When do you start discussing periods with your daughter?

Angela - posted on 10/09/2009 ( 54 moms have responded )

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I have had someone give me advice to discuss it when she is in 3rd grade. I was wanting to get some input of when and how it should be discussed with her. Any unique and creative ways to do this would be helpful.

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Cheryl - posted on 11/07/2009

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Truth be told my mother never talked to me about it even when I came to her when I was 11 freightened out of my mind that I was dying, you know all the drama when we are 11. Anyway, from then on I had decided that when I had children and if they are girls that I would be open with them. Well, I have 4 girls, ages 13, 8, 6 and almost 2. When they ask questions I answer them. We have always had an open dialog within reason. Kids really only want to know the answer to their question. So it is important to listen closely to the question. Stop and think about the answer you want to give and then proceed with the answer and remember not to give more info that will bring on questions that you or she may not want to get into at that time in her life. Talking about it today is not like not talking about decades ago when we were children. Keep lines of communication open with your kids from an early age and things will go a lot smother for all of you.

Katie - posted on 01/22/2010

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With all the additional posts, I thought I'd add some to mine.

I choose 3rd grade to share with my daughter because she seemed mature enough to handle it and that it was possible she could start maturing any time. I saw what was happening with my niece who is 6 months older and she was already going through the changes.

I didn't start until after I was 13. It seems like most moms here know when they started and their daughters have started close to the same time. I suggest taking time to think about what happened to you when you got yours and when then prepare for what to tell your daughter. My mother hadn't had a period from the time she got pregnant with me due to medical issues so she never even thought about talking to me. It is very unnerving to have it happen and not know why.

I am very open with my children and chose to be that way to prevent issues that I had while growing up in a very closed home. I want my daughters to feel they can ALWAYS talk to me about anything. Now I have two of my own and 3 step-daughters so I know girls and how very different each one is. Find how your most comfortable talking to them and just open up. It is awkward but it will benefit your daughter.

On a side note, don't forget that kids are becoming sexually active at an earlier age as well. You need to prepare your daughters for things earlier on all fronts. I will give you two examples:
First, I was raped at 13. I didn't feel I could tell anyone and thought it was my fault. I was 22 when I finally told my mother. I don't want my daughters to have to face that. Since I wanted to prepare my daughter for what might happen, I told her what had happended to me and that it was wrong but not because of something I had done. I told her how to avoid situations like that and that sex is ok in its appropriate time and place. I choose to make nothing taboo just let my kids know about things we do not recommend but that if they do something that might not be "right" in others books to talk to us. I also told my daughter that if she felt she wanted to have sex with a boy to come talk to me about it so that she could think through all of the consequences of doing so. I am happy to say that she is still not active and has very little interest in dealing with boys at this time cuz as she puts it "Mom, most boys are just so stupid and immature."
Second, my sister is a 3rd grade teacher. She has had trouble all year with a little boy sexually harrassing his female classmates. He had to learn it somewhere but it is scary that we have to protect and teach our girls about this early.

To wrap up: my ultimate advice is to be open and honest with your children. Think things through and prepare them in an age-appropriate language for what they will experience as they get older. Be the parent and teach them before the schools do, whether it be through a class or other kids as you just don't know what information they will get.

Kelly - posted on 10/29/2009

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Wow, as I read these replies I realize I must be waaaay more open with my girls than the norm--hope I haven't warped them with too much information LOL! Actually, we are just really open about our bodies, I take baths all the time with my 3-almost-4-year-old daughter, and did the same with my 7-almost-8-year-old daughter. She still comes in there and talks to us when we are in the tub. They both come into the bathroom with me, and see what happens when I have my period. I was real open with all my kids when I was pregnant with the youngest, and then breasfed her for 15 months, so even my boys (teenagers) were used to that. My girls know that women have a period every month, and the blood comes out because our body doesn't need it, that if there was a baby in my tummy, the blood would be used to make the baby grow. They know that babies come out of a special place "near where pee-pee comes out, but seperate". Thank goodness, we haven't had to get into how the baby gets in there yet! Not sure how I'll explain that exactly, but I don't think it will be too difficult. Anyway, I never had any info from my mother, who is quite uptight about these things, so I guess I went completely the other way! I recently had to have surgery for a tubal pregnancy, which I explained to my boys briefly, and they didn't ask for too many details. I didn't tell the girls what my surgery was for, because I didn't want them to be upset about the baby. Anyway, try not to be nervous, go ahead and tell her, it is the most natural thing in the world, and it is so much better that it come from you instead of the girls at school (who knows what funny stuff they may tell her!) Good luck!

Julie - posted on 10/29/2009

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It would depend on the maturity of your child. My daughter got her first teeth at 3 1/2 months, therefore I new it woudl prpbably come early. i began "lightly mentioning it" when she was 10. Then we got further into questions and answers and discussing it when she took family life in 4th grade. That is where she learned the majority of information. So I would ask her when she came home from these classes "did you understand everything they told you"?, "do you have other questions"? and we would discuss them. She is slmost 12 now and is anticipating "the arrival" by carrying her pads in her purse.

So, no it is never too early to discuss the things of life. Also, I feel that if you begin talking to your child early, it will not be so "weird" later on to have discussions like these. And that includes any conversations about life in general.

I have been talking openly to my children since they could speak, now they are almost 12 and 14, there is no uncomfortable feelings when I bring up for example "bra sizes" with her or "what girl you like" with him.

Jasmine - posted on 10/29/2009

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i was 8 when i had my period and i was never told anything so i thought i was dying! i think you should discus it as soon as you think they have the caacity to understand or they start asking questions whichever comes first

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Nicolasena - posted on 12/09/2011

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wow I got my period in ninth grade but i knew about it way before then so I was not afraid I knew what to do.... my daughter is ten and really developed so she has known for about a year at least what I have told her. it was not easy but the more you speak about it it becomes natural. dont just talk about it once try to bring it up more than once because having a period can be SCARY~Help!!! I am bleeding!!! was the cry from a bathroom stall here at my job from a little girl whose mom did not have the talk or prepare her for it by putting a pad in a secret compartment in her bag (thats what I do for my daughter) but if you dont know what to say search the internet there are lots of helpful sites..

Kate - posted on 11/29/2011

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The best thing is to get her a book about mensuration and aks her to read it carefully.

Cindy - posted on 07/11/2011

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I told my daughter when she was in first grade she was in the bathroom with me granted I did not get into any specifics with her other then it happens once a month and I just am prepared and ready for it and I showed her the products I use too. She is now 8-1/2 and starting to wear a bra glad I talked about with her early...

Cindy - posted on 07/11/2011

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I told my daughter when she was in first grade she was in the bathroom with me granted I did not get into any specifics with her other then it happens once a month and I just am prepared and ready for and I showed her the products I use. She is now 8-1/2 and starting to wear a bra glad I talked about with her early...

Lynette - posted on 07/04/2011

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My daughters are 3 and 8 years. I got a book on puberty for both my girls but mainly for my older one, knowing that in a few years she will be going thorough this very thing. It tells them factual information, talks not only about your body changing but also about your emotions, bullying, friends etc. She asked me why I wear mommy nappies (sanitary towels) so I explained using the book that each month i will get a tummy ache and bleed. She has an understanding that one day this will happen to her and that it is nothing to be worried about and that we will make sure that in the bathroom there is mommy nappies for her to use. This is how I have explained this to my older girl and the younger one just thinks its funny that mommy wears a nappy for a week. Trick is not to force the issue, your daughter will ask you sooner than you think.

Stefanie - posted on 11/21/2010

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Well my kids already know what it is b/c they are terrible about giving me privacy in the restroom, LOL! They are 5 and 4 (my 1 year old doesn't count yet, right lol). I'll probably reintroduce it at 10-11 years old, that's when my school did it (about 5th grade).
At that time I'll give them their own stash of cloth pads, sea sponge tampons and a diva cup (which they probably won't use until they are junior high age). I'll give them a general idea of how to use them, I'll give them a book on tracking cycles and such, etc. It will be a special day and I'll have those above "gifts" ready for them as well as their own set of natural makeup, deodorant, Witch hazel (face wash), and I'll take them out with me to pick out their first bra. It will be a fun coming of age thing between me and them (individually). I'll probably have a very pretty special bag ready for them to store it all in, so that they aren't so embarrassed by it all.
My girls are already looking forward to becoming "women"! lol

Claire - posted on 11/12/2010

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i taught my daughter about periods when she first asked, i think that they will ask when they are ready to no and putting it off just makes them feel that they cant talk to you. she was about 7/8 when she first asked so i told her the basics, i also brought her pads when she turned 11 so she was prepared. shes 12 now and has just started her periods and had no problem with coming to me and letting me no, my mum didnt talk to me about these things and i was quite embarassed to tell her when i started, i feel close enough to my daughter to answer anything she asks honestly and openly.

Tami - posted on 10/20/2010

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i have a ten year old and we have disscused it as it comes up . make it simple for her to understand.

ALEXIA - posted on 06/13/2010

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my daughter is only 3 so i haven't thought much about how i will tell her but i started my period at 9 years old!!!! i had an older cousin who i lived with so i knew what it was bc her and my aunt had talked about it! goodluck

Cindy - posted on 06/02/2010

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start disussing it around 8 take her to the store down the isle that has the femine products and exspaine what they are used for and that she will someday use them

Farrah - posted on 05/30/2010

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I don't know when its "ideal" but anytime before they get different versions and become confused. MY daughter is nine and I'm planning on telling her next month, so that I can reassure and support her when she does, as I started my own when I was ten.

Jacqueline Sakala - posted on 05/28/2010

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Hi...well for me , i started 'hinting' when i noticed changes in her body, and she hated the sight of blood. I told her about periods not in detail and she was disgusted but thank God the school did the work for me, if u not sure talk to a female teacher to help, you will be amazed at how much the kids know already... and guess what happened to my dear daughter at only 10yrs old, yes she started her periods and at least she had the knowledge and its wasn't that bad after all... poor baby i think 10yrs is too young...All the best.. shes your baby tell her the truth when u think time is right...Good luck

Jodie - posted on 05/27/2010

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oops i havealready started taling about periods with my two girls they are 2 and 3. They have seen me changing my pad( they follow me everywhwere) I just say its my special blood and they will get it when they are big girls like mummy. I was an early developer so willbe going into more detail with them earlier than later, My mum let me play with her pads and tampons in water, seeing how much they could hold, It was kind of fun way to get to know these "scary thing" I also felt really important. Good luck

Penney - posted on 05/12/2010

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I'm not really sure what the best age is to tell her?? My 2 daughters are 2 and 6 and I'm sure it's something I will be thinking of sooner than later. I have spoke to other women on this subject and it seems girls are developing MUCH earlier than my friends and I did :(

Telika - posted on 05/06/2010

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hello,i talked to mine when they were like 5 yes kids well mine were fast learners,when my olest who is 12 and is menustrating,was 9 i let her come in the bathroom and watch me change i'll ask her to get me a pad,light day,or tampon,so she'll know the difference,kids learn by action i find,but i'm not going to lie,the first time we thought she had her period,i freaked out,i cried,she laughed,but when she got it for rwal she handled it well,she woke me up told me she got her period,for real she took a bath put on a pad and marked her puse calender just like i taught her and d now she refills her cosmetic bag for school,w/o my help the early you teach her the better

Angeline - posted on 04/20/2010

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i told my daughter when she was in fourth grade (age10) because i had started at that age.

Stacie - posted on 02/08/2010

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I also wondered when to discuss it with my daughter. Some of her friend's moms told me that their daughters had already started. And of course, had talked to them. (they were about 10/11) I figured since I was 14, I didn't need to worry for a while. I started to think more about it when I noticed that my daughter started developing at 11. I knew she needed the right info, not from her friends, but I didn't want to scare her either. When I took her for her physical, I quietly asked her doctor when I/we should expect things to start happening. She told me about a year after she "starts" to develop. My daughter had "the movie" in 5th grade. Luckily, by that point she had not had her first period yet. Although she did shortly after, (whew!) I had to sign a paper giving permission for her to see it. I used that as my opportunity to start up a discussion. The day she saw the movie I approached her after school and asked her about it. She told me all about it. I asked her if she had any questions and got her some supplies and told her they would be available when she needed them. I also picked out a little, discreet pouch/bag for her to keep pads and extra underwear in her schoolbag. I also asked her how much she knew before this. She said she knew nothing, but had it happened without some knowledge, she would have been terrified. I would suggest taking cues from her body. Just keep an eye on her physical development. But I would say by 4th or 5th grad at the latest. It will be a little easier to discuss it with her sister , when the time comes, since they share a room.

Gail - posted on 01/22/2010

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Kids are very observant - my 3.5 year old daughter surprised me the other day. I was getting dressed and opened my top drawer. My daughter asked me if I was getting a green nappy for my bleeding bits. I did not know what to say to that lol.

Hannah - posted on 01/21/2010

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I would say around the time she starts entering puberty. My poor little girl is 8 and in 3rd grade and she has started puberty. Breast buds, pubic hair, armpit hair, musky smell-the whole nine yards. So I am assuming the next phase would be her period. When I noticed her sprouting little breasts I went and got a traing bra to wear and began "the talk". Telling her how her body had begun to change. Then the other night she came out of the shower and told me she had hair on her privates. I really didnt know what to say but I took a deep breath and had a full length private talk with her. She asked what was going to happen to her next and I told her probably her period. So I explained what might happen and what she should about it. I went out and bought a "pms kit". A little purse with pads, wet wipes, and an extra pair of panties and I explained what to do. She has been so embarassed it makes me feel so bad for her but I was in 3rd grade when I got my period and my mother never told me what to expect or how to handle it. I told her it happens to all girls and I knew what she was going through. Now she at least feels comfortable enough to come to me with any questions.

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Well, that IS the only type of period she'd ever heard of before that. Seems like a totally logical response. To me that would've been a perfect opportunity to explain (briefly) what a period is. ;)

Shanika - posted on 01/20/2010

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Ok my daughter an I was in the bathroom togather I was about to get in the shower she notice that I was bleeding and ask ask me "mom are u bleeding" I replied yes. Then came the BIG question, she asked me why. I hide my face behind the cabinet door, my brain seem to go a hundred miles and hour trying to think what to say. I responded "It's just my period". She was so confussed she replied the most hilarious thing ever, she said what! A period goes at the end of a sentence!! HILARIOUS. I got in the shower and just ignored the conversation all togather. So I think its a maturity thing and when the questions start to follow. By the way she is 7yrs old.

Katie - posted on 01/13/2010

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I suggest finding an easy way to discuss around 3rd grade. Every girls starts at a different time but it is a scary thing to start and not know what is happening to you. I told my now 14yo when she was in 3rd grade. Its never easy but the more open you are the better. She and I sat down and talked about growing up and changing and what that would mean for her. She still has not started but she is prepared. I just kept it open and let her ask questions and I would ask questions to make sure she understood.

Cindy - posted on 01/09/2010

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I think because everyone develops at a different rate and the age that things happen can vary dramatically amoung individuals makes it hard. Perhaps the best approach is to gradually introduce different issues to your children starting at a younger age, moving up to more complex things as they get older.

Dolores - posted on 12/31/2009

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I started telling my daughter about it when she was 5. She found my tampons and started using them to stop the faucet, so (since she already had the right idea) I gave her a quick run through of what it was for; nothing graphic, just the basic statement. Over the years, I gave her more information, which she shared with her friends; by the time she had "that class" in the fourth grade, she was more than informed.

If she hadn't been playing with my stuff, I would have waited until she was around 8 or so to tell her about it. I remember getting my period at school and thinking that I was dying!! It took two days for me to realize what was going on. I was embarrassed and I would not ever want her to live through that sort of thing

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Quoting Kelly:

Wow, as I read these replies I realize I must be waaaay more open with my girls than the norm--hope I haven't warped them with too much information LOL! Actually, we are just really open about our bodies, I take baths all the time with my 3-almost-4-year-old daughter, and did the same with my 7-almost-8-year-old daughter. She still comes in there and talks to us when we are in the tub. They both come into the bathroom with me, and see what happens when I have my period. I was real open with all my kids when I was pregnant with the youngest, and then breasfed her for 15 months, so even my boys (teenagers) were used to that. My girls know that women have a period every month, and the blood comes out because our body doesn't need it, that if there was a baby in my tummy, the blood would be used to make the baby grow. They know that babies come out of a special place "near where pee-pee comes out, but seperate". Thank goodness, we haven't had to get into how the baby gets in there yet! Not sure how I'll explain that exactly, but I don't think it will be too difficult. Anyway, I never had any info from my mother, who is quite uptight about these things, so I guess I went completely the other way! I recently had to have surgery for a tubal pregnancy, which I explained to my boys briefly, and they didn't ask for too many details. I didn't tell the girls what my surgery was for, because I didn't want them to be upset about the baby. Anyway, try not to be nervous, go ahead and tell her, it is the most natural thing in the world, and it is so much better that it come from you instead of the girls at school (who knows what funny stuff they may tell her!) Good luck!



Perfect!  The 'advice' to wait til your daughter starts is truly heartbreaking!  Kids deserve an open and honest relationship w/ their parents.  They deserve to be prepared.  Don't worry, I highly doubt your honesty w/ your kids will scar them. :)

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The earlier the better. :) We probably 'started' talking about it when my girls (twins) were 6. We're pretty casual about stuff though.

Shannon - posted on 12/30/2009

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Sorry I am just seeing this but now a days I would start when they are about 9 years old cause they can get it anytime after that -- My mom never had the conversation with me till after as I was 10 when i got my first one = my friends little girl got her first period a week before she turned 10 and it was scary for her.... so I would try to do it before they get their first one -- even if only to say when it happens come see me right away

Rose - posted on 12/30/2009

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I don't know about the girl thing cause my parents never had the talk with me or never let me take the sex education classes either so i just asked my friends and my sister about everything i still kinda don't understand everything but i know the important stuff. With my nephew he is 7 and knows about the period and girls get it every month. He don't know all the technical stuff tho. He knows if you don't have one you might be pregnant but he don't know why. He is the one who came to me and my sister about it cause he was curious at a young age what tampons and pads are used for. Its funny cause he even knows which one me and my sister prefer. I don't see the point in trying to hide it even if they are young. just depends on your kids comprehension on things and he is very smart. With my daughter i plan on just telling her as she asks no matter the age i think it is important. Not only that i think it will help with other things to in the long run.

Tanya - posted on 12/24/2009

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I think it depends on when the women in your family and the father's family have gotten their periods. If you know she could possibly get it at age 9, then start discussing it then. I have a friend who all the women in both families got theirs young and she taught her daughter 3rd grade on to always have a pad in her backpack. SHe showed her how to use it and it was always there just in case. She didn't get her period til she was 12, but better safe than sorry. My mother was always very open so I knew about it at a very young age (like 6-7) I didn't fully understand til I was older, but I knew what it was.

Tina - posted on 12/15/2009

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I got the American girl book " The care and keeping of you" for my oldest when she was in 3rd grade(she is in sixth now) and my other daughters will read the same book as the are ready for it. I have 4 girls(11, 9, 5 and 16mths) so the book will come in real handy. My girls have always known that a mommy bleeds every but I am okay it is something that a body does in order for a women to have a baby.The book has given my 11 year old the information that she really needs to understand as she is a child who has to have ALL the information BEFORE it happens.I really think this book would help you and your daughter to read together( so it would be easier to explain as you read.)


hope this helps.
tina sanzone

Jodie - posted on 12/04/2009

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Please dont wait until she gets her period or she might get scared. My two girls see me change my pad and i tell them it is special mummy blood that you get when you are grown up to have babies. It can start off very simple, and then as children get older get into more detail. Kids only want the basics and will ask more questins when they are ready. Just an idea. Hope it helps. PS, dont wait until too long, as girls are getting their period earlier. I got mine when i was 10 years old.

Ellen - posted on 11/20/2009

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My 10 year old daughter started her period in August right before school started and she was set to enter 4th grade. Luckily, I had talked to her about it when she was in 3rd grade, so she didn't freak out. Honestly, I talked to her about it openly and frankly...I explained why we have a period and what to expect. I even showed her how to use a sanitary napkin and made sure she had one in her backpack in case her period started at school. Please don't refer to it as "the curse"..because that just sets up anxiety (you would be shocked at the mom's that refer to it as that in front of their tween girls). I think the most important thing is to give honest, factual information and allow them to ask questions.

Sarah - posted on 11/20/2009

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my oldes daughter has just turned 6 & she nos that when she is older she will get a period, she asked what my tampax were for & I told here straight out, she was not shocked as she had always seen me with them & lying around I would rather her just always know & be open about it so its no secret or somthing to be embarresed about as I was as a child, with my mother it was like some dirty secret & I dont want that for my daughters!!!!

Brenda - posted on 11/14/2009

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There is a great site called pinklockersociety.org I also discussed it with my girls when they turned 8.

Cathy - posted on 11/06/2009

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When my daughter was 9 years old, she started to grow her little girl boobies. I started to think that if she was starting to show this development at such a young age, who is to say other developments wont be following close behind. So that was the point that I thought I needed to have that little talk with her. She was more mature at that age than a lot of children so it wasnt a hard talk at all. And bless her little heart, believe it or not, she started her period about 2 months after we discussed it. At 9 years old! Sooo, I believe that each mom has to pretty much use her own judgement based on her observations of her own child.

Jameica - posted on 11/06/2009

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The earlier the better. I am a mother of 11yr old twin girls. They both started periods this year unexpectedly. I just basically sat down with them both showed them the pad. I explained to them this is a part of growing up, and told them not to be afraid. Also i explained to them consequences of this as well. Basically about the birds and the bees. I have learned you have to have an open relationship with your kids,don't sugar coat anything. Good luck.

Kelly - posted on 11/05/2009

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My daughter 10 (then 9) went into the bathroom one day after me. She came out a few minutes later and asked why there was blood in a (thing)!! in the bin? I knew I had to tell her the truth so I explained the whole thing about how when she was older this would happen to her. She was a little shocked but I think talking and trying to explain as best you can is all you can do. Good luck xx

Kristen - posted on 10/30/2009

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wow ..i must say ...all inall everyone is totally different ...but the younger u speak about it the better ...my daughter is now 7 an we had 2 have this talk when she was 6 ...the drs have told me she will be startin periods very young ...she understands that we as women get them for a reason ...an that it means u r goin into a young lady ...but for a 7yr old its still hard to understand ....but it has to be done ...i know very shortly my little girl is goin to be growin up very fast ... so u cant tell people to young is to young its the body that tells us ...look for the signs they r there
good luck ...cuase i know im gunna need it too ...

Rochelle - posted on 10/30/2009

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hmm I don't know about your school system I know here the nursing do a talk with our girls but then my daughter and I went on the internet to webmd.com and read about them and went over all of the female body parts starting in 3rd grade, and each year we get alittle more in detail.. but I explained to her a period and that it was a start to becoming a woman and someday a mommy when she was younger..

Stephenie - posted on 10/30/2009

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ok i was 12 when i started my period i was about 11 when i found out how babys were made...my mom went to the book store i forgot what the book was called but it was a book that explained everything that she couldnt or didnt kno how to explain, i plan on gettin that book for my daughter. so id say 11 or so most girls start periods around that age range and i was glad i knew what was happening when it happened

Ann - posted on 10/29/2009

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It is maybe not a good answer, but when I was doing some care courses at college quite a few years ago the lecturer told us to answer any question about the birds and the bees when the child maturely (as they can be for a youngster) approaches the subject. If it is on their mind then perhaps other girls in their class have started, and she might be joining them quite soon... The above answer is not really related to the average age that periods start, and I personally believe it would be good for her to be told before then. I started my periods at 11 years old and I knew nothing about it, I was petrified when they appeared!!! Maybe people disagree, but my 2 sons are 12 and 8 and my daughter is 7. My oldest son knows about periods, I am honest with him about the whole subject, he knows why I get them and my other 2 know that I have a period and it happens every month, but they don't know why.



Whatever you decide, good luck :)

Carissa - posted on 10/29/2009

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Well my daughter started her period when she was 9yrs old in the 4th grade. I did talk to her about that in the summer going into 4th grade because I already knew that the school nurse was talking to the girls about the reproductive system when they returned.

I would say 3rd grade may be a little still to young but some girls start as early as 4th grade and at that time schools usually start that discussion with the kids.

Tanya - posted on 10/28/2009

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There are some books out there that discuss the change for girls. Maybe have her read the book and then ask her if she has any questions. I would just wait til my daughter actually gets her period.

Simone - posted on 10/28/2009

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i have a coming on 11 year old daughter, i've been thinking the same question. i need to be thinking about having are little 1 on1 very soon. some the girls in her class have already started these, so i think i'm due a convo. i brought a book, and it shows and tells you everything you need to no. the hardest thing is i have a 7year old as well and she wants to no to so i don't no wot to do about it.

Beth - posted on 10/27/2009

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My DD's sitter when she was in Kindergarten had her 9 year start her period just before her 10th birthday.



I would say earlier is better just judge the amount of info you give to her to her age and readiness. I have honestly answered my DD's questions as they have come up and we have briefly touched on this - she's now 7 1/2. Sometime in the next year - year and a half we will discuss it a little more just to be sure that she's prepared enough that if she does start extra early as more and more girls seem to be these days that she'll be a little prepared for it, know what to do and won't think she's dying or something.



There are loads of great books out there check out your public library.

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American Girl Library has written a book called " The Care & Keeping of You". I started reading it with my girls about Grade 3. It covers everything including periods but has no graphics pictures, just drawings.

Iysha - posted on 10/11/2009

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I found out about my period when I was in 3rd grade from my mom. I also got more of a detailed description of what it was and why we get it in Family Life in the 4th grade. I got told that you get bleeding from "down there" when you are becoming an adult. It takes a whild for me to become a grown up, but that that was the first thing that happens. My mom showed me a pad and said that it was to keep me from staining my underwear and pants when I start to bleed. She just stopped it at there and the school talked about the whold reproductive system and that.



Just please tell her about it before she gets her period...My aunt was 13 when she got hers and she thought she was dying. Really...she thought she was going to die. Even after, her mom just told her that that means that now, if she goes near a boy, that she will have a baby. Not that if she has sex with a boy she will get pregnant, that if she goes near a boy, she will have a baby. It is kind of sad.

Robin - posted on 10/10/2009

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My daughter is in 4th grade and I have told her. She had asked me what my pads and tampons were used for, I decided right then I was going to tell her. I told her that when girls get to be a certain age they bleed and that when she got older and it happened to her that she didn't need to be scared.

I think that you should do it when you are ready and you think your daughter is ready to hear about it. You don't need to go into huge detail (my opinion) detail about it. Just explain it in a simple way and answer any questions she might have.

I say do it when you think she can handle that kind of talk. Don't feel rushed into it because someone said you should.

Sara - posted on 10/09/2009

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ok my mom told me when i was 11 when i come out of a restroom bathroom and i told her i need to see the docture asap she said why and i told her and that when she knew it was time to have the whole talk about ladys and boy's and where babys come from and what ladys go trow and that every month now i would be getting it untill am older so to aswer u wait for her to come to you but i would set myself up to have the talk with her try everyday looking in the mirro and talk to u as if it was ur girl and by the time comes it won't be so werid

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