Pierce ears and paint nails?

Megan - posted on 05/02/2010 ( 68 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3 months old and my friend wants to pierce my daughers ears and paint her nails. I think 3 months is to young maybe when she is 3 years old or older. What do you think is a good age?

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Debra - posted on 06/26/2011

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I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. My husband & I agreed right off the bat that we would not pierce her ears. We think it's unfair to the child to hold her still just to pierce her ears. Plus I don't have the time to clean her ears as often as they would need to be. Plus, I think about how much she screamed everytime she went the DR's & got shots. We had to hold her down & she'd get the shots. That's exactly what we'd have to do to pierce her ears. I cry when she gets shots & that's for her health. There's no way I'd cause her that discomfort & pain just for looks. We decided she'll get her ears pierced when she's ready. :)

Melissa - posted on 05/17/2010

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i have a six month old daughter and i paint her toe nails when she is napping, but she always has her fingers in her mouth so i wouldnt paint her finger nails. as for ear piercing my husband came up with the idea that we should wait until she is old enough to remember the pain so that she wont want to get a ton of body piercings lol!

Nadedja - posted on 05/16/2010

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Hmmm...well, I pierced my daughters ears at an early age--they're twins. One took--the other got infected, so I had to take them out. However, before I had them pierced, I wanted them professionally done, so I called a professional body piercing shop. They informed me that they do not believe in piercing anyone's body without verbal consent from the individual--since it is their body. But, like so many moms, I found another place--a kiosk in a mall--BIG MISTAKE! They pierced one of my daughter's ear crookedly, and the other daughter's ear was so infected from the piercing she had to be put in antibiotics. In the end, I just decided to take all earrings out and let them decide when they are 12--when they are old enough to accept the consequences. I understand the urge to do all the girlie things, but I agree that it is better to wait--avoid causing them pain--you will tear up watching them in pain--let them decide--some people don't even like to wear earrings.

Iysha - posted on 01/16/2011

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I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was 4 months. We first painted her toes at 1 yr for her birthday =] nailpolish is only toxic if they eat it...so I don't put it on her fingers since she still has her fingers in her mouth. We paint nails when we're going to birthday parties, christmas, family gathering, going to visit someone special, etc. not all the time, but often enough.



I also wanted to add that my daughter has started to get the earring holder and give it to me to change her earrings for her! it's the cutest thing ♥ she's 18 months.

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Kim - posted on 01/02/2012

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sorry i dont agree with piercing babies ears but it is purely a personal choice i have a 3 year old daughter and wont be piercing her ears til she is older and can decide for herself i was 9 when i had mine done so she will be allowed anytime after then.

Beth - posted on 12/29/2011

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DD is 9.5 yo and we still haven't done her ears yet. Maybe when she's 10 but I've told her it won't happen till she's 13.

Our friend did her DD at 3mths old. Not our choice but it was hers. You need to do what you and your DH are comfortable with.

When DD was 2.5 or 3 she wanted to have her nails painted just like mommy - so we used clear or very pale colours on her when she was that small.

Amber - posted on 08/31/2011

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im waiting to get my daughter's ears pierced until she's old enough to ask for it and be responsible about cleaning them (probably around 7 or 8...idk yet). in my opinion, it's not much different than circumcising a boy. they're both invasive procedures done for aesthetic purposes.

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Its not about beautifying them. My daughter is perfect and so beautiful and i paint her fingernails and its just another way for us to bond and its fun and cute! Its not like i think my daughter needs cotton candy pink on her fingernails to be pretty. Thats all i mean its not that serious. . . well to me anyways thats just strictly my opinion

Toni - posted on 08/18/2011

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I dont see the point of piercing ears and painting nails when they are that age. They are babies, not toys.
When she gets older and starts showing an interest in that stuff, then go for it, but while they are that young and innocent there is no need to beautify them

Kaylee - posted on 08/13/2011

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i got my daughters ears peirced when she was 4mths and panted her nails about 10 mths and she will be three in about 3wks

Stephanie - posted on 06/29/2011

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my daughter had her ears pierced at 3 months. I just painted her nails for the first time and she is now 2! my husband and I wanted to get her ears pierced at 3 months because she wouldnt remember the pain when she is older! although I agree painting her nails at 3 months I personally wouldnt do. at that age they are still puttig their fingers in their mouth and if the paint were to chip who knows what would happen!

Lacey - posted on 06/08/2011

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I got my oldest daughters ears pierced at 6 weeks old and it was the best thing i could have done becasue they dont play with there ears because the earings have always been there! i also have a 10 week old who we are hoping to get her ears done soon as well!

Amanda - posted on 04/22/2011

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For painting the toe nails I started doing my daughters once she was about 19 months i think. I do them when she asks to have them done and then she wants me to do mine. I do it because she likes doing the mommy and me thing....As for the ears, my husband and I agreed we are going to wait until she tells us she wants them.

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OH and my girl is gonna be nine months now. And i dont use the "safe" nailpolish just regular stff and i dont paint her little nails cuz she moves to much and i think its a little much but i love painting her little toes!! :*)

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I dont have a problem with piercing ears young. however i havent pierced my daughters yet but i just havent gotten around to it. I painted my daughters toe nails when she was 5 months and i still do :D

Lori - posted on 04/19/2011

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I have been painting my daughter's toenails since she was 3 weeks old and got her ears pierced at 3 months. As a mother of 2 older boys I was very excited to do the girly things. My daughter never even noticed her ears were pierced and as for her personal choice, she can always take them out if she chooses too.

Schmoopy - posted on 03/03/2011

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Who is all this for??? Not your daughter, that's for sure. She couldn't care less if her ears were pierced and her nails were polished. Clearly this is something that adults do for their own amusement. Personally, I think it's degrading to children.



I wouldn't even consider doing anything like that until your daughter expresses an interest herself. And even then it might be too early.



My rule of thumb about ear piercing is: When she's old enough to take care of her own ears, then she's old enough to have her ears pierced.



Painted nails are a tremendous distraction to preschoolers. I would def not do it until she's 7 or 8. And even then, reserve it for special occasions and weekends. REMOVE IT for school!!!

Kathryn - posted on 02/25/2011

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Rei didn't get her ears pierced until she was 6, and it was by choice. But whatever you want. Painting nails is fine. It's not permanent. It may be a bit more difficult to get earrings in when they're that young.

Marylea - posted on 02/22/2011

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I personally don't agree with piercing infant's ears. I think it shouldn't be done until the child can ask to have it done. As soon as my daughter (now 22months) asks to have her ear pierced I'll take her to get it done but not before then. As for painting nails, I first painted my daughter's toe nails when she was around 6 months old. I probably would have painted them sooner but she was in the hospital until she was 4 months old. I paint her toes every so often for fun but have never painted her finger nails because I don't want her to put her painted nails in her mouth. I wouldn't want her to chew the polish off and ingest it.



I think that its totally up to you what age you do those things with your daughter and you shouldn't let your friend pressure you into doing them until you feel she's old enough.



Marylea

Jess - posted on 02/21/2011

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on ear piercing: when she is old enough to want it herself
on finger painting: when you feel comfortable that she won't put her hands in her mouth!

Niki - posted on 02/17/2011

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I have a two year old and an 11 month old and they both have their ears pierced. My two year old asked to have them done because she wanted earrings like me, so i thought that it would be best to do both children at the same time. I had to wait until my youngest was nine months old because the local jeweler wouldnt do it any younger. I feel like it is better to either have it done while they are under a year or over 5, because the process was very tough for my two year old, while my nine month old barely cried. For the first week or so i had to struggle with my two year old during cleanings while the baby hardly noticed. Both healed very quickly and neither child plays with their earrings. My two year old loves her earrings and cant wait to wear different kinds.

Brianna - posted on 02/03/2011

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Don't do anything because your "friend" thinks it's a good idea. =/



Aside from that, I agree with the "waiting until they ask" opinion. We painted toenails during early toddler years, and fingernails around preschool. My almost 5-year-old still doesn't have her ears pierced.



As for the piercing thing, if you decide to do it ever, don't go to the mall. Go to a professional piercer, or ask your pediatrician. Piercing guns are gross, and cause trauma to the tissue. =[

Brandie - posted on 01/31/2011

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i was six months when my mother got mine done.. i'm pri gunna do the same with my daughter.. but painting nails.. can wait untill she's old enough to ask lol

Katherine - posted on 01/29/2011

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gosh my girls have their own nailpolish supply and yes i add to it because its our mommy daughter time and I love it. my girls are 8 ans 4 and yes i started them young too. not baby young , did nt feel it was needed. ears were peirced for my 8 yr old when she was 5 because its a big year for her. she goes to kindergarten she is a big girl.

Charlotte - posted on 01/22/2011

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Hell no! I've got a 20month old daughter and I would never dream of piercing her skin, unless for medical injections, until she is old enough to fully understand what's involved and the consequences. As for the nail varnish, that's another no no in my eyes until she's atleast 6.

Silvana - posted on 01/19/2011

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also be careful with the posts from the earings once she realizes she has earings you might want to consider small hoops that click in the back

Silvana - posted on 01/19/2011

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i pierced my daughters ears around 4 mths as for the nails...shes 2 1/2 and i paint them sometimes

Susan - posted on 01/07/2011

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We peirced our daughter's ears for her second birthday. She did really well and has never tugged on them. I was concerned about getting her ears peirced but she handled it like a pro and doesn't give us any trouble with changing them or cleaning them.

Kristen - posted on 12/22/2010

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as far as piercings are concerned i got my daughters done the youngest they would possibly do it i think 6 weeks? and actually i was so happy i did i upgraded and made sure i was putting real stuff in her ears since she was so young. she had these beautiful earrings till she was about 2.5 i had never took them out i just cleaned them all the time. Then at daycare she had came home one day and they where both gone not just one; so i asked if they took them out they said no and blamed it on her and said she probably did it. (even tho she had never took them out before)
so the next day i send her with 2 new real earrings, she came home and they were gone so i gave up. about 6 months later she left that daycare i got some more and she wore them till she was 4.5 but because the long time with no earrings i had to force them back thru. now she is 5 and cheers competitively and cant have any jewelry at practices or competitions and she practices 4 times a week so i just dont bother with them unless special occasions.

as far as nail polish i let my daughter do hands and toes around 2-3 when she didnt put her hands in her mouth! she loves it; but cant have that at competition either:( so not as much any more!

Jessyica - posted on 12/19/2010

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as for piercing the ears i got my daughters as soon as they would do it they way i see it what little girl doesnt want her ears pierced at some point? and this just makes it easier; and for nail polish i only do her toe nails (she puts her hands in her mouth all the time but she doesnt try to put her toes in her mouth)

Gabrielle - posted on 12/16/2010

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There are lots of opinions about when to pierce ears. Personally, I would wait until your daughter can decide on her own. I had mine pierced when I was 10 and got horrible infections. Not something I would wish on a baby. But when it comes to painting nails, I would definitely wait. Nail polish has lots of chemicals that will end up in your daughter's mouth, as babies are constantly putting their fingers (and toes) in their mouths. I won't even paint my 4yo daughter's fingernails yet because she still sucks her thumb and I don't want her ingesting that garbage (even with the relatively safe "Piggy Paint" that I found).

Crystal - posted on 12/07/2010

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I got my daughters ears peirced at 2 months and she forgot about them just a few hours afterwards and she dont mess with them at all and we didnt have any problems with them she is now 5 months old and still dont mess with them.

Cindy - posted on 12/04/2010

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I have decided that my daughter would have to wait until she is 4 before she can have her ears pierced. That is the age i was and I think it is reasonable. She is old enough to decide, if she doesn't want them until she is older, that is her choice. I personally think babies with peirced ears looks wrong. I don't think it is age appropriate.

I let my daughter wear nail polish when she was old enough to ask for it, so about 2.

And it is a big no no to do something just because your friend wants to do it, it is your daughter.

And only get an absolute professional to do any piercing.

LaDonya - posted on 12/01/2010

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i had my daughters ears pierced when she was 6 months..the doctor said it was better to wait cause something to do with there ear lobes ain't done growing or something...the nail polish thing i knew a lot of people did but i waited cause it will just come off my daughters 23 months old and when i do her nails and toe nails it gosh off in like an hour lol

Maxine - posted on 11/29/2010

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Piercing ears is better done earlier, at 2/3 months they don't pull on their ears or play with them so the healing process is easy and quick. The nail polish thing, i did my friends daughters toe nails at 2 moths aswell as my own daughter when she was that young.

Jasmin - posted on 11/25/2010

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i pierced my daughters ears after her first shot and at 3 months we got them done as for nail polish no it's to toxic tell your friend she will have to wait untill she is like 2 yrs old

Debra - posted on 10/14/2010

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My husband & I talked about piercing our daughter's ears many times. We couldn't do it at such a young age because it makes us think of when she gets shots. How much she cries - she'll do it when she gets her ears pierced & we'd be the reason behind that. We finally decided to pierce her ears when she comes to us & says she wants them. She's only 23months old so it'll probably be awhile but that's okay with us. I think nail painting is fine. My daughter lets me paint her toenails when I paint mine & it's so cute! Just watch the 1st time you do it to make sure she isn't allergic to the nail polish.

Adriana - posted on 10/12/2010

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I think its way too young to paint her nails but I pierced both my oldest daughter's ears at 3 months old. As far as a good age for pained nails, I would say 3-4 years old

Pamela - posted on 10/12/2010

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My oldest daughter had her ears pierced when she was 2..for me, it was hard because she kept tugging at her ears and felt very uncomfortable with it. Then my second daughter came and we had her ears pierced at 3 months..she didn't even really cry and never tugged on them. It seemed to heal alot quicker and better than my oldest daughter's did. So I do think 3 months is a good age to pierce her ears if YOU are comfortable with it. As for painting a 3 months old finger nails...I never did that nor had the thought of doing that. Now that my daughters are older (6 & 3), I do paint their nails. But in my opinion, that's too young for finger nail polish.

PAMELA - posted on 09/14/2010

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I agree i had both my daughter's ear's pierced st three months of age. My theory has been successful. I believe that by piercing their ears at a young age they dont even know they are there thus preventing infections from dirty little fingers. My oldest is now two and a half and she is just now realizing that she has them and wanting to change them.

Kimberly - posted on 09/08/2010

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Babies tend to eat on their fingers so NO to nail polishing. My oldest got her ears pierced @ 2 & my baby girl @ 3months but neither of them like to wear earrings, so I regret doing it.

Verona - posted on 08/29/2010

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I have 3 girls, 4, 2.5 and 5 months. We got them pierced at3/4 months of age. It was fine for us and the baby didn't move around as much as an older child would. It's a personal and cultural choice that you should make. Nail polish, About 2 on the toes only. I don't care for the look on the hands Hope this helps :)

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I painted one of my girls (twins) toenails at 2 weeks and kept them painted til she was 2 months old... so I wouldn't mix up my kids. I think they were around 3 when they both started getting them done on occasion.

They don't get to have their ears pierced yet and they are 8.5 now. They need to prove to me that they are responsible enough to care for them by showing responsibility in other ways. They aren't there yet.

Andrea - posted on 08/25/2010

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My doctor recommended to pierce her ears when my Daughter was a month old. This way they will not pull the earring off. We did it and she was fine.

Corissa - posted on 08/24/2010

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I think getting her ears pierced is better to do young when she won't play with them or take them out I got my daughter's done at 8 months old and its a little hard to get her to be still for me to clean them I wish I had done it a little earlier but she did well cried for not even a minute an was fine. And I think nail polish is fine on the toes my daughter doesn't put her feet in her mouth that often and they're much easier to paint than fingers.

Patrizia - posted on 08/22/2010

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i got my daughters ears peirced at 5 and that was only because she asked me if she could i think 3 months is way to young as for the nail polish why on earth would a 3 month old want nail polish on common get real wait till she is older there is plenty of time for that sort of thing.

Desirée - posted on 08/21/2010

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I had my daughters ears pierced when she was 3 months old but I waited until she was a year old to paint her nails. They can't even understand what nail polish is @ 3 months.

Gail - posted on 08/17/2010

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I have 5 daughters and have always thought they should be old enough to make the choice of having holes poked through their ears. My oldest daughter was 5 when she decided but it was still a bit traumatic for her so I encouraged my 2nd daughter to wait. She made the choice at age 7 and it went very well. My 3rd daughter is now 6 and showing signs of being ready. I always explain that it will hurt so they know what they are getting into. As far as painting nails, with 5 girls that is always going on at this house, they love it.

Mae - posted on 08/02/2010

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I got my daughters ears pierced at 2 months but I only just recently painted her nails (she'll be two in october). Her doctor said it was fine and actually preferable since she wouldn't mess with her ears they healed well and didn't get caught on anything. I would totally do it again, but I would wait with the nail polish since she probably sticks her hands in her mouth.

Angie - posted on 07/21/2010

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My daughter is 2 months now and I was thinking of getting her ears pierced in a couple months. I think it is easier when they are younger. As far as the polish..I'm not a fan of this. I just don't see the point. Their nails are so small and they just want to put their hands in their mouths.

Anastasha - posted on 07/18/2010

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I have a three month and truthly i did her ears at a week old because she dint feel it she didnt cry or anything if i would have not done it then i would have waited till she is old eough to tell me what she wants and for me to tell her what will happen and stuff so really it up to you!! And i paint my daughters nails and toes when she sleeping so it dont go in her mouth but then again you can go to sallys they have it call dog nail stuff it has no toxic stuff in it so if she puts her hands in mouth it will not hurt her

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Mia got her ears pierced as she was shortly before turning 2 years and she loves it to get her nails paint (since she is 1 and ahalf) but 3 months is a bit to early to paint the nails. To get the ears pierced she should be not that young. I found 2 years is a good age I was aswell 2 years old as I got my ears pierced :-)

Heidi - posted on 06/16/2010

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My daughters got their ears pierced at age 2 yrs. But didnt get to paint there nails till they were 4 yrs old. I think 3 months is way too young

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