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How is school going?

Helen - posted on 08/31/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I think for us in the US school is in full swing. I was wondering how everyone's school year is going so far?

MY son is in the 8th grade and this is the second week of school. My son started last Wed. so he has only been in for 3 days now. We have moved so he is in a totally different city/school. He has to wear uniforms in this school and he HATES it. He is used to wearing shorts/pants with an elastic waistband and t-shirts. Now he has to wear polo shirts and khaki style shorts/pants with his shirt tucked in. I think this has been a big struggle for him in his mind. I just feel for him, a child starting at a new school not knowing anyone is very hard but for kids like ours its magnified 100 times. He got up one morning to use the bathroom and got back in his bed and I heard him crying. I went and asked him what was wrong and he said he hated his school. I was so heartbroken for him. I talked to him and left and heard him crying again :( I sent a note to his homeroom teacher which is the autism classroom and asked her to introduce him to some kids in the class etc. and she was very supportive and said she talked to his first period teacher and they were going to pair him up with a really nice kid, on the football team etc. kind of like his "buddy". My heart aches for him, I just want him to find just ONE friend. He doesn't need to have a million, just one. When I pick him up from school he is standing there all alone and I feel so sad for him :( I know he will eventually meet kids and it will take time. When he started at a new school for 6th grade it was the same way and he eventually met some kids and loved his school etc. On the positive - on the first day in his math class they played this math game and the teacher said whoever figured out the solution for winning everytime got to have a 100% on their math quiz. Well my son was the only one who figured it out :) Also this math teacher sent me an email and thinks he is too advanced for the class. He took an assessment and we are waiting for the results.

How has everyone else's school year been going??

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Amy - posted on 11/16/2010

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I just wanted to chime in that I'm in the same boat with my Aspie 11 yr. old. We started homeschooling after our move 2 years ago and now it's extremely hard for him to keep friends. They don't stick around for long. School was even more of a nightmare, so now that he's "happier" with every day life, we will continue to search for friends. It is very heart-breaking-no doubt!

Helen - posted on 11/15/2010

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Thanks Michelle!! I am happy to report that things are better!! He still hates school but has finally gotten to know some kids that he calls "friends" so I think he feels much more comfortable. I also found a social club that meets once a week in a town near us that he absolutely loves!! It is a group of about 6 to 7 boys and each week they tackle a topic such as empathy or why you're valuable, stuff like that. They hang out and play video games during free play then they get into the topic, play games and do activities relating to topic, have a snack and more free play. He really really likes it and seems to have clicked with a little boy there too. It's so tough for our kids to make friends, I hate that it's taken for granted by so many that just have no clue kids struggle with this. Do you not have a formal diagnosis yet?? Good luck with everything.

Michelle - posted on 11/14/2010

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(((Hugs))) I know how you feel about the friends thing. My son just shrugs it offf and acts like he doesn't care. But if I heard him crying I think I would just sit and cry with him. My 10 yr old has so many friends. He usually is with his friends and I ask him everytime to please include Brendan. Brendan just doesn't know how to "give and take" in a conversation however, and can't keep their attention for long.
He is also bored at school and gets impatient with other kids when they don't know the answers.
I want mine to have a friend too. Just one.
Most parents don't let their kids play with him anyway. He used to have compulsive behavior and was too wild.
Anyway, I would love to get an IEP for Brendan or a school that specializes in kids like him. I also am anxious to get a formal diagnosis. It is much more than ADHD.

Christian - posted on 10/04/2010

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My son is in the fourth grade he seems to be doing ok he only goes half a day i would like for him to go longer through the day. He only gets reading and math at school. I am hopeing to find out what i need to do to get it to where he can try to go longer.

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