Kathryn - posted on 02/27/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
Do you ever get angry at women who complain about their children's births? I am on a listserve where one woman was complaining that she was given morphine after the birth and wasn't told so. It so happened the first hour of holding her child she felt dopey. Another woman was upset she couldn't have a water birth. And the third was upset that the "sanctity" of the child's birth was ruined by not being able to hold her child immediately. And birth plans - they should only be allowed with the words "If all goes right and nothing untoward occurs, you may be allowed this path."
I still can't write my son's birth story, it was so traumatic. I tried to unpack it with my counselor but only got halfway before she was horrified ... it's like, hey lady, I lived it, keep your feelings inside so I can get it all out. And I wish I didn't get mad at folks ... I just wish they understood how absolutely wonderfully it went for them, compared to how it could have gone. Childbirth is still serious business ... women and children DIE from it. So if you didn't get your dream water birth experience, suck it up. At least you didn't have to wait 6 days to hold your son for the first time, didn't have to watch as they tried to give him an IV, didn't have to pray that tonight you wouldn't die. (I'm sorry, just a bit bitter over here.)
So does this happen to others? If so, how are you dealing with it? It's like there's a bunch of primadonnas out there aiming for the best birth story they can drum up. Medical intervention is poo-poo'd. Shucks, I'd be dead if it wasn't for medical intervention.