When & how to start talking about puberty, sex, etc.?

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/11/2012

Everyone that has made comments has hit it on the head with the birds and bees talk timing. I personally Let all my girls know to ask me what ever is on their mind and I am very open with them but im not overtly open. I told them when they are ready to know to come to me and I will explain. I think that is soon because My oldest will be 11 years old this coming May 1 st.

Sofia - posted on 02/29/2012

Sex and puberty is a wide spectrum of things. So it depends on what you are talking about. For example, my daughter became aware of what a period is at a young age. She asked me around 4 or 5 why I wore a "Diaper". I corrected her and let her know it was a pad and more or less told her what it was for. I explained it in simple terms and without too much specifics. But atleast she was aware that it happens to all women and is perfectly normal. As she got older she started havingmore questions about it, and I answered them in the same simple manner- depending on her age and maturity level.



If your daughter ever happens to walk in on daddy while he's peeing, she might ask why boys stand up to pee and girls dont? It's also an opportunity to explain to her some of the difference between boys and girls.



If your daughter asks where babies come from, which it usually happens around 5 or 6, specially if you or someone she knows is pregnant, then you will have to give her some kind of explaination as well. I hope you dont tell her that the stork brings the baby! lol



As you can see sex education starts from the time kids are little. You start talking about it when they bring the questions to you. And how you react (comfortable, or uncomfortable) will let them know if they should come to you with these questions or if they should ask someone else. My 16 yr old still asks me questions about sex because I havent freaked out on her---as of yet lol.

Amy - posted on 02/25/2012

My daughter is 14. We have been talking about sex in almost all aspects ever since she was lil. Of course always age appropriate but it has always been an open and honest. Of course sometimes it felt awkward but she has always felt like she can ask me and tell me anything. I use TV programs that she watches to bring things up and ask her questions like what she thinks about this or that or what would sh do. I honestly think you can't start to young make it casual as u can and the more it comes up realty the easy it is but harder the questions are. The other day we were watching some movie and out of the blue she asks me about oral sex like she was asking what's for dinner bput for a minute I was floored. I did react just took deep breath and asked why she was asking to finds out what she wanted to know then I just told her no its not easy but has to be done and shehas know from beginning I want her to wait and so far she has made thar decision. I thing its because she's not as curious other girls her age she just asks me. Good luck

Erin - posted on 09/25/2011

I would start as soon as she gets her period. She'll have a lot of questions when she reaches that stage. Just go one step at a time, Don't do it all at once. Once she gets older teach her a little more as she grows older. Have her come to you and don't worry, your more afraid than she will be, just don't freak out when she wants to talk about this stuff.

Amber - posted on 09/18/2011

that's the thing..i'm going to home school her, so i'll be doing sex ed when she's ready for it (as opposed to public schools doing it when they think it's right)

Katherine - posted on 09/18/2011

I would start as early as 11. Girls now a days are getting their periods and becoming sexually active.

Be honest

Give her all info

If not she will get curious

Tell her how important virginity is.

I'm sure she will have sex ed too.