Is anyone having problems with cliques with girls in First grade?

Nancy - posted on 01/08/2009

Listening is a great tool. My daughter wants her feelings to be validated and she needs to express her feelings. I urge parents to take the time to do this with your kids (girls) and support them. My daughter invited ALL the kids in her class to her upcoming bd party, mean girls and all. It was her choice. I'm so proud of my little 6 year old.

Jessica - posted on 01/08/2009

It is completly normal. I have a 6th grader and a 7th grader and of course it is still ongoing. I encourage mulitple friendships to help discourage this but enevitably it will continue. 2 weeks ago my 7th grader was BFF's with this girl 1 week agothey weren't talking now this week they are friends again. The best thing you can do is listen and read between the lines.

Sarah - posted on 01/07/2009

I still remember the very real pain in year 4 of having a group of 'friends' decide I wasn't one of them anymore. My daughter is 5 and sometimes comes home with the same thing happening to her. I think it is good for parents to encourage friendships with many people rather than fostering the idea of 'special friends' that way they always have other friends to play with if a particular girl or group is feeling particularly clicky or mean.

Nancy - posted on 01/04/2009

It's nice to hear that my daughter isn't the only one. Not that I want anyone to go through this. I'm dreading the teen stage.

Caroline - posted on 01/04/2009

Same thing is happening with my 6 yr old daughter in 1st grade. One week so and so won't play with her and isn't her friend. The next week, the same girl will play with her but not with the other, it's never ending! Her teacher told me it's normal and she's been teaching 1st grade for 20 years. I think they just use the word "friend" too liberally and don't know what it really means.

Charlene - posted on 01/02/2009

OMG I was wondering if anyone else was experiencing the same thing. I can't believe how young this starts...guess we better brace ourselves LOL

Nancy - posted on 12/31/2008

It's awful! I wish schools would address it more.

Judy - posted on 12/30/2008

Yes! It's amazing how young they start! My daughter is in 2nd grade, and I'm always hearing about how so and so and so and so want to play with each other but didn't want to play with me today. I hate to say it, but I find that young girls can sometimes be a bit cruel to each other!