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Edna - posted on 10/23/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son Alex is the only child we have. He's 10 months old. Alex gets spoiled by everyone, he's too stinky cute. Everyone is very hands on with him, and we've spoiled him. Grandma or as he calls her mom also is even worse. Lately Alex has been a bit of a little CLING MONSTER, I walk away from him, he screams, I can stand by the door and pull it in front of me and he will scream, its so bad I sometimes have to put him down, walk away in order to do the things I need to do. Mom hates to hear him cry, so the minute he saids ahh someone takes him right away, when its just the two of us, even though there are times when I do cry hearing him cry I feel as though I have to do that in order to get things done. How did everyone deal with this problem? Being a new mom, its hard and I GET VERY SAD WHEN I HAVE TO DO THAT. Hes near me the entire time, but he wants me to hold him the entire time. One day I put him down to do somethings around the house, he was so upset so I picked him up, he grabbed me and held on so tightly and buried his face in my chest until he fell asleep. How do I start to work on this

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Hannah - posted on 11/03/2010

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I am going to reccomend two things.
First - invest in a good sling! allows you to keep baby close AND get work done.
Second - I am of the opinion that you cannot spoil a baby by holding them too much. At less than a year, your child is still a baby! comforting, loving your child when they need you helps your child to have trust and love. Some children are naturally more clingy than others. Alternatively - it is such a short period in your child's life that you will be able to hold and cuddle them, and the laundry will still be there tomorrow.
I have been utilizing the discipline strategies of Love and Logic - and adore them. My almost three year old is a wonderful, loving, snuggly, little boy. check them out at www.loveandlogic.com

ps- I was once told by a NICU nurse that preemies - in general- are more snuggly babies, comes from not being able to maintain their body temps when they start out.

Jwauna - posted on 11/03/2010

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YES I DEALT WITH THIS IT GOT SO BAD TO THE POINT I COULDN'T TAKE A SHOWER WITHOUT HER... BUT I HAD TO LEARN TO JUST LET HER CRY ESPECIALLY WHEN I KOW ITS NOTHING WRONG WITH HER AND IT BROKE HER OUT OF IT NOW I AN TAKE SOLO BATHS ;)

Pamela - posted on 11/01/2010

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Babycenter.com explains is free and explains a child's developement on a weekly basis. It might help you. I think the baby is at the stage where they realize you are not part of them and this is a normal stage. Also spoil him all you can, one day he'll be 19 and off to college!

Brandy - posted on 10/27/2010

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oh i know how you feel that is the same age that jenna started doing that to me, and she was very spoiled as well. peek a boo was the same suggestion that i was given and it did help a little but i think its mostly something they have to grow out of. and i know how heart breaking it is to let them cry but sometimes you just have to go to the bathroom or something. jenna had to learn the hard way that mommy cant hold her 24/7 :( maybe if you try to hold him less but still be near him alot and just slowly every day create a little more space. or maybe you can introduce him to something new like if youre doing dishes maybe he could be in a high chair right beside you playing with some spoons or something he doesnt normally get to play with? idk just some suggestions. good luck and remember this to shall pass, now that im thinking about it, i really miss that phase with jenna lol

Pip - posted on 10/24/2010

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Just a suggestion but you could try playing peek a boo. It might help him understand when you are out of view you aren't gone forever. Play it regularly so it becomes a fun game that you go to a different room and burst back with a big boo. My kids loved it, I found I could do little jobs at the same time as playing with them and they knew I'd alway reappear. Good luck :)

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