing we can do for our kids is to make sure they are emotionally stable as they deal with everything that comes their way. Hope this is helpful.

Deanna - posted on 03/07/2009

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Since Ella was our first born we didn't know that what she was doing was advanced. When she was 18 months old she could count to 20 in english, 10 in spanish and german, she new all of her shapes (including trapizod, hexagon, octagon, etc). People would tell us she is advanced but we didn't pay any attention to it. Then at the age of 2 she was reading. That was when we got her tested. She is now 5 and is reading at a 4th grade level. We can't keep up with her. What is so hard on us is finding a school that will teach her at her pace and not the classes pace and then also we get many negative remarks from people when we tell them our child is gifted.

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i am hoping for some feed back,i think my 3 year old daughter is gifted.She knows all her colours and shades of colours,all shapes and explains why they are that shape.she can count to 100,knows her alphabet and recognises them as well.She draws really well,there is alot of detail in her art and she draws her shapes perfectly,she id writing words without having to copy(such as granny shelia etc)and her hand writing is neater than mine.She does not stop talking and needs constant things to do otherwise she gets teasy,Please tell me if this normal for a 3 year old or if you think she is gifted,and if so what do i do

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Hello all!! I am so excited to be apart of this group. It will be a relief to talk to other parents that experience the things I do.. Other parents just don't understand.. :( My son is also the REAL deal.. He gets along well with older children and the ones in his age group seem to frustrate him. He is also very unorganized, which I have learned is a trait of gifted individuals.. YIKES!! :) I am happy that I am his mother and look forward to watching him develop, focus, and be successful in all he does. I look forward to this group.

Kona - posted on 03/03/2009

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My little one is still only 9 months old but has proven to our doctor and infant development specialist that she is months ahead of the crowd. To help her along I have started her on a reading program... she should be reading in the next year. Also, she is starting to catch on to sign language.
Azalia is a social butterfly... she loves interacting with people and never plays shy. However, she gets frustrated with kids her own age and prefers to play with older kids.

Mindi - posted on 03/02/2009

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She spoke very early. She has always had an amazing vocabulary and appears to be older than she is. She began reading at 4 and was reading at the fourth grade level by age 6. She always asks profound questions - she is always thinking about things on a deep level. She too gets along very well with older children, which is very common for gifted children. Most of their age-level peers don't relate to things the way they do. We are trying to find other friends who are also gifted as they would likely relate well to each other.

Lorianne - posted on 02/26/2009

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I have noticed there is something different about my kids, but I wasn't really sure what to do about it. I have 10 kids, and 4 so far have been identified as talented and gifted, and 3 twice exceptional and 2 others I am sure will be identified as gifted once they start school. They just have a desire to learn EVERYTHING. They question everything which can be exasperating as a parent, they tend to have adult conversations and talk about things that others wouldn't understand or dream of until 18. It is exciting and scary and lonely. No one ever wants to talk about your kids and it is hard because you are so proud of them.

Hayley - posted on 02/23/2009

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I too noticed VERY young that both my kids are not your typical (what ever age they are at the time). Now I have an almost 5yo and a 19mo and they each have different strengths. My youngest has very spacial and artistic skills and my oldest is reading and doing small math problems (simple division, addition, and subtraction). We do have social issues with my son, the 5yo. He tends to get frustrated with other kids and hits them, especially if they are too into pretend, that really annoys him. but with older kids, he does great! So, I think there is hope, we just need to get him around some peers.

Lauren - posted on 02/10/2009

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I knew at about 3 months old. I was worried about autism/asperger's, but he's definitely not that. He always responded, reacted, and was very aware of everything, so at about 6 months I dismissed that. But there was just SOMETHING I couldn't put my finger on. We had him tested recently and he's just operating on a different level than most!! :)

That's interesting that your child read, then spoke. My little one hardly spoke until almost 3, and read at 3.5/4.

I'm interested in any social issues you may have noticed with your child. And if your child is gifted in any certain area(s)? I'm just learning about all this stuff and like you said, hanging on for the ride.

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