What is an appropriate age to for girls to start wearing thong underwear?

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Anna - posted on 07/09/2011

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It depends. My girls started wearing them when they were about 6.

Anna - posted on 07/09/2011

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It depends. My girls started wearing them when they were about 6.

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i think at 16 its fine. i know some preppy uppity girls who started in middle school. as kids why do they need them? i think alot of times kids wear them hanging out or if they guys see them when they are sitting or they show them off (you know how teen girls are) it just asks for problems. i dont understand why girls need them so young. who sees there underwear anyways? or better yet why do they need to be showing off their underwear at that age? we have seen them for little toddlers. it sickens me. we say pretty soon with the way clothes get these days soon they will have thong diapers. when i got my first one about 15 maybe, but i rarely wore them. i hated them. i didnt start wearing them until 18 and thats if i was going out with guys or something and i only did it bc i didnt need panty lines on a date. but even now im married i still dont wear them too often. my sister on the other hand wears them 24/7. she loves thongs. but she didnt start wearing them until she was about 16. even then i think 16 is pushing it with the way kids dress these days but at 16 they are old enough to work and drive and will just get them anyways weather you say yes or not.

Cyndi - posted on 09/11/2009

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I don't wish to be rude, or offend anyone, but have most of you gone nuts? The more you restrict a child like your implying, the more they will want to do it. Now don't get me wrong, I think alot of young girls dress innapropriatly these days, makes you wanna smack the parents. My advice is to do a test run, tell her you will buy her ONE pair. She is not to wear it all the time, it can be a health risk because of bacteria more easily bread in a warm moist area like that, and that if you SEE the thong because she thinks it's cool to wear her pants below the top panty line, she doesn't get another one and that one gets thrown out. If she balks at the idea, tell her to get a job and buy them herself then, but the same rule will apply, you see it, it's gone and her money was wasted. I can guarentee she'll pick one or the other instead of continuing the argument. So one way she learns to just be respectful of her body, or she learns to appreciate hard work along with it.

Traci - posted on 02/19/2010

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I have two daughters - 15 & 13-1/2, and I am 43. Neither of my girls wear thongs, but I do from time to time, because I cannot stand panty lines. Some of their friends wear them, simply because that is their preference. Both of my girls tried them once they became actual teenagers - 13, but they do not like them. It think once girls hit thirteen, and aren't doing anything skanky, then it's okay. Nobody sees them except them and their friends. Now, if my girls wanted to wear them at this age because of boy related issues, that's a different story and issue altogether. To me it's just underwear, and again, pantylines are tacky. There are sooooo many more important issues in life to worrty about and deal with than underwear preference. Good luck!

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Cindy - posted on 01/09/2010

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I'd agree with everyone who said when they are earning their own money and can buy them themselves. But if your daughter asks earlier it is because she wants to experience new things. She may try it and decide that she doesn't like it anyway.

Elisha - posted on 01/07/2010

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Sometimes I find it hard to believe there are that many people with morals out there!!! woo hoo!!! I have 3 daughters 14, 9 and 3. I did not wear a thong until my senior year and it was because of the prom dress I chose and I was 18 and bought it myself and I hid it from my mom which I probably didnt have to. when my daughter came home with one in like 7th grade (a gift from her stepmother) I threw them away and said not until highschool but I dont even think they are necessary because really at this age it is more about telling everyone" I am wearing a thong..." I appreciate the moms so much that said go talk to your dads because we have gotton so far away from respecting what daddy thinks and girls NEED to know that their daddy loves and respects them and they should expect nothing less from their future spouses.

Kelsey - posted on 01/06/2010

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i was 13 when i was allowed because me and my mom made a deal i could have 2 one in black and then watever colour i wanted but i wasnt allowed to wear them when i went to school...or when i was going to hang out with boys if i wanted to bring them with when i went to sleep at a girlfriends place that was fine only because all my girlfriends were allowed to wear them

Anna - posted on 01/05/2010

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i bought a pair when i was in the 7th grade and got grounded for it. i wasnt "allowed to wear them until i was in high school. i used to wear them all the time...HATE THEM NOW. i think high school is a good age. as long as she isnt being trashy with it

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When they are out of my house. ;) I might make the exception for tight clothes (like their gymnastics suits), but it hasn't come up yet. They aren't bothered by panty lines at 8. :)

Francesca - posted on 12/30/2009

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I believe that when she is old enought to buy her own, she should be able to. She is probly just trying to grow into her own, she should be allowed to as long as she has self respect and morals. It is just underwear! She will find a way to sneak around you if you dont give her the freedom to pick her own under wear. And i totally agree that bikini undewear are a must! Jeans just arent made the way they use to be!

Rose - posted on 12/30/2009

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I wore my first thong with i was 15 old enough to buy it myself. now i hate them. That is what i plan on for my daughter. The only time i wear them know is if i am not going to wearing it for long lol!

Tiffani - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Cyndi:

I don't wish to be rude, or offend anyone, but have most of you gone nuts? The more you restrict a child like your implying, the more they will want to do it. Now don't get me wrong, I think alot of young girls dress innapropriatly these days, makes you wanna smack the parents. My advice is to do a test run, tell her you will buy her ONE pair. She is not to wear it all the time, it can be a health risk because of bacteria more easily bread in a warm moist area like that, and that if you SEE the thong because she thinks it's cool to wear her pants below the top panty line, she doesn't get another one and that one gets thrown out. If she balks at the idea, tell her to get a job and buy them herself then, but the same rule will apply, you see it, it's gone and her money was wasted. I can guarentee she'll pick one or the other instead of continuing the argument. So one way she learns to just be respectful of her body, or she learns to appreciate hard work along with it.


 



 



 



I totally agree with you!  Come on people its just some underwear!!  But I truely believe you have to teach your girls self respect!!!

Belinda - posted on 12/17/2009

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I agree with the "when they are working and can buy their own underwear" comments, and even then if they are still teens at school I'd be telling them they aren't to wear them with a skirt at school, because if it gets windy or they trip up or some silly boy decides to flip her skirt up everyone is going to get good look at everything and that would be tough to live down.

Jodie - posted on 12/04/2009

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I agree with the married! ;-) They are really uncomfortable LOL. But when they are older teenagers? Probebly 16/17. Also If they want them make them by it themselves. Thats what my mum made me do, sometimes the sacrifice isnt woth it.

LaWanda - posted on 12/04/2009

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I say when they are mature enough to wear them. That being said, it really depends on why they want to wear them. If they are wearing them so that they can sag their outer clothing and someone sees them..NO NO.. but my daughter is 12 and wanted the boy shorts underwear because she said for track they wouldn't creep up and they were the same length. So it could be many reasons why not to allow them and why to allow them. Ultimiately it is your decison and why she wants to wear them would be the question.. They are underwear when it all boils down, and after they wear them they may decide that they are cute only and not comfortable..lol

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I agree. I think 18 years or as her Dad say's 30 or after he's dead whichever comes first! :-)

Adrienne - posted on 12/03/2009

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lol i'd like to say when they are married, but in this day and age its unlikely. i agree with the mums saying she will just get them herself if you say no and thats the end.

When your parents say no it just makes you want it even more!!

God i remember at school girls wearing them half way up their backsides!! god knows how that was comfortable!! I would say when she can buy them herself. girls can be so mean tho!

Krystal - posted on 12/02/2009

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Quoting Gabby:

i say when she could afford it..I did not start wearing them until I was like 5yrs married by then I was about 25



i totally agree. i started after i was married and with kids and thats cuz my husband wanted me too! lol

Gabby - posted on 12/02/2009

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i say when she could afford it..I did not start wearing them until I was like 5yrs married by then I was about 25

Erin - posted on 12/01/2009

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I would most definitly say when she is married. however thats not necissarily likely to happen, so second best option when they move out...

Tanya - posted on 11/30/2009

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I agree with when they have a job and buy their own. I was 15 when I bought my own first pair. I don't think they are bad, it's just gross when girls have them hanging out over their pants. And whoever told her they were more comfortable was just plain lying! It's a permanent wedgie!

Marija - posted on 11/30/2009

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My daughter wont be allowed to wear them until shes married. Its amazing how, when you walk through a mall, and you see all these young girls during summer time having their thongs hang out, and it really sickens me. But, seriously, honestly, I say when they are married ...

Brenda - posted on 11/13/2009

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Most five year olds start to have active imaganations[sp] at this time. Take a trip to Penny's ,ect. and let her pick out bedding for her bed. "Big Girls" do this so they have sweet dreams IN THEIR BEDS!!Just remember when she wants to do something a big girl would do,Birthday parties, play dates,ect. she only gets to do that by being a big girl,ie, staying in her own bed. GOOD LUCK!!

Sharalyn - posted on 11/12/2009

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I believe around 14 and up. Anything under 14 is inappropriate. Plus who really wears thongs anyways? Boy shorts are the trend now!!!

Dawn - posted on 11/10/2009

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I agree with the "when they're married" votes :-) My daughter decided to buy her own once she had a babysitting job (at 13!!), but just like any other clothes, she had to wear clothes within OUR guidelines. No miniskirts showing butt cheek for instance, no low cut blouses, NO THONGS. It would be one thing if girls were actually wearing them for comfort, but come on. Girls nowadays wear them so they show out of the tops of their pants, so they're advertising. Uh unh, nope. There's no need for that. That's my .02.

Tanya - posted on 11/10/2009

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To some just underwear, to others a sign of getting prepared to have sex.. My daughter is 15 and I'm not buying them. She can if she has her own money.. Call me old school..

Williams - posted on 11/10/2009

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I think that 18 is a good age to CONSIDER, but any younger is just bad parenting! Why would she want to wear a thong so bad, bc other girl are? Well explain to her the plethera of "issues" a woman can experience in the vaginal area. I have 6yr old step daughter, and I let her know things like if she doesn't wipe/clean well she will itch and wonder why. If u dont teach them, no one will!!!!! Please dont allow this baby to wear a thong!

Tara - posted on 11/09/2009

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Quoting Tara:

Tell her to ask her Dad when an appropriate age is. Go with that answer, I'm sure it will be "NEVER" lol. Actually, when I grew up the rule was if our dad didn't approve of our apparel then we didn't wear it. I was angry at him understandably so growing up, but in retrospect, he never let me go out of the house looking like a tramp! Fathers are the protectors of their daughters hearts. My husband and I will be using that rule with our daughter when she is old enough!


He made sure that guys didn't see us as "sex symbols" until we were moved out and bought our own clothing. I am forever grateful to him for that! I remember girls in high school who would intentionally let the back of their thongs stick out of their jeans, they were the girls who bragged about hooking up with so and so. Our daughters have so much pressure to fit in, and be sex symbols at a young age. Wearing a thong won't make her cool! It'll make her pick a wedgie all day long instead! lol

Tara - posted on 11/09/2009

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Quoting Tara:

Tell her to ask her Dad when an appropriate age is. Go with that answer, I'm sure it will be "NEVER" lol. Actually, when I grew up the rule was if our dad didn't approve of our apparel then we didn't wear it. I was angry at him understandably so growing up, but in retrospect, he never let me go out of the house looking like a tramp! Fathers are the protectors of their daughters hearts. My husband and I will be using that rule with our daughter when she is old enough!


He made sure that guys didn't see us as "sex symbols" until we were moved out and bought our own clothing. I am forever grateful to him for that! I remember girls in high school who would intentionally let the back of their thongs stick out of their jeans, they were the girls who bragged about hooking up with so and so. Our daughters have so much pressure to fit in, and be sex symbols at a young age. Wearing a thong won't make her cool! It'll make her pick a wedgie all day long instead! lol

Tara - posted on 11/09/2009

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Tell her to ask her Dad when an appropriate age is. Go with that answer, I'm sure it will be "NEVER" lol. Actually, when I grew up the rule was if our dad didn't approve of our apparel then we didn't wear it. I was angry at him understandably so growing up, but in retrospect, he never let me go out of the house looking like a tramp! Fathers are the protectors of their daughters hearts. My husband and I will be using that rule with our daughter when she is old enough!

Tshawn - posted on 11/07/2009

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i would say your daughter knows what she wants ... thongs were uncomfortable to me when i was a tween.. then i wanted to start feeling sexy... She will get them and wear them with or without your approval so just keep an open mind and talk to her about them.

Jasmine - posted on 10/29/2009

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i agree with most people, although if she has a job and buys them for herself that is another story

Beth - posted on 10/27/2009

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what is an appropriate age for girls to wear thong underwear - I'd say at what age do you consider her to be an adult 18 / 19.



I have seen so many girls out there that are 13, 15 17 what have you that are wearing thongs and are wearing lowrise pants or are hiking their pants down to show off the thong - it is soooo inappropriate! Disrespectful to themselves and promoting disrespect from the boys they are around.



When you think it is appropriate for her to give it a try - then definately set some rules in place.



Personally I'm going with the major wedgie point of view myself and offering her other types of panties to address any concerns over alledged pantie lines she might have. But just getting a thong to fit in because everyone has a pair is not happening in our house. GOOD LUCK

Sherry - posted on 10/09/2009

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I would say depends on the character of the girl.If she is legitamately embarrased of panty lines,then I might consider it at 13,but not just for the sake of fitting in.

Angela - posted on 10/08/2009

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Why is it we spend most of our life picking our underwear out of our butt, then suddenly we find it sexy to put it there on purpose? I agree that when they have a job and can buy their own.......they are not going to want to spend that much hard earned money on panties.

Roselle - posted on 10/07/2009

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This is a good question due that i have three young ladies.My oldest is 15 and she doesnot like to wear thongs thank god...I feel the appropriate time is when they can buy their own....which is no time soon.

Janeka - posted on 10/05/2009

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Wow?! I wuld Have To Say At Least 17 Ish And Thats When Its Needed For Say pagents, Prom Or cotillions...

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2009

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She is a little young to wear a thung! And why would anyone else know what another little girl is wearing?...They don't go to school just to show each other their thung's or whatever...lol!My daughter is only 2 1/2...so i have a long way before she goes there..lol. What about the boy cut short's (underwear)? They aren't to bad they cover more........

Monica - posted on 09/23/2009

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I dont know, what I know, is using thongs could use some problems down there, ask gynos. My sister begin at 12 more less, but she hate them now, for that she get the victoria secrets, the ones that doesn't mark, but at the end I think this is a business of each one, if she wants and she likes well, that go ahead and used but dont sleep with them.

Laura - posted on 09/11/2009

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On her honeymoon! I told my daughter to imagine the worst wedgie she ever had and that's what a thong feels like. She thought that was gross and let the subject go after that. Seriously though, young girls have no concept of the picture they portray when they dress provocatively. It's up to us as parents to guide them towards being modest young ladies as opposed to the alternative.

Iysha - posted on 09/04/2009

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I think like 14. I am pretty sure thats about the time I started wearing thongs. It was definitely more comfy for me since I have a full behind =] Bikini underwear and low rise underwear are a must though for all ages. Jeans that are made for girls over the age of like 5 are not up to the belly button anymore.

Tobi - posted on 09/02/2009

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As a mother/stepmother of 5 girls , I say when they are old enough to move out ,they are old enough to decide what they wear. Bikini underwear is pushing it too but at least they are covered better and it is a compromise. Your house, your rules.

Michelle - posted on 08/10/2009

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I love them and wear them all the time!! I say there only underwear! I'd probably wait until she was at least in highschool. The situation depends on the family, whatever you feel is right you should go with:0)

Brandi - posted on 08/09/2009

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I have a 15 yr old. and my answer would be when they are old enough to have their own $$ and buy themself.

Deidre - posted on 08/06/2009

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I didn't wear one until I was like, 18. And, I hate them personally lmao. I don't want my underwear in my butt crack haha... no matter how thin, I feel like I have a wedgy.

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