"How preemie parents are chosen" I loved reading this

Megan - posted on 10/11/2009 ( 77 moms have responded )

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Did you ever wonder how the mothers of premature babies are chosen?

Somehow, I visualize God hovering over Earth, selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation.



As he observes, he instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger.



"Beth Armstrong, son. Patron Saint, Matthew.



Marjorie Forrest, daughter.Patron Saint, Celia.



Carrie Rutledge, twins. Patron Saint ... give her Gerard. He's used to profanity.



"Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles. "Give her a preemie.



"The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."



"Exactly," smiles God.



"Could I give a premature baby a mother who knows no laughter? That would be cruel."



"But does she have the patience?" asks the angel.



"I don't want her to have too much patience, or she'll drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she'll handle it.



I watched her today. She has that sense of self and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother.



You see, the child I'm going to give her has a world of its own.



She has to make it live in her world, and that's not going to be easy."



"But Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."



God smiles. "No matter, I can fix that.

This one is perfect.She has just the right amount of selfishness.



"The angel gasps, "Selfishness?! Is that a virtue?"



God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive.

Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect.



She doesn't know it yet, but she is to be envied.



She will never take for granted a spoken word.



She will never consider a step ordinary.



When her child says 'mama' for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it.



I will permit her to see clearly the things I see ignorance, cruelty, prejudice and allow her to rise above them.



She will never be alone.



I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."



"And what about her Patron Saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in the air.



God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."

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Donna - posted 5 days ago

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Thank you for sharing. As a first time grandparent I have so many questions. I know God is in control. xo

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THANK YOU!! I WAS HAVING A ROUGH DAY THIS MORNING.... BUT I KNOW THAT GOD IS IN CONTROL AND WITH US!! ;-)

Leslie - posted on 12/14/2009

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I loved this. I tried for over five years to have a baby and God gave me two beautiful twin girls. They were preemies but that was ok with me. They came out healthy just small. God gave me the best gift in the world when he gave me my girls and I thank God everyday for them.

Terri - posted on 12/07/2009

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I saw this poem 11 yrs ago when I had my daughter at 26wks. At the time I didn't believe in God or I didn't know who God was. I was not brought up in a religious family. Because of my daughters birth my husband and I went on a journey to find God. I have looked for this poem several times over the years and never could find it. Thanks for posting it. I think I will add it to my blog when I write about my daughter's birth story for her 12th birthday. She is my Miracle baby and I have been blessed four more times with healthy full term babies.

Anna - posted on 12/06/2009

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Only someone who is the parent of a premmie could understand how special this poem is. Thanks for posting it, I'm going to take it into our Special care baby unit at xmas :-)

Cheryl - posted on 12/06/2009

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A beautiful gift of grace and love!

Thank you for sharing this amazing blessing.

Namaste

Jodi - posted on 11/20/2009

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Wow! I cried reading this!This is so true and now i know why God gave me my daughter Daliyah.THANK YOU SO MUCH for posting this.

Michelle - posted on 11/18/2009

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It made me cry to Iyesha, but also felt an overwhelming sense of achievment...thank you Megan...it just what I needed...maybe wished Id had it a few months back...but now I can see why my daughter was given to me...and I am blessed!

Amber - posted on 11/11/2009

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I love this poem! So many times many of us focus on what we did wrong in our pregnancy and why our babies are faced with these challenges. When the real truth is we were blessed with these babies, their fight gives us strength even when we don't think we have it. Fortunately for us we don't have time to "worry" about the little stuff we live for it!!

Lauren - posted on 11/11/2009

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This poem was great. The struggle to have your preemie belong to you is a long road and this poem helped me to feel strenth that I have a purpose in my daughter's life.

Tasia - posted on 11/10/2009

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This poem is sooooooooo true! Each one of the mom's that was given a premie, was carefully chosen, because they are the type of mom that could handle such a difficult time! My daughter was born @ 30weeks, and only weighed 2lbs 7oz. She stayed in the NICU for 7 weeks and 2 days, and that was the toughest and hardest 7 weeks that I EVER had to get through!!!

Brenda - posted on 11/10/2009

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i loved the poem. i believe god never gives us somethin we couldnt handle and it was hard but with every day i see my son and see how much he is growing and how much i love this little bundle god gave me i am glad he choose me to be this preemies mom!

Heather - posted on 11/08/2009

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OMG! Tears were brought to my eyes. Thank you for sharing! It is so true every time I look at my daughter I am thankful and have for the first time true joy!

Tina - posted on 11/08/2009

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This is so true. I never experienced anything like this with my first three. And I think that my son being born 8 weeks early has brought him so much closer to me for just this reason. I love all my kids but there is still that special bond between my preemie and me. Thanks for sharing this poem.

Karen - posted on 11/03/2009

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There was a reason I opened this discussion tonight, to read this poem...'Till tonight I never thought about it this way. This poem says all the things you want to say to people who don't understand your situation. It also answers all the "why?" questions and the "I should have..." statements. My preemie was born at 28 weeks in 2003, but it feels like yesterday. Thanks for posting this beautiful poem!

Krystalann - posted on 11/01/2009

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I am in tears, evrything about this poem speaks of me. God became my closest friend the day Bethanie was born 6 wks early only 4lb. she couldn't breath on her own and had several organ fail but she'll be 1 soon and everything they said she'd never do she done before babies her age and the one born when she was due. She walks, talks, enjoys potty training, feeds herself with a spoon and so much more. I thank God everyday. And she is my spitting image!

Jessica - posted on 11/01/2009

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This is so beautiful and so true. My grandson, Daniel, was born 13 weeks early. My daughter developed HELP syndrome that was not caught early. The day Daniel was born I almost lost my precious daughter...but God blessed her and during the first 72 hours, my daughter and I prayed..not that Daniel would live~~because we knew that God's hands were holding him tightly against His chest~~our prayers were in celebration to the Gift that God had given us...my daughter never doubted God had blessed her with such a perfect gift. May God Bless all Mothers and Fathers He has choosen to give this wondrous gift. With a deep love of these special people~~~Missy

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Wow, of course the tears are flowing. That rang home way to close. It reminded me of my little man. He was born 18 weeks early. We just celebrated his 9th bday couple days ago. Thanks for that neat poem. I am adding it to my page. =)

Nicole - posted on 10/24/2009

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that was wonderful!!!! I think that will help all of us in some way or another

thank you for sharing it with me

Sarah - posted on 10/21/2009

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wow that was great. My twins were born 9 week early and had to stay in the NICU for 30 days. They are doing great now(they are almost three) but I never thought I would ever get to bring them home and this was after 4 years of trying for them. I am amazed everyday with the things they have accomplished in their little lives.

Casandra - posted on 10/20/2009

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I have never read this poem until tonight!! Thank you so much for posting it! And im sure like many of you it feels like it was written for me!!!

Liz - posted on 10/20/2009

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thank you for posting this. having my twins at 33 weeks six days, and going through what we did with them, this poem puts so much into perspective. And it's true every day and everything they accomplish is truly a miracle.

Kim - posted on 10/17/2009

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My preemie (1 lbs. 7 oz.) is now 5. I love this poem. She is healthly, but that willpower and fight that got her thur the NICU is still alive and well.

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