Are your pre-teens or teens driving you crazy?

Lisa - posted on 01/18/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hello, I decided to open a community for people with pre-teens and teenagers because I noticed all the other communities are for younger kids. Lets face it, the older the kids the help we need. I want to here some of your ups and downs of raising " the worst age group" kids. We all need advice on them.

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Tina - posted on 07/07/2011

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Trust me, you are not alone. I've raised my children to show respect, caring, love for others but when my son hit 12 he became a different person. It is the age, but there is no excuse for it. I too have taken away all of his toys, games, phone, computer and he acts the same way. However, I sat him down just the other day and explained to him that I am not going anywhere, that he is stuck with me and I'm the one that makes the rules. He can either make his life easier by going along with them or by making his life miserable and disobeying them. It appears that if they don't have they way all "hell" breaks lose. It's frustrating and often time so unfair and unrewarding. I'm the one that sets the rules so unfortunately I'm the one that he hates most of the time. All I can say is "Pray" like I do and hope this will pass.

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Roseanna - posted on 08/14/2013

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Well my name is rose and im 31 married to husband for two years and we are a combined family i have four children and he has two we have. Child together well to top that my 15 yr old was always told ur the man of the house and u need to take care of ur mom well he did that now that im married my husband he told him son u don't have to grow up so fast be a kid and let me take care of u guys now and son is not quite used to that so lately or lets put it like this I've he problems with my 15 yr old since he was 9 on stealing,over eating,laziness,bully to siblings,sneaking food,and failing classes so now we have moved to wanting to send him to a scared straight program but don't want him to harden up to us like if we ate pushing the progress of his behaviors we are in need of really good counseling for our family cause it starts with the parents and my son and i have been through alot from abuse,mentally,emotionalally,and physically,by my ex needing some help and advice please!!!!!!!!!

Caroline - posted on 06/11/2012

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thank you so much its nice to know you are not alone it is difficult and painfull i hope i can get through it

Amy - posted on 03/24/2012

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I have a 12 year old and im dreading the next few years, i really am worried. He too can have an attitude problem at times, lets just hope it wont be half as bad as im expecting :).

Jen - posted on 07/17/2011

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Thank you so much Tina for the encouraging words....things have gotten a little better. I think he is finally realizing that it is not going to be his way all the time and he gets to do what he wants when he obeys the rules.

Amy - posted on 05/11/2011

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This is a terrific time! I refuse to accept that this has to be the "worst age group". I have a wonderful relationship with my 13.5-year-old son. But he knows the boundaries of acceptable behavior, there are always consequences to behaviors (good or bad), I am consistent in enforcing rules, and I have established myself as a parent. I am not his maid, I am not his personal chef, I am not his chauffeur, I am not an alarm clock. I am his mom!
I have a goal for our family. It's to raise kids who are confident, caring and capable citizens. I figure if they are these things, that they will also be happy and successful in their chosen careers and that they will make good life choices.

Jessica - posted on 01/18/2011

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Thank you for creating this community. I get the "joy" of having 3 pre-teen boys at home, and I've the idea that the next 8 years or so are going to be nerve-wracking to say the least. Little kids I can deal with easily (I'm studying to be a pre-K/Kindergarten teacher), but I have no idea what's normal for this age. So I'll probably be on here a lot.

My primary concern today is my 12-year-old's negative attitude toward just about everything. His stock reply to any question is "Sure, why not." or some other smart-aleck comment. He also acts like a jerk toward his brothers, like if one is reading, he thinks it's funny to just walk up and knock the book out of his hands. I asked my husband if this is typical behavior for a 12-yo boy, but he says he doesn't remember.

Jen - posted on 06/04/2010

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Lisa,

First off, I would like to thank you for opening up this community. Pre-teen and teen years by far seem to be the worst. Maybe I am wrong but terrible two's were never that terrible.

I have a 13 year old son who thinks he rules the roost. He is very defiant and just does what he pleases. I have taken everything away from him that I possibly can think of and yet he just doesn't care. I have been told by several people that this is normal teenage behavior. He is just trying to find himself. Maybe I am off my rocker but I never spoke or acted the way he does toward my parents. What has happened to following the rules and showing respect?

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