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Daughters bad behavior, HELP!

Elizabeth - posted on 02/26/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 6 year old is constantly acting up. We thought at first it was because we had a new baby (She is nearly 2 now) but, it has not gotten any better. Its only getting worse. She pretty much does what she wants and still has horrible tantrums. She hits her sister all the time, sometimes with toys. We talked to our doctor and she said there is nothing really wrong, just her way of adjusting. She is an angel at school and mostly everywhere else. Now the baby has started to fight back and I cant let that go on. I have put them in timeout and the baby will actually sit there and listen, but my older daughter will sit there and scream, and I mean SCREAM. We were at an orthapedic doctor last week and they were so bad that the nurses suggested behaviour therepy. I dont know what to do.

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Elizabeth - posted on 04/11/2011

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We have a 2 year old and a 5 year old ..and are expecting our 3rd daughter in 7 weeks 1 day (no ..not counting down here LOL) .
We rarely have tantrums from our 2 yr old and pretty much never with the 5 yr old..but I tell you this because I think the method we use works very well.

We ignore tantrums so there is no point in even having them in their eyes. We do not tolerate whinning ..we have trained them to use proper tone with us by repeating " I'm sorry, I cannot understand you when you speak that way" ...and we hold to our guns...if you aren't speaking nicely ..we don't know what you want.

All the behaviour you are experiencing is for attention it seems like..but the worst part is she has a little sister..watching and LEARNING! oops!

When we are going somewhere..before we leave the car I have a talk with them ...we are going to ..(wherever) we will be there for a while..and I EXPECT good behaviour ..no yelling no screaming no running. If you do not behave you will be punished..(I will absolutely give a timeout anywhere if it has to be done..and tehy know it).

Sometimes taking the child out of the situation can help as well.. if you are in a store and one is misbehaving..take her to the bathroom..I would stand them on the counter so we would be eye to eye and I give "the talk" ..You are NOT behaving..you are making mama very upset and I EXPECT you to behave yourself...when we go back out to the store you have to (whatever you want them to start doing).

I wish you the absolute best. Nip this thing quick ..before you have two little monsters running circles around you.

Maureen - posted on 04/11/2011

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My daughter acted out when each sibling came along. We tried giving her some one on one time so she could understand that she was still important. When she does act out I let her scream in time out and tell her that her time won't start until she is quiet. Being firm with your expectations helps alot. My daughter knows the boundaries. I tell her that it is ok to feel frustrated but not ok to hurt anyone. Good luck it can be difficult.

Jeannie - posted on 03/06/2011

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my daughter is acting the same way i just had a baby in dec and since hes been born shes only gotten worse she hasnt hit him thank god but she seems to think shes her own boss.she acts like this at school to.anyways i hope things get better cuz i know how u feel

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