5 year old daughter driving me nuts screaming all the time....

Melissa - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




Ok, Larissa is driving me nuts screaming all of the time. I have tried time out, spankings, soap in mouth, everything i can think of. She screams all the time and i don't know how much longer i can take it, i'm going crazy. She screams for no reason. You try to talk to her she screams, her brother tries to play with her she screams. She doesn't get her way she screams......it's endless at the things that make her scream. Girls, i'm loosing it with her. Any suggestions?


Sharalyn - posted on 11/12/2009




Sounds like she is trying to get attention. Let her know her behavior is unacceptable, even if she screams while you are telling her this. And let her know that she has to 'scream' alone in her room and not with the family because all of you disapproves of her behavior. If she continues to scream, put her in her room, alone and let her scream it out. She'll get the idea. If she screams even for a second when she has been out her room, put her back in there. Make it extremely clear that you will not reward bad behavior. Hope this helps.

Kelly - posted on 11/13/2009




I think I would explain to her ONCE that when she screams it is not pleasant for other people, and you will not put up with it. I would explain that if she screams, she will go to her room and shut the door, and if she wants to be with the family she has to stop. Then, the first time she screams I wouldn't say a word, I would just walk over, take her hand, take her to her room, and shut the door. I would keep doing that until it works. She really will grow out of it, I'm sure, but I know you want to "grow her out of it" as quickly as possible! This advice is meant for the 5-year-old though, not for Jackie's 13-month-old, because at that age she really can't understand what she is doing wrong. My youngest daughter was VERY clingy and needy, so I understand how that can be. It will get better! But at 13 months she just knows that she "needs" you, and she hasn't developed any patience yet. So you have to have enough patience for both of you HAHA! I always cleaned my bathrooms when she was napping, for that very reason, because she always had to be in the room with me. My girls (7 and 3) get really loud when playing too. I'm thinking I am noticing it more because the weather has been bad and they can't go outside much. Being cooped up is making me crazy too! Good luck ladies, we WILL get through the winter months with our sanity intact LOL!


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Holly - posted on 10/22/2010




I could help holly here mom of three girls ages 4,6, and 12 lets chat next time that happens due this stand next to her and when she starts yelling stand next to her and due like she does after a few minutes she will stop keep mimicing her she will she her self in a new way then she calms down explain to her we dont due that then email for more idea's thanks holly

Julie - posted on 10/21/2010




my little girl is 3 and can be such a diva, and can throw a tantrum for england, but i tend to ignore her,as i find it is done for attention, she calms down soon enough,when she realises no one is taking any notice of her

Cara - posted on 11/13/2009




My 5 year old is finally getting better! Thank goodness!!! She started at about 4 1/2, I'm talking slamming doors, the whole nine yards! I think they are preparing us for the teenage years. I have 3 boys and my youngest is the only girl, so it has been a challenge to say the least. I am very firm about Mommy meaning business. I do a lot of re-directing and I put her favorite things in a bin, then make her earn them back with good behavior. I use a behavior chart as well...she loves stickers. Try doing some of these things, also I have noticed when I get stressed over her acting out, she gets worse! Try your best to stay calm and ignoring does work!

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My 13 month old will scream and cry and want to be picke dup, always at the most inopportune times. Usually when I'm scrubbing the toilet with bleach, or cookiong over a hot stove. Today she was tired and kept tripping over and then she sliped twice on the tiles because I had to wipe the floor because the cheese she mooshed in to everything attracted meat ants right away. I gave her a quick bath, crying, I breast fed her, crying. It's probably becuase she has a small viral cold after her vaccinations last wekk, but today she was just pushing all my buttons. I was actually yelling at her telling her to go away and leave me alone and that I can't deal wqith her at the moment. She's 13 months old, and I know she didn't understand, but man she was driving me nuts. I finally ended up going to the bedroom and putting a pillow over my head to drown out her cries and tried taking some deep breaths, She was crying and walking through the whole house looking for me. After I did that, I felt I was able to pick her up and comfort her. After that she was fine.

Nikki - posted on 10/07/2009




I agree--Ignore her--she's doing it for attention--and if your reacting, then she's getting attention (even if it is negative) -- Ignore her and give her positive, reinforcing attention when she's not screaming.

Sharon - posted on 10/07/2009




I have 4.5 and 6 year old girls. It gets CRAZY at our place when they both get screaming! I sometimes tell them that the game they are playing is too loud and send them to another room to play with the door closed, or send them outside if the weather is alright. Other than that, I just pray there will be an end to this loud phase.

User - posted on 10/07/2009




OMG! My 5 year old daughter McKenna is doing the same thing right now! It's driving me crazy too!

Felecia - posted on 10/05/2009




I know how that feels. My now 9 yr old used to be like that. i found the only thing that worked for me was to ignore her. The more I reacted the more she would scream. Its really hard not to react but give it a go. You have nothing to lose.

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