can my daughers daddy get sole custody of our daughter even though we already have a custody agg

Francis - posted on 05/15/2011

i know i shouldnt take her daddy away and despite everything that he has done i don't want to do that because he has never tried to hurt her, other than pulling stunts like this. I don't have the money for a lawyer and legal aid turned me down. so i cant get a lawyer and he has one. thats my biggest fear is that he has a lawyer and i don't. she has her own room in the apartment i am renting with her own bed. she doesn't have her own room at her daddys and he still lives with his parents so he isn't even living on his own yet he is trying to get sole custody of her. I just don't understand. ive tried to work with him and get him to talk to me so we could work this out instead of going to court but he continues to just throw things in my face.

Andrea - posted on 05/15/2011

Seriously you don't want to counter file for no visitation. I know you are stinging right now and that this is a pain in the butt but don't do that to your daughter.

If your daughter is well cared for in your home, if your home is sanitary and she is getting what she needs then you should be fine, perhaps he is filing for full custody thinking along the lines of a market sale and he will bargain down to 50/50?

Keep a diary of all comings and goings. Stick to the custody agreement like glue and make sure that no matter how you feel about her dad you NEVER speak I'll of him in front of your little girl or about his partner (if he has one) because once again it's not fair to her.

Why won't the other lawyers work with you?

Be mature about this, making him miserable is not the answer, all that will lead to is more misery for everyone! Especially your daughter. If you love her get this sorted, be fair and do your best to act like an adult, rather than a hurt child. He isn't her mom, but he is her dad and she loves him, if you deprive her of him then at some point she will come to realize what you did and I promise she WILL hate you for taking her daddy away!

Francis - posted on 05/15/2011

how do i file for him to get no visitation with her? the hearing officer conference is in the morning. I don't have a lawyer either legal aid turned me down and no other lawyer will work with me.

Candace - posted on 05/05/2011

Well, if ur that confused and angry just let them know enough is enoug! Go back to your original custody agreement and then go and talk to your lawyer. Document everything, when you have let him have them before the agreement you have after the agreement you have. Don't give him any rason to think that you would be unfit. Makesure you cover your footsteps girl, beat him at his own game and file for no visitation no time be real blunt with him if he wants to play nasty then play nasty with him to a certain extend that is not going to have your child confused, and torn apart. He ried once before and failed so you should know that number one your not an unfit mother and second you can get through this just have faith in God. and third make his life miserable and let him know that it's not that easy s he thinks.