Having another baby after you've had a preemie

Heather - posted on 07/15/2009 ( 55 moms have responded )

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How many of you have had another baby after you've had a preemie, and was your second a preemie as well? My son was born at 24 weeks, and is doing great now, but I just don't know if I can go through all that again. Please discuss! Thanks!
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Diana - posted on 09/10/2009

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I had my first at 32w 4d after my water broke at 31w. I found out I was pregnant again 8 weeks post partum - surprise! With my second I was put on bedrest at 29 weeks after starting to dilate. I was also put on Terbutaline to stop contractions. I dilated to a 4 within 3 weeks at sat at that until delivery at 37 weeks. With my third, I started dilating at 27 weeks and was put on bedrest and Terbutaline again as well as Progesterone shots. I had my third at 35w 5d and he was perfectly fine - came home with us when I was discharged from the hospital and weighed only 1oz less than my second!

I am currently pregnant with our 4th and started Progesterone shots yesterday. I will most likely dilate early again and have to be on Terbutaline but the Progesterone helped me dilate a lot slower with my third and so I may not have to be on strict bedrest.

The end of my pregnancies have been hard but I have 3 beautiful, healthy, strong babies to praise God for!

Keri - posted on 09/08/2009

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My daughter was 29 weeks 5 days because of pre-eclampsia. My son was born 19 months later at 35 weeks also because of pre-eclampsia. I was high-risk the 2nd time around and monitored much closer, thus making it a healthier for both me and my son. I would consult with a high-risk OB for a consultation, you risk can be different depending on the reasons why you delivered early the first time. That's what my husband and I did before making the decision to have another! Good luck!

Kirsty - posted on 07/22/2009

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i have 2 kids myself 1st norm birth sec child a preemie but i just wanted to say my mum has 7 kids the first 3 werent early the 4th was them the 5 and 6 th werent and the 7th was extremily early at 24 weeks like yours . i think that you should talk to your doctor about it as i was worried about the same thing as u as i want another and my doctor said just because i had 1 early baby he doesnt see why i couldnt carry a baby to term and that i would be closely monitered during a future pregnancy which put me at ease and settled my nerves so in a few yrs im thinking of trying for another but i wish u the best of luck and hope u get the results from all the posts u need xxx

Karen - posted on 08/08/2009

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I had my son at 25 weeks weighing 1lb 15ounces, they did not know why I had him early, I had a spontaneous water break, so that made it really hard for us to have another one because we don't know why the first came early. I did end up having another baby this time at 33 weeks but the reason was different. I was the one who was having problems so they had to deliver her by an emergency c-section. She ended up only being in the hospital for 2 weeks and my first was in there for 3 1/2 months. She is now 8 months corrected and 20lbs!!! she is doing fantastic

Cindy - posted on 07/18/2009

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my first born was 26 weeks gestation and spent 3 months in hosp before he came home. i felt as you do, so there is 3.5 years between 1st and 2nd born. 2nd son was born 2 days before planned delivery at term and all i can put it down to is a positive state of mind. if you fall pregnant think of the joy your new baby will bring you, not the fear and not knowing we go through with our first. stress is a big handicap and unless given understandable reason from your dr. there is no need to worry. children are the best thing you can do in your life and i recommend them to anyone:)

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Makayla - posted on 09/07/2014

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UPDATE!!!! I posted a while back about being terrified to be pregnant with another child after my twins were born so early. i am posting again to tell all of you mommas that are currently in that situation that it is possible to go all the way if you take care if you and let that baby grow!!!!!my sweet Emily was born at 39 weeks!!!! The farthest i went with any of my children!!! She was a happy healthy 6lb 9oz baby born by natural VBAC!!!!!

Shellie - posted on 08/29/2014

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hi all my daughter was born at 30 weeks my waters broke with her at 16 weeks preg she was a twin but lost the twin when my waters broke they told me there was no way my daughter would be born alive but she was at 30 weeks I went into labour with her on Christmas day she was born via c section on boxing day she was 2lb 14oz she was in the hospital for 4 months as she had cronic lung disease and was very small she was on oxygen until she was 8 months old she also was born with a different shaped head so had to have surgery on it when she was 3 to put that right my little girl went though so much but she is now 9 10 this year and to look at her u would never thing that she wasn't even ment to be here she is amazing I had my soon 2 days after my daughter coming out of hospital with having her head surgery he was 8lb 6oz and had no problems with him at all his my star his now 7 and now I am 34 weeks preg and been told my daughter has stopped growing and they don't know y so they r give my another c section in the next week to deliver her I just hope she does as well as her big sis did and everything will be ok with her well that's my story

Cara - posted on 08/29/2014

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hi im just curious i had a Placental abruption with my first pregnacy and im wanting to get pregnant again very soon is it possible that i could have one with this pregnancy or is there anything i need to worry about before i get pregnant?

Makayla - posted on 06/04/2013

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I just found out that i am six weeks pregnant and i am terrified! I have a son turning three in july a daughter turning two in july and six month old twin girls(3months adjusted). I am so scared for the babies health and my own because they are all so close together. My last pregnancy didnt go very well i started having contractions at 29 weeks so i checked into labor and delivery and was hooked up to the monitors for four hours and giving a shot to stop contractions. The nurse said they werent picking up any contractions and my cervix was at a zero. They sent me home about 7:30am. That day i did my normal routine and wasnt having anymore pain. At about 8pm i went to the bathroom and as i was sitting on the toilet i felt some pressure. I screamed for my husband and he came running in. I said i need you to look i think the babies are coming. He looked and said the first baby was crowning. I was rushed to the closest hospital which was 45miles away. I started having contractions in the ambulance and was ready to push. We get to the hospital and the dr breaks my water and baby a goes back up and is now horizontal so they did an emergency c-section. Both girls made it and were in the nicu for 2 months. Im just not sure my body can support anothet pregnancy.

Jennifer - posted on 09/11/2009

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I had my son preemie and 18 months later I had my daughter, going threw it was really hard the first time, but I was fortunate enough not th have to go threw it again. It was always a thought in my mind tho. I did have several difficulties because of the last pregnancy, but it is worth it all. My children mean the world to me and I wouldnt change a thing!

Katie - posted on 09/11/2009

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I had a placenta situation that was undiscovered until the very last minute and almost died. We wanted a big family but now I can't help but be worried. I still want more kids but I don't want to give up my own life to have them. My husband says it sounds selfish of me. Maybe it is but Iwant to be there for my kids.

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Yes, I had a 28 week preemie son and 4 1/2 years later had my daughter who was also premature. (34 weeks) Thankfully, I had an awesome pre-natal team who watched me like a hawk. I was in the hospital 9 times during my last 6 weeks but at least it allowed me to carry my daughter a lot further than my son. Plus, since my 1st child was preemie, (with no warning), a lot of extra precautions were taken with my daughter, i.e. steriods for her lungs, etc. It made a lot of difference! Jonathan was in NICU 8 weeks & 2 days, Julia was only there 17 days! Of course, carrying her 6 weeks longer made a huge difference!

Helena - posted on 09/10/2009

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First congratulations on your son doing well. My son was born at 25 weeks and is doing great as well. I'm going through my 2nd (surprise) pregnancy and have to admit I'm nervous. My 1st was a preemie because of an incompetent cervix, so my doctors (OB & specialist) have been watching my very closely. We never considered having another, but not because the 1st was a preemie, we had always settled on just 1. Don't let your fear keep you away from having another if you want one. Talk to you doctor and find out what kind of action plan will be taken and it might just make you feel a little better. Another thing to think about is how your NICU experience was. If you weren't comfortable maybe consider a different hospital. We had a good experience and still keep in touch with some of the nurses. Good luck!

Keri - posted on 09/09/2009

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I have this debate with myself all the time! I flip flop on wanting another one. I know I would be devistated if I had another preemie. It would validate the feeling that there is something wrong with me and that I did indeed cause the prematurity. I feel very blessed that my 34 weeker is perfect and I don't want to chance it with another one.

Jacqueline - posted on 09/07/2009

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HI HEATHER,I PREVIOUSLY MENTIONED THAT ALL OF MY CHILDREN WERE PREEMIES. IT IS NOT AS BAD AS IT SEEMS. JUST BECAUSE THE BABY IS A PREEMIE DOES NOT MEAN NEVER HAVE ANOTHER CHILD.PREEMIE OR NOT, THEY ARE A BLESSING TO ME. MAYBE IF YOU TRY AGAIN THIE NEXT ONE WON'T BE PREMATURE, WHO KNOWS. (SMILE), GIVE IT A GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ali - posted on 09/07/2009

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I had my daughter at 30 weeks now 3and a half..then when i was expecting my second they found i had an incompetent cervix..at 16 weeks i had a cerclage (stitch) steroids and lots of rest ..loads of check ups..was scared to death..at 28 weeks they said i would not last another 3 weeks..funnily enough i made it to 36 weeks when they took the stitch out and then another 3 and a half weeks later (only 3 days early ..my son was born..could not believe i lasted so long..was a scary time though and can understand anyone not wanting to go through it again!!

Wendi - posted on 09/06/2009

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Both my children were preemies at 35 weeks, 5 days, I talked to my doctor bout having another one and she said after what I went through there is no guarantee that it won't or will happen again. Its a game of chance the next one could be fine with no problems. I would love to have more but my dr said I have to wait 3-5 years

Jessica - posted on 09/03/2009

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I feel exactly the same. I had my daughter at 26 weeks and she's 5 months old (8 wks corrected) this weekend and however much I would like to consider giving her a brother or sister in a couple of years the thought of having another preemie scares me. I spent 113 days going back and forth from 4 different hospitals that I am physically and emotionally shattered.

Kristy-lea - posted on 09/02/2009

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i had my son 10 weeks and 1day early, and then i had my daughter 5 weeks early so i got further along, it was stressful but no where near as stressful as my son, i was knocked over 2 days before i had my son by some idiot on the street so they think that started my labour, they couldnt tell me exactly why i had my daughter early tho,

Shannon - posted on 09/01/2009

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I had my first child at 26 weeks weighing in at 2 pounds 14 ounces. I spent to months in the NICU with her. I brought her home in march and in July i found out i was pregnant again! I was worried. I found a high risk doctor who worked with me and watched closely. I had blood clots in my plasenta with my daughter. The doctor told me there was a small chance of it happening again. needless to say i went to the hospital when i was 24 weeks and got life watched out i had my son at 24 weeks five days. He lived an hour and a half. What i can tell you is talk to you doctors and your husband.

Katie - posted on 08/29/2009

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HI! I had my first baby at 33 wks 4 days. We had emergency c section 3 days after being diagonsed with Hellp syndrome. Three years later we are expecting again. I was ok with the idea of only having one for a while, then something clicked and I just knew that I could do it again. He needs a baby. I think we all need another baby in my family. So far things are going great this time. Normal sickness this time, but thats it....so far. Last time it was in the last 4 days that we found out something was wrong. Then it went from bad to almost deadly. This time I found a great Dr. and he is keeping close tabs on everything. This time I know what to expect and look for. If something doesnt feel right, I call the Dr. thats what they are there for. MY 1st was in the NICU for 12 days and we came home perfectly well. He is amazing now, not a single issue. The whole thing was scary and you dont know the outcome until its stairing you in the face, but you really wont know unless you try. Yes its scary, but Dr.s are smart and medicing gets better and better everyday.

Amanda - posted on 08/29/2009

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My first child was born at 24 weeks and she passed away, then I have a son that was born at 34 weeks that had to stay in the NICU for one weeks, and I just had a little boy last week that was born at 39 weeks. So just becauseyou have on early doesn't mean anything.

Lindsay - posted on 08/28/2009

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I am pregnant with our second baby after our daughter was born at 27wks. We felt very strongly about her not being an only child as we are both very close with our siblings. Although there is no guaranteed way to prevent a second preemie (if its meant to happen it will) there are LOTS of ways to give that baby a better chance to be full-term. Currently, I am on progesterone therapy (I'm 7 weeks), my doctor is monitoring my cervix bi-weekly and if there is any change I will have a cerclage put in, and I am going to do P17 injection from weeks 16-35. I know there is a chance to have another preemie, but we are working our hardest to prevent it.

Cassandra - posted on 08/28/2009

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my preemie son (born at 32 with a 4 week iugr) had his first birthday 2 days ago, and i am expecting a daughter in November. the doctors told me my next baby wouldnt necessarily be a preemie, and everything looked great until yesterday. my daughter has a 2 week iugr, at 27 weeks. according to the doctor it is still in normal-ish range, but with my history (dopplers, so basically not enough oxygen/nutrients going to baby, they stop growing to stay alive) they are more worried than if it were someone else. let's hope i can hold this one in longer! i was on bed rest for 4 weeks before they had to get my son out because he was basically suffocating, but i didn't receive any doctors orders yet this time. taking everything muuuch easier though!

Tina - posted on 08/27/2009

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I have 7 children, my first 2 where full term my 3rd was 34 weeks my next was full term, then next was 31 weeks, next was 23 weeks but sadly lost him 2 days later so when i found out i was pregant again i was so so so scared. i was under the high risk clinic and was in and out of hospital a fair bit. but he was 37 weeks which is considered and i consider full term. would i have more even though i am only in my thirtys NO. but i do have enough. if you would love more children get a high risk clinic and if there was a reason for you having a premmie make sure you are well monitored. hope that helps heather.

Emma - posted on 08/27/2009

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I had my first at 35wks and I am pregnant again. I am a little worried that I will develop what I had with my first but there's always a possibility of pregnant ladies getting this anyway. If I have a preemie again I just hope it's ok like my daughter was. I think about 'what if' every day. Good luck

Sandra - posted on 08/26/2009

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This is a question no one could answer for me either. My twins were born at 29 weeks, just because they wanted out, nothing else, they needed fattening up and have been healthy from day 1. 7 years later we get to talking about trying again saying it can't be as bad or the same, everytime is different surely?? Just as sick but other wise ok until 36 weeks when daughter decides to arrive out of the blue. My theory is I can only carry so much weight, boys were 3lb 5 each, daughter was 7lb 6. By the time you add on the extras it is about even. My advise is to voice you fears and thankfully my midwife and consultant listened and gave me steroids just in case, I'm glad they did! By the way my daughter is still large for age and also very healthy. Good luck!

Cassana - posted on 08/25/2009

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hey, I had my first at 36 weeks and then my second at 29 weeks. I am now expecting my 3rd! we initially didn't want any more as we we're so shocked by the whole experience and didn't want to go through it again but then after our sons first birthday and seeing how well he'd done (23lb at age one!!) we decided to just go for it. We always wanted 3 and we said that if we didn't just go fo it now then we would regret it in 10 years time. We're aprehensive of course but ecited and hoping for the best. We came through it before and if needs be we'll get through it again. All precautions have been taken by the doctors this time, I'm on antibiotics every 4 weeks, scans every 4 weeks and steroids at 24 weeks so after you have a prem I can honestly say they really do take care of you and try all they can to prevent it or to make the outcome of a prem birth as good as possible. We've prepared our selves for a prem and if I manage to get to 32 weeks I'll be so happy! However I feel more prepared this time... I know what to expect I know the questions to ask and I generally feel more confident in it all if she does end up being prem. At least it's not quite as much of a shock second time around. I hope my views and experiences may help. i can also say that my aunie is a consultant peaditrician at a hospital in oxford who work along side great ormond street in london... she has saved babies as early as 21 weeks and they've ended up being perfectly healthy!!! so maybe this will give you some hope. all the best x

Jeng - posted on 08/22/2009

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i had my first baby at 32 wks, and we have have to through the ROP to make sure her eyes are okay.... my OB reminderd me not to get pregnant soon coz it might be a premature also, after 3 yrs i had my 2nd baby at 35wks still premie but very healthy, my OB gave me a steroids shot when im on my 30th wk maybe thats why my baby does'nt need so many test unlike my 1st baby....

Tanya - posted on 08/19/2009

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I had my wee one (and only) at 25 weeks gestation, 2.2lbs, healthy until day 5 when they found a hole in her intestion, they operated with complications, 7 surgeries later (stomach, ears, and eyes), she was able to come home after spending 5 months in the NICU. I had an emergency c-section which had complications during the healing process, but unaware of the situation. So while my daughter was in the NICU struggling to live, I unfortunately was being forced to take care of myself. I have long felt that I will not be having any more children due to the risks and my fear of myself/family/friends treating my "babies" different if I were to have a healthy fullterm baby or likewise. I had struggled with many emotions making the decision but without knowing the outcome I feel that I have made the right one for me.

Sherrey - posted on 08/19/2009

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I am in the same dilemma. My son was born at 33 wks. He will be 3 tomorrow and is healthy and smart! I found a Doctor that will do tests to try to see why my water broke so early. When I go in for my yearly exam I am going to ask for him to do tests before we try. If for some reason he says we can't prevent early labor then we are done. I don't want to put my son through that. I would talk to your Doctor. Good luck!

Molleen - posted on 08/19/2009

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After having our first at 29 weeks it is very scary, we waited 5 years to have our second because we were to nervous. The doctor's will have you as high risk, and take extra precautions! My second was 2 days late!

Shona - posted on 08/11/2009

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i had my first at 2 and half months prem and siw years later had my second 3 months prem both due to different reasons if you need to ask any qestions dont hesitate

Jennifer - posted on 08/11/2009

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I went in to see specialists before we considered trying for a second child after delivering our first at 28 weeks. We had what was considered spontaneous contractions with the possibility that slight placenta abrupta may have been the trigger. We decided it was worth trying and had our second at 34 weeks. One thing that we did not consider at the time that now factors into us stopping at two was the impact that our second high risk pregnancy had on our first daughter. I had to go to doctor appointments weekly, every other requiring an ultrasound. Not easy to do with a child in tow. It is really hard to find a random babysitter, mid day for only 2 hours. My activity level was very limited and occasionally I was on modified bed rest. We had to hire a part time nanny to help with my first daughter. I feel our decision did not consider how it would impact her. Both are happy and healthy, we feel lucky and blessed. The second pregnancy had a significant impact on a very important developmental stage of my first daughter. I still feel guilty about that.

Tenelle - posted on 08/09/2009

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My first bub came at 30 + 2 after waters breaking at 29 + 3. He is doing really well (now almost 3) I was scared too with the thought of having another prem bub but I am pregnant again and tomorrow I will be 33 weeks :) It is only 15% chance of having another prem but if you have another prem this time the chance for the next one will go up to 30%. I think it is well worth going again if that is what you want. Goodluck!

Michele - posted on 07/28/2009

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I have two boys who are 9 months and 5 days apart. I got pregnant 6 weeks after my 1st was born with an IUD. I had my 1st son at 30 weeks and my 2nd at 32 weeks. I have type 1 diabetes but they were premature due to pre-eclampsia. I started to develop HELLP syndrome with my 2nd son so that is why he was early. My boys would have been 8 months apart but they held me off for 4 more weeks. It all depends on why your 1st was premature. Try not to worry too much about having a premature baby because that will make your risk higher due to stress. Just enjoy your prenancy and take it one day at a time. One thing I can say is that after my 1st son the 2nd birth didn't seem as hard because I knew what to expect and I knew my son was going to be ok.

Alicia - posted on 07/28/2009

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My Middle son was Born april 06 and my water broke at 28 weeks and i sat in the hospital til 33wks and had an emergency c-section because the cord was caught around his neck twice and they don't know for how long..i was so upset about the situation and the surgery i cried so bad, but anyway i thought he was fine he was disagnosed with Cerebral palsy at 10 mos and I dont regret having him at all no matter how long it take for him to walk and talk I know he understands when i talk to him and love him he is a very loving child.. I had another preemie boy Dec.08 he was delivered by V-BAC because I hate surgery! they tried to stop my contractions because I had a cerclage(cervical stitch) and it didn't work, he is a lil behind and there were no cords around his neck... he does alot more than my middle son did but i still called infants and toddlers because I've noticed some tightness in his arms and legs.... I love all three of my boys just the same. im trying for a girl now.

Kelly - posted on 07/28/2009

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I have 4 boys, my first son was born at 37 weeks and my other 3 boys were all born at 34 weeks.
No one knows why I kept going early, they are all fine...none of them have any problems...all had a very short stay in special care and are developing as normal.
My 2nd little boy was the only one to have any developmental delays but has now caught up with everything for his age. He wasnt talking until after he was 2 and only started walking at 1 1/2yrs.
My waters broke with my 2nd & 4th son at 33 weeks...so there was nothing they could really do to stop labour happening.
With my 3rd son I kept going into full blown labour for the full week before I had him (I was kept in hospital for them to monitor me and the night they discharged me I did actually did go into labour)
With all 3 I had the steroid injections to mature their lungs which I think really helped them.
I was treated as high risk when i found out i was pregnant with my 3rd and was very closely monitored....the same for my 4th also.

Tonya - posted on 07/27/2009

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My daughter Ana was born at 25 1/2 weeks gestational, and was in the hospital from Jan 11 until April 23. After that, we were scared to try again, but then we got pregnant unexpectedly just a monthafter Ana came home. I'm not sure why your son was born early; I had an incompetent cervix so as soon as we found out we were pregnant with Machaela, we went to the OB. They did a circlage at 13 weeks, and she was born at full term adn was a whopping 8 pounds 13 ounces!

I have to admit, though, that we were really nervous the first 6 months of my pregnancy,a fradi that at any time we'd be rushing to the hospital even though I was on modified / partial bed rest the whole time. We didn't really relax about the pregnancy until we got past 30 weeks.

I really strongly urge you to talk to you OB/GYN adn see what they feel is the reason for your premature delivery, and whether they feel it's likely it would happen again- I know htey would certainly treat the next one as high risk and you'd be monitored much closer... things turned out well for us, but it's a hard decision.

Jill - posted on 07/27/2009

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Posted by Carrie Williams (July 24, 10:57 pm)
.hi my son was born at 33 weeks. He weighed 4lbs 5ozs. He stayed in the NICU for 3 weeks. When I got pregnant the 2nd time at 16 weeks I had to have a shot every week so I didn't have another preemie. I took the shot up to my 38week and she was born at 39 weeks healthy as a baby could be."

Carrie~ Why did you have to have shots through the second pregnancy? Was it because you got pregnant shortly after your first? Just curious as I am about 13 weeks along and starting to have issues, and wondering if shots is something that can help. Thanks! Jill

Emma - posted on 07/26/2009

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My daughter was born at 35wk b/c I had HELLP syndrome and pre-eclampsia and I am about 6wk pregnant again. I am probably going to have another preemie b/c I am diabetic and it's usually healthy for baby and mum to induce.

Carrie - posted on 07/24/2009

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hi my son was born at 33 weeks. He weighed 4lbs 5ozs. He stayed in the NICU for 3 weeks. When I got pregnant the 2nd time at 16 weeks I had to have a shot every week so I didn't have another preemie. I took the shot up to my 38week and she was born at 39 weeks healthy as a baby could be.

Melissa - posted on 07/24/2009

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I have 2 preemies. My first was born at 36 weeks due to IUGR and preeclampsia. She was 3lbs 8oz and spent 3 weeks in the NICU. I had preterm labor with her starting at 32 weeks and was put on bedrest. I started having contactions at 36 weeks, went to the dr. and she sent me to L&D. I was induced b/c of the pre-e and her being an IUGR baby. When I got preggo with my second I was freaking out. I had a very uneventful pregnancy with him(no morning sickness or anything) until 23 weeks.(2 weeks after my college graduation). I went into preterm labor. I started contracting and dialating and was put on mag. I was then transfered to a hospital 3 hours away from my home b/c they thought I was going to deliver him. By the time I got to the hospital my contractions stopped but I was already 3cm. I was sent home on strict bedrest, and meds to stop my contractions. I was sent to see a specialist, and they told me that I had an incompetant cervix and my bag of water was protruding and could rupture any day. I lasted to 34 weeks after being in and out of the hospital and he weighed 4lbs 15oz and was in the NICU for 2 weeks. They told me if he had been full term he would have been a 10 pounder. It all really depends on the pregnancy, so you never know....you could go full term!

Amber - posted on 07/23/2009

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My daughter was born a month early and then I found out I was pregnant with my son when she was 6 months old and I was terrified the same would happen but it didnt....My son didnt seem to want to come out at all...LOL....I wrecked my car while 9 months pregnant with my son and still didnt have any contractions...He didnt wanna come out....But he was perfectly healthy and happy.... :) Hope this helps a little bit

Salvatrice - posted on 07/20/2009

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I have had 3 preemies - They each came early for different reasons - so maybe I am not the best to give recommendations, but here goes - My first came at 26 wks she is now 11 yrs old and I had a c-sections with her, we spent 84 days in a NICU. They have/had no idea what caused her to come early. When they cut my uterus they had to do a T incision which is why my second one came early. I had her at 35 wks, because the T incision started to tear. If it did not tear she would have gone full term. She had some breathing issues so she spent 1 wk 2 days in a NICU/NSCU. Our third one came early because I had placenta previa. If you would like more info about that one please let me know I would be glad to share. My main point here is that every pregnancy is different and if I would have worried about the what ifs I would not have the 3 beautiful daughters I have today. Just remember any pregnancy is a risk no matter if you have had a preemie or not.

Pam - posted on 07/19/2009

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My first child was born at 32 weeks, emergency csection due to preeclampsia. I was so dissapointed and overwhelmed, but Sarah was completely healthy at 2lb, 14oz. After 28 days in NICU she came home and began to thrive, and the joy she has brought to our lives is amazing. I think as you see your "baby" growing and thriving you can't help but think about having another one. I think that I personally had to come to terms with the idea that I could actually die if I had another baby, or my new baby could die. Once this sunk in, I was able to make my decision...in our case, I felt the opportunity for Sarah to have a brother or sister outweighed my fears. My 2nd child went near to full term, 38 weeks, and my blood pressure was beginning to rise, had a scheduled csection and a 6lb baby!!! Your doctor will definitely monitor you closely the second time. I think your outlook (knowing that the worst is possible and accepting this) can definitely be an advantage. But the decision has to be YOURS because this could be YOUR life, and/or your baby's. Hope this helps! Best of luck!

Lori - posted on 07/17/2009

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My daughter was born at 25 weeks. My husband and I went through this same discussion last year. My OB said that my placental abruption was a fluke and my next pregnancy would probably be fine. I went to a doctor who specializes in high risk pregnancy. He reviewed my file and said that he felt that there was probably something else wrong, an incompetent cervix perhaps, that caused my early delivery. There was a great likelihood that my next baby would be earlier than 25 weeks. SInce I had no symptoms before I was fully dialated last time, it would probably be too late to stop the birth. We decided we couldn't go through another pregnancy with those odds. Our daugther is doing well; she needs a shunt revision on Tuesday, though. I think there are so many different variables to look at. I recommend talking to a perinatologist. Ours didn't tell us what he thought we should do. He just told us the odds. He was a little relieved to here about our decision. He said that too often women just come in pregnant and then ask what they can do. I can't imagine how scary that would be. Good luck.

Heather - posted on 07/17/2009

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I had my twins at 32 weeks, we found out we were having our 3 when our twins were 4 months old, we had her a year to the day that our twins left the nicu, she was a full term baby. It depends on why you delivered early the first time. If there was a medical reason they can monitor you for it sooner and be more causious so you don't deliver early the second time.

Tonia - posted on 07/17/2009

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I have had 3 children, first was normal gestation, 2nd was preemie (34 weeks, labor at 32 weeks but was held off for 2 weeks in hospital), 3rd was normal (39 weeks).



I think I had my 2nd child early because I had issues, I had an infected impacted wisdom tooth and had to go in for emergency dental surgery at around 4 months pregnant to remove teeth. I'm afraid that affected my unborn child and caused me to deliver early.



Just because you had one preemie does not mean you will have another. :)

Angie - posted on 07/17/2009

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Our 1st baby was born at 26 weeks, 2 lbs 6oz a boy, Then we had our 2nd baby 5 years later and he was born at 35 weeks, still premie. Because my 1st was so early, my doctor watched me very closely. Then 18 months later we had a girl born at full term. Both my boys were premie and my girl was full term. I think it depends on the pregnancy. Every pregnancy is different, they don't know why I delivered so early the 1st time. There is so much they can do for your pregnancy these days. I had ultrasounds a lot with my 2nd child, no problems at all and my 3rd they only did the necessary ultrasounds. I' sure if you decided to have a 2nd child your doctor will watch over quite closely.

Collette - posted on 07/17/2009

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hi i had my son at 34 wks he weighed 3 pound 13 oz i am now 35 wks pregnant with my second and she is still in my tummy and growing rapid, every one said i would go full turm the second time around and they were right just hope i dont go over now, hope this helps

Betty - posted on 07/16/2009

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I have 5 kids. Two older, my preemie, 24 weeker, and then TWINS, who were technically early, 34 weeks whom I don't even consider preemies! One came home and the other stayed in the NICU, which was nothing more than a breeze considering my former experience. Other than the post pardum blues of wondering what my preemie would think of me having "healthy" babies after having him, it was probably one of the best things I could do for him. It gave him the opportunity to become a BIG brother and practice on his social skills. Everything happens for a reason........One day we'll know why!!!

Sherry - posted on 07/15/2009

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i had my first by emergency c-section at 27 weeks. I had developed HELLP syndrome and I almost died. 3 years later, got pregnant again and had a healthy girl at full term.

Missy - posted on 07/15/2009

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I had twins at 33w, and when I got my suprise pregnancy when the twins were 16months, I was scared to death! I saw my high risk doc the whole pregnancy, and was put on modified bedrest at 14weeks... I really thing that it depends on the reason you had your preemie. I had an incompentent cervix, so I knew that I was at risk for delievering early again. We took many precautions, and I held onto my singleton until 36weeks. He still was early, and still needed NICU time.

User - posted on 07/15/2009

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I had our 1st baby at 26 weeks...your question is always in my head too...It was so hard to go through that first baby and can we deal with that again?

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