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My son was recently diagnosed with asperger's his teacher does not understand

Yvette - posted on 06/10/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hi all, I really need some help my son has recently been diagnosed with asperger, his teacher does not like him at all, this makes him very unhappy, we have discussed his diagnosis with the school and the teacher but still she constantly fighting with him for not looking her in the eyes when she speaks to him and sometimes adressing her, according to her not as "mam or teacher". He also think that he does not have friends and that every body hates him at school. The teacher will sometimes send me a message that he misbehaved in class and when I confront him he will tell me that he did not misbehave, and I attend to believe him when he says that. Is this normal reaction for a child with aspergers, I know that we as a family should get help in coping with this. My son is turning 12 and does not understand why he needs to go through all these dr's, psyciatrist and psychologist tests. How do I explain to him what is wrong.

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Charlene - posted on 06/10/2011

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I know it was hard for me to wrap my head around my son having asperger's. But after a while I guess I just got used to it. My son took a lot longer to do so - he was 9 at the time of diagnosis. The thing that helped the most was information. I read everything I could find on the asperger's syndrome, both books and online. Now that I have a lot more knowledge on the subject than before, I'm more comfortable with it. So I would advise you to read as much as you can, your son too.

It took a while for my son to be interested in what AS meant. He didn't want to hear anything about it at all. A book that I got for him to read is called, "Can I Tell You About Asperger Syndrome? A Guide for Friends and Family." It not a long book but gives a good overview of what typical behaviors are for AS and how to help someone with AS.

One thing I've stressed to my son (and my other children too) is that AS is not so much of a disability as it is a difference. Having AS means thinking about things differently and processing information in a way most people don't think about. It doesn't mean they are cold-hearted, disrespectful people - although sometimes they can come across that way.

As far as his teacher goes, it sounds like she has some issues of her own going on if she can't at least try to understand where your son is coming from. Hopefully he won't have to deal with her much longer. But the thing is, he is going to run into people that expect to be addressed in a certain manner, whether that's his boss, wife, or co-workers... He's going to have to learn some "rules" of social behavior to get along in the world better. Good luck!

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