What behaviors does your Aspie child exhibit that you find to be peculiar?

Karen - posted on 02/15/2009 ( 62 moms have responded )

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Hello Moms,



I find myself asking the same question over and over again, is this a normal behavior for a child with Asperger's? My son exhibits behaviors that I find rather bizzare. Often times, when we hear that this is a common characteristic of Aspie chldren, then it's almost like we can breathe a sigh of relief. I'd like to hear from other mothers who have teenagers with AS to share what they have observed with their own child. For example, my son has a fascination with batteries and removes them from all remote controls in the house. He also hoards food in his bedroom, and I find it hidden in the strangest places. Is this normal for an Aspie?



I look forward to hearing if you, too, are experiencing the same with your teen.



Karen

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Sasha - posted on 03/31/2009

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i think if the world needs you badly enough it will call you back. Untill then, might as well roll with it lol

Michelle - posted on 03/30/2009

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sanity is waaayyy over rated, you can live quite happily without it...!

Michelle - posted on 03/29/2009

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omg...no way are you alone in that one, sascha!!! do you remember when steve erwin the crocodile guy died? my son nate...every time he remembers that steve erwin died, its like he has just been told and he is devastated every time it happens....he just sits there saying its all my fault, its all my fault.....he is just beside himself! although, funnily enough when it was put on the news about him dying, nate was actually in and out of conciousness because he was really really sick in hospital with meningitis....he didn't find out about it till weeks later but was still super upset about it, still is years later...! he often does that though, if he remembers something that really upset him, he will start crying and its like whatever it was has just happened all over again....doesn't really seem to matter how much time has passed either! gotta laugh, hey.....?

Sasha - posted on 03/25/2009

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am I the only one who's child only remembers things when he is in the same state of mind he was in when it happened? I feel like a looped recording right now saying the same things over and over. Oh well, come WAY to far to give up now.

Helga - posted on 03/25/2009

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it's so good to hear of all these pecularities, and a positive outlook on life just the same. My 10 year old aspie son was diagnosed just å little over a year ago, and I found it to be a relief. Finally some of all his strange behavour could be acconted for. He's the nicest boy ever, but he does so many strange things, and sometimes he'll say just as strange things too. I'm just sorry I haven't written it all down.

I do see these children as precious and think we all have a lot to learn from them. I think that they can give us an aspect to life and the way we see different situations and matters that is really valueable, just because they experience life differently.

Don't get bitter and resentful if you can avoid it, just go with it as best you can. good luck to you.

Sasha - posted on 02/23/2009

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My son is 16. He too has food stashes. He also has a thing for batteries, and also likes charger cables, memory cards, phones, printer stickers and lots of other things that there is no logic behind. He breaks all the clips off pens. He puts clothes, either dirty or clean, over his pillow. He has no idea how he is supoosed to remember where he puts things. I found out yesterday that he gave my engaement ring to a girlfriend about 18 months ago. I had previously had a row with her pointing out that she must not expect 'normal behaviour' from him because he is autistic, but that made no difference to her. She is 14 I think, and one backchat queen.
Alec also steals toy cars from my (also aspie) father. It is hard letting them be together. My dad doesn't know he has aspergers, so thinks these behaviours from Alec are normal. This has made it harder to work out what is normal and what isn't. Likewise my mother is frequently at loss as to my fathers behaviour, which is often totaly unreasonable and odd. I have no idea how much will change as he grows up. I think the fact that he knows he has the syndrome is to his advantage - as he develops more inter-personal relationships he is going to have to learn to not blame other people for these odd behaviours. I forsee needing to have a good relationship with any long-term partner he gets involved with in order ot help when these problems come up. All in all it does leave me pulling my hair out at times.

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2009

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also, we have had the lolly wrapper thing as well...at least then we knew for sure that the kids (well, some of them anyway!) knew where the not so secret lolly stash was! my daughter was given a mobile phone for her b'day (not from us...i wasn't all that happy about it) and i said to her she was not to take it to school. first day back, i get a message at lunchtime saying 'mum..it's me..what are you doing? i hate school already and i miss you...'. i sent one back saying 'thats nice dear...take your phone to the office immediately...'. another thing...does your son share a room with anyone else? during the holidays, valysha (daughter) moved into her own room, and so far the hoarding doesn't seem to be as bad as it has been in the past...well, for now anyway!

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2009

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am sitting here laughing my backside off......!!!! with you, not at you, mate! i think its unusual to have found two different aspergers kids who do similiar stuff, myself. although its not always positive, my daughter has many other frustrating habits that have been known to bring me to tears on occassion...just have to go with the flow...some days are better than others! (isn't that parenting in general, though?). i find my son lots easier to deal with but think that this is because he was diagnosed alot earlier than my daughter (not long after he turned 2) and as such, has had alot more early intervention than my daughter who was diagnosed at 7. i'm sure that that will change, more than likely but its good to be able to have a laugh about the whole thing sometimes! nate has been obi one kanobi all week now...time to change the movie!

Karen - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

lol...i have two kids with aspergers (a 12 yr old girl and 5 yr old boy) who have both done those things....i don't even bother trying to find the bloody batteries anymore and my daughter at one stage got so bad with the food hoarding thing, she had a little community of mice living in the bottom of her wardrobe! my son has also had obsessions with gum boots, he went through a stage where he would wear them all day and sleep in them as well. at the moment, its superheroes...he will vapourise you if i call him nate (which is actually his name!). i guess as he gets older these things will change...my daughter is a big big fan of having other stuff hoarded in her room now...no longer food (thank god!) but just 'stuff'...bits of screwed up paper, scraps of material, pencil shavings..the list goes on. i don't worry too much over it all, i used to know a lady whose daughter has aspergers and her obsession was moisturising cream. not a bad thing in itself, but she liked to have it smeared all over her feet and in her knickers...am glad i haven't had to deal with that one! i don't think anything is abnormal for these kids...and at the end of the day as long as its not something that is going to put them or anyone else in danger, just go with it.....good luck and take it easy!



 



Hi Michelle,



Thank you for your wonderful advice. You certainly have a positive outlook and approach to these behaviors. When you mentioned your daughter hoarding screwed up paper, etc., I could totally relate. My son, Matt. hoards the exact same items. His latest has been used candy wrappers and he puts them in all sorts of places.



It always makes one feel better when they can swap stories; it gives you a sense of comfort when you hear other mother's stories about their child with AS.



I appreciate you taking the time to write.



Karen





 

Michelle - posted on 02/16/2009

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lol...i have two kids with aspergers (a 12 yr old girl and 5 yr old boy) who have both done those things....i don't even bother trying to find the bloody batteries anymore and my daughter at one stage got so bad with the food hoarding thing, she had a little community of mice living in the bottom of her wardrobe! my son has also had obsessions with gum boots, he went through a stage where he would wear them all day and sleep in them as well. at the moment, its superheroes...he will vapourise you if i call him nate (which is actually his name!). i guess as he gets older these things will change...my daughter is a big big fan of having other stuff hoarded in her room now...no longer food (thank god!) but just 'stuff'...bits of screwed up paper, scraps of material, pencil shavings..the list goes on. i don't worry too much over it all, i used to know a lady whose daughter has aspergers and her obsession was moisturising cream. not a bad thing in itself, but she liked to have it smeared all over her feet and in her knickers...am glad i haven't had to deal with that one! i don't think anything is abnormal for these kids...and at the end of the day as long as its not something that is going to put them or anyone else in danger, just go with it.....good luck and take it easy!

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