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Tammie - posted on 06/11/2009

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I have 3 girls, 18 yr that just graduated in May, and moved out, then Emmalee 8 and Haylee 7 yr old. The 2 younger ones if they are together to long what out the cat fights begin. Haylee and torment Emmalee until she is in tears. Emmalee is my quiet one that is learning to stick up for herself. We have actually had to let Emmalee that it is ok to teach her sister a lesson.. Ex. Every time Ems in the shower Hay will flush the toilet, the the water is very hot.. So the last time Hay did it to her (last weekend) we told Em to do it to her.. It hasn't happened again.. Boy did she feel much better after that.. I try to stay out of the little things, but by the time my husband comes in from farming I am going nuts. Its his time to deal with them.

Jennifer - posted on 06/09/2009

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They fight alot but then they can be the best of friends and my 4 yr old can be super protective of her sister whos only 2 when it comes to bigger kids talking mean to her and then my 2 yr old since she slightly more compact and abit of a bully takes care of her big sister when it comes to the big kids who get pushy with them

Alicia - posted on 06/04/2009

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I have 2 girls. Lilliana is 6 (almost 7) and Briana is 4. One minute they are fine and the next you hear crying or screaming and then comes the mommy sissy did this or that. It's so frustrating sometimes. Any adivice:)

Laura - posted on 06/02/2009

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Quoting tanya:

I have 3 girls.My oldest is 12,then 4 and 3.My 12 yr old fights with the 4 yr old.It blows me away.You would think that my oldest would ignore all the stupid little things that my 4 yr old says to aggrivate her,but she dosn't.My oldest is constantly telling me,"mom,Sarah says my hair is ugly,Sarah says this,Sarah said that!"I try to tell her that if she ignores her she will see that she is not getting the responce she wants and will stop.But she says "Well,I can't she is anoying!"I don't know why my 4 yr old tells her mean things,when my oldest is gone she misses her like crazy but when they are togeter,you would think that they litterally hate eachother!Any advice would help:)


I thought the same thing of my girls (age(s) 12 and 8. I really thought my older daughter could rise above and be a little more mature.  I was very wrong.

Laura - posted on 06/02/2009

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I have two girls 8 and 12 and they fight constantly. It is a rare occasion that they get along. I have another on the way and we won't know what we are having until mid july. My poor husband. lol

Jaime - posted on 06/01/2009

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Must be a girl thing and there emotions or something. My girls (3,4,8) are fighting one minute then the next minute they are the best of friends. Part of the problem is they are all head strong and want to be the leader at all times, so the fight begins.

Tanya - posted on 05/30/2009

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I have 3 girls.My oldest is 12,then 4 and 3.My 12 yr old fights with the 4 yr old.It blows me away.You would think that my oldest would ignore all the stupid little things that my 4 yr old says to aggrivate her,but she dosn't.My oldest is constantly telling me,"mom,Sarah says my hair is ugly,Sarah says this,Sarah said that!"I try to tell her that if she ignores her she will see that she is not getting the responce she wants and will stop.But she says "Well,I can't she is anoying!"I don't know why my 4 yr old tells her mean things,when my oldest is gone she misses her like crazy but when they are togeter,you would think that they litterally hate eachother!Any advice would help:)

Shauna - posted on 04/10/2009

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I have 3 girls, 5yrs 3.5 yrs and 16 mo. the older two are very close but still fight alot--not usually physically but verbally and mock and tease ech other. but like another mother mentioed hate to be apart , often sleep together and always want to sit with the one in time out to keep her company. It is tempting to intervene to stop the arguing but I am trying to teach them to work it out and come up with solutions. Appologies are always required when you say something hurtful. It can be exhausting at times and am sure it will only get worse as they get older and once the baby can get her 2 cents in. I hopw they stay close as they get older despite their disagreements

Felisha - posted on 04/09/2009

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This is driving me insane. My girls are 7&5. It's gotten bad lately. Not so much fighting, but the teasing which leads to yelling and screaming.

Elaine - posted on 03/10/2009

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god i know the feelin on girls fighting my two girls r 6 and 5 and they argue all the time when they play together its guaranteed to end in a arguement then they end up lashing out at each other. they get on well when they are out at school and my big en looks out for the little one but as soon as they get in all i get is mom shes doing this or she wont play this game or i had it first its gets pretty frustrting sometimes

Kelly - posted on 03/10/2009

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I have an 8 and 11 yr. old girls. I love them dearly; however, they are driving me absolutely out to lunch. Some days the negative energy running through this house is unbelievable. They are fighting, then whining, then crying and they are such good girls I hate saying those things about them. They are jealous of each other and they never used to be. I have now put them in seperate rooms and I often catch them sleeping in the same room again. Too funny. You just can't win, so refereeing is the only way.

Tammy - posted on 03/05/2009

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Mine are 9,7,4 and 1 and yes they can fight...... glad to know I'm not the only one withthe problem. I tell them to be nice because there sister will always be there for them...their family love each other!

Maria - posted on 02/25/2009

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I have two girls! 9 and 2 1/2 yrs. They can really fight. I'm just amazed at how the two fo them can fight. They will hit, punch, bite etc... Somedays I just want to pull my hair out with them.

Maria - posted on 02/20/2009

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Yes! Ugh. One is 6 and the other is 2 1/2.  Alot of the time it's the younger one picking on the older one. Sometimes it's funny but sometimes it's very irritating. 

Tammy - posted on 02/19/2009

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Yes, it's part of growing up, learning new skills, defending themselves. If they speak inappropriately to each other, just give them a new way to talk to each other. For instance, tonight my 6 year old was telling her 5 year old sister that she was a "baby." I asked the 6 year old why she said that. The 6 year old said that she was frustrated with her younger sister and needed some time to herself. So.......I told the older one to express that to the younger one. I even had her repeat after me what would have been a kinder way of telling her sister that she needed some space.

Brie - posted on 02/19/2009

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Oh goodness, yes. They are 7 and 9...they are best friends, but the worst enemies as well. They definitely get into constant bickering over silly little things.

Tina - posted on 02/16/2009

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It makes me crazy to listen to my girls fight.  When it gets out of hand I start finding things for them to do.  I always cloak it in helping me, but they settle down and i get a few chores done!   They haven't figured out my game yet.  I will hate the day they do!!!

Laurie - posted on 02/14/2009

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My girls are 12 and 8 and they fight about everything and anything. I keep trying to tell them that someday they'll be best friends but they are not trying to hear that..LOL

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2009

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My girls are 17 and 13. They fight alot. I stop it if it becomes abusive verbally or physically. Neither is tolerated. Otherwise I let them work it out. They can really teach eachother in ways that I can not even if they don't realize it at the time.

Haleema - posted on 02/11/2009

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my children are 6+,5+ and 3yrsold respectively,they fight and play,usually in twos.the baby takes the camp of whoever appeals to her at the time,and she beat whoever offends her till she could see vivid tears

Shelly - posted on 02/10/2009

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My girls are 8 and 10 and they have there moments of insanity, but I am always amazed just when I think that they hate each other and might just kill one another they surprise me.  Neither of them will allow an outsider to pick on one or the other.  They are very protective of each other and come to each others rescue all the time.  Which gives me hope that in the future they might do more looking out for each other than fighting with one another.  Then again.........................

Tami - posted on 02/10/2009

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Mine are 15 and 13, they fight. It don't even matter why they fight, I think they just like to do it. lol

Jade - posted on 02/08/2009

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I agree with Melissa McGinnis and her strategy of separating girls once they begin to bicker (which they all do by the sound of things). When one of mine starts whining they are both sent to their rooms which teaches them to compromise or else!

Jessica - posted on 02/01/2009

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I have two girls 6 and 3 and they fight a lot as well!  My 6 year old is more passive and my 3 year old is more aggressive.  I get more aggravated when my 6 year old is screaming and not "using her words" to talk to her sister.  I also let them try to work it out but once it becomes a screaming match I have to separate them or I would go deaf!!!

Melissa - posted on 02/01/2009

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I have 5 girls,8~6~4~3 & 7 months and I listen to them fight constantly some days, and other days they are best friends. I do not allow physical contact  -ie slapping, biting, hitting etc  and i do not allow name calling. If they fight about a toy, then I give them 2 chances to work it out, or i take away the toy, and put the fighting girls in different rooms. The funny thing is, with in about 5 min, they have usually snuck out, and started playing with each other again, or if one is  in a time out, the other one will go visit with her!! lol


 I still make them apologizes to each other, and if it is name calling I ask how they would feel if they were called the name they had just used, and if they would like it. Depending on the attitude, after an apology they can go back to playing or have a time out. I have girls who get along great, and ones that you know there will be a fight with in a short while of playing. I also have ones who will omfort another one if they are in trouble! :-)

User - posted on 01/30/2009

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My girls are 5 1/2 and 3 1/2 and they can be so nice and sweet to each other one minute then the next they are yelling and hitting and just all out fighting it's so crazy how they can be so nice and sweet to each other to so mean to each other

Lisa - posted on 11/22/2008

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My girls are 4 and 8 and they fight constantly but the funny thing is they got a set of bunk beds from grandma and have chosen to share them and sleep in the same room....I was pretty surprised...and they don't fight about them...but everything else is a constant struggle...."she's touching me, my stuff" or "she got more than me".....sometimes it's funny but most times it's down right annoying!

Amy - posted on 11/21/2008

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It's awful isn't it! I have 2 girls 3 years apart & they just have some knock down drag outs!

Serena - posted on 11/21/2008

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mine fight like crazy.. especially my twin girls, there's hair pulling, punching, kicking, sometimes biting. and the arguing is out of control. my poor hubby.. haha.. i have 4 girls and that's all they do. not the youngest (because she's only 4 months) but i'm sure she'll be chiming in soon. =oP

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