Should I put my daughter on birth control or not??

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Kim - posted on 02/01/2009

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I have a 16 year old daughter and I think if you feel like there is a reason to put her on the pill then it is up to you. I had a talk with my daughter after she had a serious boyfriend for about 9 months and we sat down and talk on how the relationship was going and i felt like it was time to do the whole pill thing. Teenagers are going to do what there going to do and Me as a mother i would reither her be protected then not. Being a parent is hard enough when you are ready for it , Do what you think is right for you and her, not all moms will agree but that is why you are her mom and god gave her to you. I hope this has helped a little I wish I had this when i was going through this with mine But I myself thank I made the right decision. Just always tell her to be true to herself  in both her heart and soul.

Telika - posted on 05/06/2010

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how old is she? is she sexually active?those are the ? you need to think about if yes,then yes,do you want to be a young grandmother? if not,then talk to her about sex,tell her even though you are against her having premartial sex,you want to help her make a smart decision that she will thank you for in the long run if you don't freak out about her honsety she'll be open to your suggestions good luck

Kelcie - posted on 10/11/2009

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I have already said im putting the BC in my daughters cereal the minute she gets her period. As much as us moms do not want to accept that one day our daughters will have sex we have to. I would rather worry about her having sex than worrying about her having sex and getting pregnant at 16 and having to suffer the consequences of her actions. Iam not at all promoting these girls to go on birth control just to have sex but face it you cant be there 24-7 to know what their doing all the time...Better safe than sorry if you ask me!

Kristen - posted on 01/22/2009

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If it is medically necessary for your daughter's condition, then do what is best for your daughter.  I personally, would only give them to her if she is abstinent though.  My personal reason for that is that bc pills, iud's, etc. are abortifacients.  BC works in many ways, like suppressing ovulation, stopping sperm from reaching the egg, etc.  BUT, in the event that an egg is fertilized, the bc has thinned the lining of the uterus so much that it cannot implant in the uterine wall.  In other words, worst case senario, bc will actually abort a zygote (fertilized egg). 

Brie - posted on 01/05/2009

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I think that it may be a good idea to start her on BC, especially given her medical issues. I know BC can be very helpful in balancing out hormonal issues. I was put on the pill when I was only 14, because of ovarian cysts. And as far as your husband's fear goes- personally, I would rather be safe than sorry.

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Linda - posted on 07/27/2010

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i think you should talk to your dr. more about all your options. with both you and your husband. that way he is more informed on what options you all have concerning your daughter and maybe have your daughter there too. it will then help you all as a family make the best choice for her. also listen to what she has to say it is after all her body and she should not be made to feel bad just because your husband is afraid she may have sex.if you have raised her with strong morals she will not make a choice to have sex bassed on the fact that she now has bc. have faith that your daughter is smarter than that.

Anastasha - posted on 07/18/2010

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i am 19 and i have problems and my parents put me on bc due to them and never had sex till 18 !! and the pills is not a good thing b/c everyone i know that was on the pills has got pregent on them including me!! i think the best was the patch i loved it and i only got switch due to surgry that was coming up and then could not have the surgry b/c i was knocked up

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If you're going to do this, make sure your daughter is tested for blood clotting disorders beforehand. I have Factor V Leiden's and it can cause clotting, stroke and even death. I was on BC for MANY years and never knew about my clotting issue until I got pregnant.

Gina - posted on 06/26/2010

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yes if she has asked definitely put her on it!!! but make sure she using condoms

Heidi - posted on 06/16/2010

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I think yes she should be on BC. She is 16 yrs old and it may help with the menstrual issues you described. Being on BC doesn't mean open house on sex. She is 16 yrs old and if she hasn't had sex already, it will happen eventually and at least if she is on BC your teaching her to be responsible.

Tanya - posted on 04/25/2010

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YES! DO IT NOW! seriously and make sure you get her the gaurdasil vaccine while your at the gyno. We all want to think that it won't happen to our child but the fact is it might. Do you want an unplanned pregnancy? My mom talk to me about sex from an early age so when I decided to have sex for the first time (around 18 wish I hadn't tho) I was prepared. Especially if it is for medical reasons. Your daughter will be out of your house soon enough and who knows she might be able to get on it with out your permission where you live.

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some facts-teens will have sex weather you want them to or not. better safe to have them on birth control that not to be and be sorry. a teens body is not ready for a baby until 18 years of age. before 18 they can die giving birth as their reproductive system is not ready and they usually have alot of complications. when i was in the hospital every time while pregnant i was the oldest one at 21. some were 13 and 14. all the kids were having issues with premature labor one eben at 15 weeks and none were ready. all were over dramatic,freaking out, and acting like kids which is a good indicator they wernt ready. some took it way too far. no child under 16 can support a child as they cant work. so whose paying for the babys needs? you are.

User - posted on 04/08/2010

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I am assuming she is on Glucophage or something like it for PCOS...read up on natural Progesterone cream that you can get at any health food store...my daughter had it at 13 and life has turned around for her..did your daughter also have insulin resistance? Mine did, and since using the progesterone cream daily, she has been able to lose 70lbs and went from a size 16 to a size 7. Her self esteem has gone thru the roof...worth looking into. Don't put her on synthetic hormones unless you are sure she is going to have sex.

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First of all there were a few comments about young moms. I am 19 years old with a 3 1/2 month old daughter and you cannot sit here and tell me that I am not financially, physically or emotionally stable enough to raise my child! I have been working since I was 15 years old (and not at a fast food restaurant or anything like that) and my husband and I are both going to college ( I am doing online classes this semester) Secondly, I would definitely put your daughter on the pill. I was 18 when I got pregnant and I grew up in a great family with great values and blah blah blah. My mom talked to me about sex and I knew that both her and my dad disapproved of it until I got married. I have always been a good girl and all that but when you think you love someone (I really do love my husband, don't get me wrong, but many girls think they love someone when they don't) then you will do anything to make them happy, and everyone knows that that is what MOST guys are looking for at that age. For the record, my husband never pressured me or anything, he knew and respected my feelings and opinions until I thought I was ready, but most guys won't do that. You may think you have a great relationship with your daughter but no matter how great it is she will keep things from you and if she is going to have sex, she is going to do it whether she is on birth control or not. I am not saying all daughter are deceiving, but think about it, did you always tell your mom everything when you were that age?

Also, my sister was put on birth control for extreme bleeding and cramps and she has never had sex and is turning 21 in June. We both grew up the same way, but chose different paths. It is not about how you were raised, but if you sit there and encourage it then they probably would. Feel free to let your husband read my story, and send me a message if you would like me to talk more about it or tell him more.

Lindy - posted on 03/21/2010

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As someone with PCOS, I would recommend that she start Metformin first before birth control pills. The reasoning behind this is that it treats the condition at the root of the problem (which is insulin resistance), instead of merely masking the symptoms with artificial hormones. There are also other medicines that treat PCOS symptoms like unwanted hair, such as anti-androgens.
Now if she is sexually active, then birth control would be something to consider. Keep in mind that one of the side effects of birth control is weight gain, and that will only exacerbate PCOS.
In my opinion, the best treatment for PCOS is a low-carb diet, exercise, and Metformin.

Lindy - posted on 03/21/2010

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As someone with PCOS, I would recommend that she start Metformin first before birth control pills. The reasoning behind this is that it treats the condition at the root of the problem (which is insulin resistance), instead of merely masking the symptoms with artificial hormones. There are also other medicines that treat PCOS symptoms like unwanted hair, such as anti-androgens.
Now if she is sexually active, then birth control would be something to consider. Keep in mind that one of the side effects of birth control is weight gain, and that will only exacerbate PCOS.
In my opinion, the best treatment for PCOS is a low-carb diet, exercise, and Metformin.

Heather - posted on 03/15/2010

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i don't think so... no girl under the age of 18 should be thinking about having sex or even being on birth control... but these days that all alot of girls want cause their boyfriends push them into having sex or they want to be like everyone else in the world...

Jodie - posted on 02/23/2010

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I was put on the pill at 13 my periods were awful and i have scars on my overies from blunt force trauma. If im honest i think you should put her on it. Its better to be safe than sorry so even if shes not having sex you know shes ready if she does. Also my birth controll pill helped my periods be less painful and not as heavy and more regular. I only stoped taking the pill when i deicided to have my daughter

Selia - posted on 02/23/2010

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I can guarantee, as a midwife, married to a 3rd year med student, who was 16 only 7 years ago, being on the pill won't make her have sex, and not being on it won't stop her. :) PCOS is a horrible disorder and bc pills do help most sufferers immensely.

Kimberly - posted on 12/06/2009

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I say do it. I had the most horrible periods and my mother was sooo against BC because she thought that was giving me permission to go wild but my dad pushed the issue (because he hated to see me in pain). I was put on the pill when I was 16 and it didn't make me run out and have sex (mostly because I'm one of those people that are super worried about everything and figured I'd be that .01% to still get pregnant). I didn't have sex until I was 17 (about a month before 18) and it was with a boyfriend that I had for 4 years. Now I will say this about BC...do your research. I've been on it eleven years but for the last 2 years have been on YAZ. I've suffered from headaches, heartburn, loss of appetite, heart palpatations and mood swings. I've seen gastro drs, cardiologists, OBGYN's and it never occured to me it could be the side effects of the pills. I've been off for about a year and just restarted after my daughter and had always assumed my pregnancy had gotten rid of all those problems. Finally I put 2+2 together and going to go to the Gyno tomorrow to look for something other than YAZ.

Jodie - posted on 12/04/2009

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Hi, i had PCOD and endometriosis and was put on the pill when i was 12, so i have a good idea about what you are talking about. I do advise to go on the lowest dose first, because some people react badly to the hormones (i do!) Just be honest with your daughter, tell her these are for her pain, and as a medication and you would prefer her not to be sexually active. Also remind her that the pill alone isnt enough to protect her. Be open and honest, use your own and others experiance and she will respect you for it. Hopefully she will come and talk to you befor anything goes further with a boy.

Anouska - posted on 12/03/2009

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if your daughter is around 15 ans sexually active it would be appropriate to discuss this with her. if she is younger then you may be giving her the wrong impression she may assume that it is then fine for her to start having sex. it is not an easy dession to make but talk to her first....

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I did mine were very young when they went on birth control..They had alot of trouble with there cycle being regular and birth control made it regular. But i did sit down with them and let them know that birth control didnt keep you from getting a sexually transmitted disease.. And that they are worse things out there than getting pregant.

User - posted on 11/30/2009

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yessssss mam. specially if u aint tryna rock her baby. believe me i know i was a mother at 14 me and my mom took care of my baby. and trust me not only was it hard for me but at the same time my mom.being young and having a baby is not a joke some of us succeed and some dont.not only birth control.if shes havn sex regardless to what you say she is not gonna stop.protect her please from these horrible guys . you know i pray everyday that thes girls will wake up and understand that what we went thru is not fun.guys only want one thing and they r not gonna be the ones by your side mommy is................im not a bad person but what i put my mom thru i regret. not only cuz im grown now i felt sorry for her then.please if she is havn sex please protect ur baby and i will tell n e one that. dont let it be her descision.because most of these young girls want a baby.and making them get an abortion or putting their baby up for adoption will only make her resent u more. just love her and continue doing the best as u been doing.trust me on this one. its not lilke your allowing her to have sex.becuz she gone sneak.just know ur betta safe than sorry.hope ive been helpful honey and i will pray that whatever descision u make is best for u and yours.

Tanya - posted on 11/30/2009

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I think BC is a great idea. It will help with her medical issues and since she is at that age when sex because part of the picture it's definitely better safe than sorry. I am on Tri-Cyclen the monophase pill (same dosage of hormones all month) I have never had any issues with them. No weight gain or loss. I do not have cramps anymore and my period is like 4 days long on it. I was on it prior to being pregnant and have returned to them with no problems.

Andrea - posted on 11/22/2009

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I was 13 when i went on BC only because i would miss almost 2 weeks or more of school do to the cramps, bleeding, headache and etc.... So they put me on the Depo shot to help with all of these thing it was the best thing that my mom could have done for me at that age.. So yes if she is having female problem then do what is best for you and her.. I was on depo for 4 years.. with no problems.. I understand where your husband is coming from, but he needs to look at it from your side and her side.. i would sit him down and tell him y this is important for her.. Otherwise have him speak with her doctor and let them explain it to him.. That is what my mom had to do with my dad.. Hope this is helpful to you and your daughter.. Best wishes...

Mikayllah - posted on 11/16/2009

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Quoting Brie:


I think that it may be a good idea to start her on BC, especially given her medical issues. I know BC can be very helpful in balancing out hormonal issues. I was put on the pill when I was only 14, because of ovarian cysts. And as far as your husband's fear goes- personally, I would rather be safe than sorry.

Kelly - posted on 11/16/2009

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I don't think that being on the pill or not being on the pill has any influence on whether a teenager chooses to have sex. It was not a concern to me when I was a teenager (when I was ready to have sex, I didn't care about the pill, sad but true, my future mother-in-law took me to get it, at her insistance). As is obvious from the number of teenage pregancies, many girls are going ahead and having sex without the pill, even though it is available. So the flip side of that is, that not all girls on the pill for medical reasons are going to have sex. By all means, talk to your daughter about it, but you hopefully already do that anyway. I would let her go on it if it will help her medically.

Gloria - posted on 11/15/2009

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im open and honest with my 14 yr old girl.i dont want her having sex till shes married.she says thats what she wants too.but i told her if she was going to have sex to tell me so i can put her on bc.id rather that then her come and tell me shes pregnate.i got pregnate with her at 15 the very first time.better safe than sorry.her friends are having sex now.its scary.just pray.

Sharalyn - posted on 11/14/2009

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Depends on how old your daughter is. I think it is responsible of you to put your child on BC then the parents who disagree and end up with a pregnant teenage daughter living in their house. Some may say you are encouraging her to have sex but that is a scapegoat. In no way are you encouraging her, you want her future to be open for educational and career wise opputunities. A child between 13 - 19 years of age is in no way, shape or form financially stable, emotionally stable and often physically stable to have and raise an infant. YOU will be the primary caregiver. Not your daughter. So yes, put her on BC, let her know you are not encouraging her to have sex but you want her to succeed and have a childhood rather then growing up too fast and being coming a mother way before her time. Explain safe sex too. Condoms, female condoms etc. every little bit counts and helps.



if its to regulate her periods, yes do it! I had terrible periods growing up and I needed to get on BC at 18. I didn't know I could use it when I was younger to lighten and control my over 7 day periods. I had my first mentrual when I was eight. PCOS is awful and I do know BC can help her have regular periods because how the PCOS messes up her cycles. Yaz and Yasmin are all right just as long as she doesn't smoke or drink. Just like any other BC pills, there are risks. If you want to put her on Depo or Ortho Tri Cycline Lo etc. that is fine too. Just do your research etc. Hope this helps.

Sheila - posted on 11/14/2009

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Quoting sheila:

well if she ask you to do it but if you get her put on the pill you think that she is active go get the shots then but i tried to get my sons to get on them well they did go and have there moms get them but guess what they did not do any good on the dresser untouched and i even got him condoms but i got 4 grandkids and my son is the dad i love each and everyone of them but my son is not with either mom but he is fixed i made sure of that



and you can get them the stuff but you cant make them take it

Sheila - posted on 11/14/2009

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well if she ask you to do it but if you get her put on the pill you think that she is active go get the shots then but i tried to get my sons to get on them well they did go and have there moms get them but guess what they did not do any good on the dresser untouched and i even got him condoms but i got 4 grandkids and my son is the dad i love each and everyone of them but my son is not with either mom but he is fixed i made sure of that

User - posted on 10/14/2009

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talk to her doctor. but definately give the pll consideration even if she is not sexually active.

Kristine - posted on 10/13/2009

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if shes 16 u can be pretty sure shes doing it already neway so u might as well make it safe. I mean we all know when we started, and how or parents didn'tr know. BCP is very important.

Crystal - posted on 10/10/2009

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I put my daughter on BC this year she just turned 13 but she has severe cramping and has seemed to help her I have also told her that just because she is now on BC I am not giving permission for her to start to become sexually active but when the time does come I would rather be safe than sorry

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i would recommend bc cause i should have been put on it after i got my first period but my mother thought like ur husband. i never stopped bleeding. i had to endure tiredness and not to be able to hang out with friends cause i was so tired and iron pills which give u even worse cramps with the ones u already have. if the doctor sees the need to then there is an important reason to give them. not to mention if u dont then ur showing ur daughter that u have no trust or faith in her and she could rebel cause of it. just weigh out whats the best for ur daughter and make ur choice on that. i wish u luck

Stefanie - posted on 10/05/2009

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No. There are plenty of other medications they can use that aren't birth control.

Janeka - posted on 10/05/2009

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Depends On Age, If Its For Medical Reasons, Shes Sexually Active and Want Her To Be Safe? There Are Many Reason Why A Girl Shud Be on Birth Control It Depends On Your Daughter And IfShe Mature Enough To Handle That Resonibility....

Iysha - posted on 09/24/2009

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I think you should do it. Not only will it help to regulate her period, but if she does choose to have sex at one point or another (which teenagers tend to do) she wont have sex and have to worry about getting pregnant. When I started on birth control, my mom and I decided not to tell my dad. It was a woman's decision and we left it at that. He actually told my mom to make sure I get on birth control once I moved out, 5 years later. lol. Letting her know you trust her is a big deal and will help her to make good informed decisions when you are not around. She will not want to disappoint you. I'm sure she knows about all the other dangers of having unprotected sex, and she is old enough to know right from wrong and make her own decisions when it comes to sex. If my daughter wanted to be on birth control for whatever reason, I'd let her. She still has a while to go though, she's just under 3 months =]

Monica - posted on 09/23/2009

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Hi, I think is wise to ask the gyno first if she can use the pills, and let her explain the pros and cons of using it, you both as parents should have open talks with her about what could happen if she begin having sex so early and the responsabilities it carrys with it, im pretty sure, if you guys talk with her openly about the subject she understands, and is better than hide it, or prohibit her, cause that's what make young people try, something that is intriguing will cause them to try to probe what it feels, at least myself and my sister have grown with that, and I did pretty good, begin really late on that, so confidence and talk about the subject like were not taboo, it helps alot, good luck.

Alicia - posted on 02/08/2009

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my mom did!! and no teen age babies or deases, it takes the edge off of u and her as well, and with a strong family up bringing and morels she'll be fine.for my son i have a drawer in a room with thousands of condomes in it. he can grab one anytime and not feel like i am counting,lol. and it is less presure for him to have to go to the store. so i know that one works. lol ohh gee wiz!! please no babies!!

Melissa - posted on 01/28/2009

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If it's just to regulate you can get progesterone perscriped instead that will regulate the cycle w/out being birth control that I'm aware of. My holistic MD perscribed it and I get it at a compounding pharmacy. You might ask about that alternative.

Maree - posted on 01/28/2009

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For a start how old is she......does she have trouble with her periods....if she is over 18 let her go for it if she is having trouble ith her periods also let her try them.....1 of my twins was having terrible periods and when she went on the pill they helped her very much

Marla - posted on 01/27/2009

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my personal opinion......My 18 year old son and his 18 year old girlfriend have a 3 month old baby. Her mother would not let her be on birth control. I wouldn't trade the baby girl for anything....but a baby certainly makes life's choices a lot harder for these two outstanding kids. Better safe than sorry. I have a 10 year old and come 14-15 years of age, she will be on the pill. Especially i medically necessary, with the added bonus of birth control!

Kate - posted on 01/24/2009

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As a child i suffered with awful periods, i was cripple with pain and had very hearvy and inconsitant periods. i wanted to go on the pill from the time i started my periodsat 13 but my doctor refused as he belived it would encourage me to have sex, so just prescribed stronger and stronger pain releif until i reached 16 when i had had enough it was destroying my life. within 2 months of being on microgon, the pain had reduced incredably and my periods had become regular, it was a god sen for me and since having my children i have gone back to the same pill for the exact same reasons. so if my daughter was having problems with her periods Yes i would put her on the contraceptive pill, but i would also explain to her that it doesnt give her permission to have sex. i would do this if my daughter was 11 like my sister, 13 like me or 16 at the age of concent. the sex aspect wouldnt stop me if i felt my daughter would be better off on it. And for piece of mind when i was eventually put on the pill i didnt rush out to have sex i was just grateful for my mums help and support in getting the pill for me.

Jill - posted on 01/23/2009

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Absolutely start birth control. I would also have it coincide with regular physicals so that she can begin to understand the responsibilities of being a woman and taking care of your body in a mature and responsible manner. The doctor will explain to her what the pill does (and does not) do, and can set it up so that she will have to return to him/her for a check-up to renew her prescription. Like you said, you can't be around them 24/7, but you can teach them to be safe and responsible and give them some trust too. As for your husband, just explain to him that a young woman needs to be in control of her body and learn/know how to take care of it - and she's at that age where she needs to start.

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I think it would be a good idea. I'm a mom of 2 girls, almost 12 or almost 7, lol! My oldest had not started her period yet. I was always irregular with my cycle and still am. I have thought about it, too. I started bc when I was around 16. My mom wouldn't take me, but told me if I thought I needed to be on bc that I could. It really helped with the cycles. Have you talked with her about it? I wish you good luck. ~Wendy

Erika - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Brie:



I think that it may be a good idea to start her on BC, especially given her medical issues. I know BC can be very helpful in balancing out hormonal issues. I was put on the pill when I was only 14, because of ovarian cysts. And as far as your husband's fear goes- personally, I would rather be safe than sorry.






I agree!  I was on the pill by 15, not for any particular medical reason ... but I would also rather be safe than sorry.

Shelly - posted on 01/13/2009

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My doctor put my daughter on BC when she was 14 because of her very rough pms and moods, at first I was quite reluctant because I too thought it would be like giving her permission to have sex to, but I had a talk with her and let her know why she was taking it and that in no way was it a ticket for sex and she said she know's it and she understands.

Brittany - posted on 01/11/2009

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I don't think there would be a problem with the birth control. Besides, she's getting the age where she'll want to experience and it's better safe than sorry. You might want to have a conversation with her about STDs and stuff too. But especially for a medical issue, yes.

Lisa - posted on 01/10/2009

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I recommend BC if she is having medical issues or has heavy bleeding while on her menstrual cycle. I was young (16-18) when I went on BC due to heavy cycles and intense cramping. And I put my oldest daughter on the pill at 16 with the same issues. BC helps a girl to become regular and also helps with the heavy menses.

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2009

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absolutely...I am a firm believer in BC..especially if she is having heavy periods..I was put on the pill at 14 because mine were so bad! If you trust your daughter and believe in your parenting and your relationship all will be fine! But remember Your daughter came through you she is not of you!! You show them the way and support them through it, but they altimately have to make there own mistakes and you pray they won't be so bad and you pray even more that they'll let you help them through it!! Take it from me...I have done it all!! A lot bad...but I survived it all..with the help of my very strong mother!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/04/2009

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She just turned 16 and she does have PCOS, which she is already on medication for.Her cycles have becomce horrible, which is in our family history..I am 36 and had to have a hysterectomy due to that reason alone. My husband thinks it just gives her permission to have sex and he is not happy about the pill at all. I do trust my daughter and I know we can't be around her 24/7. They do want to put her on the medicine for medical reasons..but the pill the dr has prescribed does not appear to be a good one. I had posted a similar question on here with the pills name and asking if anyone knew anything about it and I didn't really get any positive responses..they were all negative towards that certain pill. I guess I will have to check with the dr to see about another one...

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