I am worried about my 8yr old son. His aunty says he has Aspergers!

Kenny - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I dont know which way to turn, as at present i am having many problems with my 8year olds school. he has an IEP, of which he has had for 3 years and he still is not making any improvements at school. he cannot read and write (needs help to write his first name) he is at the educational level of a much younger child. But at school he is very quiet in the classroom, he does not get the most of what he is supposed to be doing, i am under the impression that as he is quiet and well behaved, they are just letting him sit there, whilst they get on with the lessons! this has gone on for years. he has behaviotr problems at home and when we are out and about, he does not listen to any instructions at all, will even reach out to attempt to stroke someones dog, even if it looks fierce etc, he is constantly bullied and does not seem to understand that the kids that are picking on him are NOT his friends etc, and each day we start the same routine again, i find that we are constantly chasing after him or telling him off and i can tell he doesn't get it, his teacher says he shows no emotions of happiness or upset and talks to someone who is not there. he is obsessed with the games console, and talks about it constantly, even if we are not having a conversation about it. he also does not get sarcasm, or when he says innapropriate things to strangers or if someone is upset, and he behaves like he is a naughty toddler. i hate having to tell him off constantly for his innapropriate behaviour and language, as i know it is not even gouing into his head as he is preoccupied with something else. he does have other quirky ways etc, too many to try and list in this one post, but i would just like some advice on what to do or what the problem mite be, a few of my partners bropthers and sisters children have got aspergers, and his sister, (who has an aspie teen) says she is quite certain by what she has seen of him that he has aspergers, i dont know where to turn, the school are aware of my concerns, but dont seem interested in helping him, my main worry is that when he will be going up to high school, well he wont be able to cope at all as he doesn't even understand what they are doing at lower primary level? please tell me what you think it will be greatly appreciated.

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Lisa - posted on 04/26/2012

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You need to take him to see a doctor, tell him or her all of your concerns and ask for a referal to a specialist such as a psychiatrist. He needs to be properly assessed by someone with the training to diagnose him.



My son is in the process of being diagnosed with AS and so I've done a ton of reading. Most children with Asperger's Syndrome are very bright, often ahead of their peers in language or math (my son started reading at age 3) but behind in other ways such as fine motor skills, athletics, and things like feeding themselves. Also, it is often confused (both ways) with ADHD. The only way to really find out is to take him to a doctor. I live in Canada and the doctors are covered under our universal health care so money was not a concern for us, which is something I feel very grateful for. But, still, if you can find some way, the only thing to do is seek professional help.

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Lisa - posted on 04/27/2012

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I'm glad I could help. I know how worried we were before we started seeing doctors who were experts and hope I can pass on some of what we've learned and experienced.

Kenny - posted on 04/26/2012

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Thanks Lisa for responding to my post, I live in the UK so the NHS covers cost, unfortunately most of the professionals so far like the educational psycologist my son has seen only looked at some of the education problems, as Vince is Very Very behind his peers, yet excells at other things, the other non educationa things dont count, now i have read your reply i do feel encouraged to seek a different typr of help perhaps, thanks very much, i will let you know what happens. thanks again evie craig..

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