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i just need ideas

April - posted on 01/27/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

So my seven year old has a very slight learning disability, he is in physical therapy, speech and OT. He has a suppressed immune system, he needs glasses and his right ear drum has been injured a bit from so many ear infections that he's had in the past. He cant eat all that well by mouth so we have him on tube feedings. He has had a heart transplant and ON TOP OF ALL OF THAT! he has ADHD and ODD..
I had a baby girl and she's not so much baby girl anymore but almost two. they just dont get along all that well. I'm looking into a family therapist because my son cant communicate his feelings all that well so we are (over statement) at war half the time. they get along like cats and dogs. He is hitting her and she is clawing at him every time she doesn't want him around. Im afraid she'll turn into a bully towards other kids. He's just not getting it that she is littler than him and I'm always running to her whenever I turn my back because she's crying. He looks at me and expects that its not his fault. He get's angry and growls and moans because she is crying and he thinks that he doesn't deserve a time out or get told right from wrong. I don't know what to do.

I guess since this group is about heart defects and we sorta solved that problem we sorta belong in this group but sorta don't. Any inspirational words or ideas? I'm not here saying that I've given up Im just saying that parents are the best advocates for their children and that if we dont fight for them then who will. Even when it comes to doctors parents always know best and doctors can come in second, because were the one that says yay or nay. We know our children better than anyone else. we carried them for nine months and our blood runs through their veins. I'm just running out of ideas or to help him. the doctors arent coughing up the right reasons or just running out of ideas like I am. I'm getting frustrated and worried and stressed but I try not to show it. He is a really good reader, social butterfly, smiliest little boy and very empathetic towards others. Any ideas ladies?

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Catie - posted on 01/27/2009

I read an article the other day about a case study spicifically about the sibling of a child with special needs. The sibling, a girl, began acting out because she did not have anything she could call "her own." Both of them were going to the same preschool and there was a lot of attention being given to the child with special needs. What they did was take turns taking the girl out for something fun while the child with special needs receive therapy. This would give the girl something special to do and receive good attention as to the negative attention she was getting. It was a great article that I read for my special education class, but I do not have much experience working with special needs children. Have you tried google-ing special needs articles or special education articles? There are a lot of great websites out there with some amazing articles and case studies that might really help. I hope this helps some! If you need help with finding some good websites I would be happy to pass along info from my special education class! =)