How long has everyones partners been a policeofficer....

Jennifer - posted on 01/24/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My husband has been a police officer for about 8 years. He works for a town in Georgia where there are only about 18 police officers on the force and is waiting to here if he made sergeant...

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Charlisa - posted on 09/13/2013

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My husband has been a police officer for 20 years. He has several chances to move up in rank but he loves being a patrol officer.

Kelli - posted on 03/08/2010

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My hubby has been a cop for almost 6 years now. It never gets any easier. When he used to come home for dinner (is on days now, instead of graveyard shift like before!) and would get called out for some guy with an AK-47, it kills me a little each time. But he is on days now, and so far it seems a little easier.

Ellen - posted on 11/10/2009

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Quoting Christy:

My hubby has been a police officer for 11 years, and we have been together for 10. He works in a small town, and has been the detective there for about 3 years. I hated when he was on shift work. Now that he is detective he makes his own hours for the most part. Luckily, he became detective just when we had our son, so it's been nice. This past September one of his coworkers was killed in an accident. Junior was on duty at his part-time police job where he was doing a motorcycle ride for charity and was hit by a truck. It was the second worst thing I have ever gone through, and the single worst thing my husband went through. He hasn't been the same since.



Our dept recently lost an officer to a friendly fire incident.  It was a horrible tragedy for the family and a traumatic loss for every officer on the dept.  Just remember grieving is a process and it takes some longer than others.  I agree, it is a horrible thing to go through for the family of the fallen officer, for the co-workers and for the families of the brother officers as well.  You are suddenly keenly aware of the true dangers that can befall your loved one.  Its an emotional time, but its a time when officers and their families truly pull together...supporting and helping each other thru a heartbreaking and difficult time.  If your husband's dept has a grief counselor/therapist encourage him to talk to them.  There is no stigma in needing help. 

Ellen - posted on 11/10/2009

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My husband is a LT with 20 years, he's currently a shift commander. He's also the SWAT/Sniper Assist. Commander--and has been on the Swat team since it started (13 years ago) as both a swat operator and a sniper. We've been married for 14 years.

Leslie - posted on 05/14/2009

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My husband has been a Sherrif's Deputy for 8 yrs in Texas. We worked together for about a year when I first started dispatching. He worked nights and I worked days so we never saw each other at all. I still work in law enforcement but with another agency and that is alot better for us. We still don't see each other much because I work 8-5 and he works 4:30p to 2:30a and we live out of the county so he doesn't get to bring a car home so on a good night he is usually home by 3:30-4. When he works his weekday stretch the kids don't get to see him for 6 days. It's really hard on them. I just get use to it

Christy - posted on 04/19/2009

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My hubby has been a police officer for 11 years, and we have been together for 10. He works in a small town, and has been the detective there for about 3 years. I hated when he was on shift work. Now that he is detective he makes his own hours for the most part. Luckily, he became detective just when we had our son, so it's been nice. This past September one of his coworkers was killed in an accident. Junior was on duty at his part-time police job where he was doing a motorcycle ride for charity and was hit by a truck. It was the second worst thing I have ever gone through, and the single worst thing my husband went through. He hasn't been the same since.

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2009

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My husband has been an officer for about 7 years. He currently works for Sykesville PD.

Laura - posted on 04/08/2009

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My husband has been a police officer for right at 8 years, He works in Athens-Clarke County

Tounine - posted on 02/22/2009

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My hubby has been an officer for about 5 years.  Two years at Prince William Co., VA then we moved for my work so he took a break.  Now he's an officer for a small township in PA, there's only about 20 officers.

Andrea - posted on 02/05/2009

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Jennifer, I totally understand how you feel. The town where my BF is pretty understaffed right now, so he picks up lots of extra shifts, both on the road and in dispatch. I work a 9-5 job, so sometimes we can go for days without seeing much of each other. Sometimes it's a big treat to be able to sleep in the same bed at the same time, even if it's only a few hours. He used to work with a drug task force (was undercover), so I can empathize on the TAC team! Called away with no notice, and not knowing when you will see or talk to him again. If I was lucky I'd get a quick text from him saying he was "out" after he got a phone call. We're both glad he's out of that now. Knowing he was turning himself into a totally different person from the one I love, and going into situations with nasty people and not being very well protected used to scare the hell out of me.

When your daughter gets older, I think she will understand. My son is 5 and when he asks questions, we tell him that my BF was working while we were sleeping. He understands that when he is working, he is helping to protect everyone else. I've tried to teach my son to feel proud and lucky to have someone like that in our lives. In my eyes, see all our significant others as heros for all they do and endure for the sake of other, often without recognition and appreciation for the sacrifices they and their families make.

Jennifer - posted on 02/05/2009

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My husband has been a Sheriff's Deputy for 9 years now inCass County, MO.  It has gotten a bit easier to deal with his job until our daughter entered the picture 18 months ago.  He works the 7p-7a shift, so he misses a lot on the nights and weekends he works.  My husband is also on the TAC team (similar to SWAT) and can be called away at any time.  This is when I get nervous and worried, especially since I cannot talk to him during the call out.  The holidays he has missed since our daughter have been born is a part of life, but I just know I will be the one to bear the brunt of her questions when she gets older for why is Daddy at work and you are off of work?



I have never worked with my husband, and I don't think I want to.  His job is stressful enough.  Which is why I think the families try to get together once or twice a year from his shift just to enjoy the non-stressful company.  This helps us spouses to gain friendships in the other wifes/husbands if any thing where to happen.

Janet - posted on 02/03/2009

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I could not imagine working with my husband.  I would be scared to death every time I knew what kind of call he was sent out on.  No, I prefer to live over here in the land of oblivion and just read about his heroics in the newspaper or revel in the few details he chooses to share with me.

Andrea - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi Bridget: I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you to work directly with your fiance! My BF & I work in the same town, and I'm a paralegal - our office represents the Village, so while we don't work directly together, it can be tough at times, especially because we can't talk about some things at home due to confidentiality issues. Everyone in my office is great though, picking up the work on the PD files and keeping me out of the loop on them so nobody has to deal with the potential conflict of interest. We're in a small town and my office is small, so there are always things I end up seeing or hearing that often bother me. It can be tough, but we deal with it, and we're both pretty good at stopping each other if one of us starts talking about something that the other is involved in. There are perks though - all his co workers are super nice to me! they know they need to be because of him, but also because if they make a mistake or make someone mad, I could be helping to defend them!

Bridget - posted on 02/01/2009

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My fiance has been an Officer for 9 years in a suburb of Cleveland. I've been a dispatcher in the same department for 8. It's rough! We work together quite a bit. He works 12's from 7p-7a & I work 8's from 3p-11p. I've dispatched about 3 of his vehicle pursuits & countless numbers of foot chases. Talk about stress! Anyone else work with their significant others?

Janet - posted on 01/28/2009

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Andrea:  Imagine your teenage daughter having a police officer for a "daddy"!!!  She is constantly whining to me that he is over-protective.  And I'm sure that's probably MORE so than the average dad, because of all he sees, especially along the lines of date-rape, etc.  And he makes me carry a cell phone, which I really had to get used to, as I hate cell phones and hate the feeling of being "tied" to a phone when I'm out.  But I can definitely see the plus side of that!



 

Andrea - posted on 01/27/2009

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my BF has been a police officer for 8 years, and we've been together for almost 2 now. He warned me from the beginning how difficult this life could be, and I made the decision early on that I wasn't going to let his job get in the way of our relationship. It's well worth it. I will admit that it is a bit easier since he's taken a new job in the same town I work in. He's the SRO and Juvenile Services Detective. Much better than what he was doing when we first met - task force. I will agree that the shifts sometimes stink... just when we think we can have some alone time or sleep in the same bed at the same time he gets called in! I do worry about what could happen to him at work, but I also know that he sees so many things that happen in our small town that most people couldn't imagine happening, and he worries about me just as much if not more. He even makes me carry OC (same type he carries, but I got mine in a pink container :) ) and keeps urging me to think about carrying a handgun. Anybody else's other half this nervous/protective?

User - posted on 01/26/2009

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I don't think it gets easier at all... I've gotten used to the shifts but thats about all. My husband was a police officer in St. Louis City and I hated that and when we started our family he came to florissant which made me feel a little better since it's not the city. Overall I still worry all the time.

Dawn - posted on 01/26/2009

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my husband has been and officer for abotu 13yrs now.  He gave up his sargent strips to ride on a motorcycle for  another town.  he loves riding the bike



Janet - posted on 01/25/2009

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So what do ya'll think?  Does it get easier for you to be a cop's wife the longer he's worked as a police officer?  Or harder?  Or stays the same?

Janet - posted on 01/24/2009

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My hubby has been a police officer for about 9 years.  He first worked in Athens-Clarke Co., Georgia, but now works for a smaller agency, where he ranks as sergeant.  He used to be in CID in the Crimes Against Children division, which he LOVED, but had to go back to road officer when he ranked sergeant.  I know he misses that TERRIBLY because he felt like he was making a difference in the lives of abused children instead of just writing traffic tickets.

User - posted on 01/24/2009

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My husband has also been a police officer for about 8 years. He worked detached with the FBI and Marshalls for a while and now is a detective in Florissant, MO.

Jennie - posted on 01/24/2009

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My husband has been on the street for 19 yrs. I have been a police dispatcher for 21 years....not in the same department.

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