cussing and saying inappropriate things

Helen - posted on 11/30/2008 ( 8 moms have responded )

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What do you do about your kids saying cuss words or inappropriate things? My son is almost 12 and at that age when those words start flying around. I was wondering how others discipline this sort of thing. Thanks!!

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Kohlsgirl2001 - posted on 12/17/2012

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hes 12 so there is nothing wrong with cussing at that age i myself have been cussing since a young age and still do and have a sister who has a dirtier mouth then me but its all because we are italian but i dont think that is my reason just part of it.

Angela - posted on 04/18/2009

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how old is your son now

and have you had any problems on the sexual end when he hit puberty

Sasha - posted on 04/18/2009

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angela, i was told to expect my son to be in a secure home by the time he was 11. it has been a long road, and at the moment things are hell, he has school finals in a month. I have put in a lot of work, hour on hour of talking to him and talking through each crisis. Over a 4 day period a few weeks ago i worked out that i spent 16 hours just talking to him 1 on 1. And there was nothing unusual in that. Sending him round to friends houses to play was always something very difficult. He didn't and still doesn't understand how to have or be friends on any real level. We are a long way from done, and I know there are still years to go before he can be independant but I don't regrett any of the work I have done, or how I have done it. I have not any any professional support, and very little personal support, so it has all been me. Stick with it, and set your sights on the long goal then get through each day as it comes.

Angela - posted on 04/17/2009

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my son does this i was told he doesnt have to capability to think before he speaks when he gets over whelmed my son is 13 and getting worse as he gets older the last person that seen him told me to keep him locked up like a hermit i will not do that to my child i just cant let him go anywhere unless i am there so he can go to kids houses to play

Sasha - posted on 01/25/2009

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It depends on why he's using these words. When my son was 12 if he was cussing at least it showed that not only was there something bothering him, but also that he KNEW there was. I have never 'encouraged' obsessions, and always talk through any emotions that he is feeling be they good or bad. He is a very bright kid, as most AS kids are, running top 3% in all tests despite not understanding the basic concept of 'cause and effect' or any retelling of anything. He does his school exams soon, and has a place at a good college. He has girlfriends a-plenty and breaks things because he does. He steals memory cards and earphones but outside the house people are always blown away when they find out he has AS. If your son is talking about his feelings, the last thing you want to do is punish him for the way he says it. Chances are he will misunderstand, and think you are telling him off for talking about his feelings, or worse, for having them in the first place. I hope you find a way through this bit. all the best

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As a teacher, I deal with this with many types of kids.  Try giving him alternative words to use.  For example, "dang", "fooey", etc.  With my own son, I've told him outright, "If you're going to talk to me like that, I don't want to talk to you" and walked away.  That's assuming that he's clear that the language is unacceptable.  Too much of it is modelled on TV shows, so with my son, it seemed like a normal way to be.

Linda - posted on 01/23/2009

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My son is a little over two and has picked up a few naughty words and I am having trouble with it too. I know it is a little bit of an age difference but if you guys find anything that works I am open to suggestions too. Good luck also.

Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2008

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My son is 11 and we use his speciality as a way to improve behavior. If he needs discipline we will take away the wii which is right now his obsession/speciality.

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