Refusing to Potty train
Angela - posted on 10/06/2010
My son is 3 and a half now and he was 24 wkr and he has JUST completed his potty training, I'll tell you it was very difficult with him. The process lasted almost 7 months. If you associate reward with going potty, such as he gets his favorite snack or a sticker when at least trying at the potty, then he should start wanting to. Small steps though because it can be very hard for a kid, especially a preemie. My son started at about 3 (few months before), and he did not go very much at first, but I had my Fiance Evan show him what to do(by doing it in front of him, demonstrating steps).And every time Evan had to pee he would tell Izaiah and have him come along... after a while, he started wanting to go. Thats when I brought the pull ups into play. After about 3or 4 months with pullups I took a chance and gave him big boy underwear and told him if he was a big boy, he wouldnt want to get his nice undies all wet. Ever since switching him from the pullups to real undies(with favorite cartoon characters on 'em) the difference was like night and day. I still had to remind him to go potty like a big boy,but after a while it became second nature. It is different with every child. Patience is key. Hope this helps and good LUCK!
Carrie - posted on 10/06/2010
YES, I have a 26w premature son who is now 28mo and has been potty trained for the last 2 weeks. we took the cues from a guide called "Three day potty training". it is a publication you can purchase online but basically suggests how to prepare for your three days of potty training and once you start you put them in underwear and never go back to pullups or diapers. Have them remind YOU when they have to go, putting them in control of their independence... keep them near you for those 3 days and every time they start to have an accident, rush them into the potty. Once they catch on, it is actually miraculous how easy it becomes. just be prepared for accidents & no scolding. Just when they do say how grow it is.
Nancy - posted on 09/29/2010
My son will be two in a couple of weeks, he is starting his potty training and is excited to sit on the potty, even if nothing comes out, he is rewarded with a treat for trying. He was a 31 week preemie. His cousin, however, (now 14) was full term and was almost 4 years old when he was finally potty trained. He was so stubborn! This is a bright kid who could read and use the computer at age 2 (not kidding), but couldn't use the potty until 4! My point is, that they all do it in their own time, you just have to keep on track with it and don't give up. It will happen. He might be embarrassed by age 16 if he still isn't potty trained! =) ha!
Lynn - posted on 09/28/2010
I agree with most of the other moms. If your son is doing fine in other areas you can also use a little psychology. Get him some pull up diapers that fit him and tell him he can't use the potty, just ignore it, don't make a big deal about it and he'll be fine.
Jeanette L - posted on 09/27/2010
I WOULD PUT THE POTTY CHAIR NEXT TO THE TOILET AND EVERYTIME I WENT TO THE BATHROOM, SHE WOULD PRETEND TO GO TILL ONE DAY SHE WENT AND WE CELEBRATED. AFTER THAT, SHE STARTED GOING EVERYTIME I WENT AND SHE WOULD DO SOMETHING IN THE POTTY. ONE TIME SHE HAD TO GO AND KEPT ASKING ME, MUMMY POTTIE?, I FIGURED IT OUT AND WENT AND SHE WENT. I TOLD HER SHE DIDNT HAVE TO WAIT FOR ME AND SHE STARTED GOING ON HER OWN. IT TOOK ABOUT A YEAR ALL TOGETHER TO GET HER IN TRAINING PANTIES.SHE WAS THREE AND A HALF.
My son is 2.5yrs and I've just started potty training. I really had no idea how to go about it so i went to the library and picked up a couple of books. The one thing they stress it that there's no use in trying until your child is ready and every child is ready at a different time. They also mention that boys usually train later than girls. After reading some I decided that my guy wasn't quite ready so I'm slowly introducing him to it. We have a potty in the bathroom that he can sit on when he wants. I've also held him on the big 'potty' when he's asked. All diaper changes are now done in the bathroom - to give him the idea that that's where you go pee and poo. I ask him if he has to pee or poo on a regular basis. I'm not expecting him to say yes but more to plant the idea in his head. One of these days he'll say yes. I've also slipped a children's book about potty training into his regular rotation, once again, just to plant the idea in his head. I'm still not sure if I want to introduce pull ups just yet. Hope this helps a little.
In case you'd like to know the two books I borrowed were: "The Potty Training Answer Book" by Karen Deerwester and "Toilet Training: A Practical Guide to Daytime and Nighttime Training" by Vicki Lansky
Pamela - posted on 09/26/2010
My son was interested at about 2, he started to go her and there, but really was never interested and ready until 3.5, Don't force the issue. Try going to pull ups, the huggies ones have lighting mcqueen and buss light year on them. They also have velcro on the sides so you can put them back together.
Samantha - posted on 09/24/2010
Both my kids were preemies and they were both 3.5 when potty trained. I think for my son what really clued him in was that mommy was having another baby and he didn't want to be seen as a baby anymore. His sister on the other hand, she is just her own gal. Everything has to be in her own time and her own way. She went to preschool as a typical peer at a special needs school, so she was supposed to be completely potty trained, but her teacher was awesome and allowed me to send pull-ups for emergencies. Before the end of the school term 2009-2010 she didn't even wear a pull-up at naptime at school anymore. Now if only I could get rid of them at night time for her. ;) She says when she is 5 she won't pee at night anymore. Maybe she will maybe she won't.
Also one thing I learned w/my kids was their potty chair preference. They didn't like one that made sounds. My son would only use the regular potty, and my daughter had a Safety1st brand that had a soft cooshie seat. One side for a girl and if you flipped it over it was for a boy even the guard for boys was cooshie. Around $15 at Toys R Us and I think they have it at WalMart also.
He'll get there. You just have to be patient. :D
Emily - posted on 09/23/2010
I agree with Tiffany. Not all kids are ready at the same age. My 3 1/2 year old is still not completely potty trained. He's a very stubborn kid and wants to do things *his* way and in his own time. A couple things though that have helped some: 1) allowing him to go naked at home. I found that if my son ran around naked all day, he used the potty because he didn't like peeing on the floor. Now, we've had some accidents, but for the most part, this has helped him be more aware of his body. 2) praising the hell out of him. We've used sticker charts and other rewards for successful potty days. He's still not going 100% of the time, but it's at least gotten us somewhere.
Tiffany - posted on 09/23/2010
My son was the same way and nothing I did worked. Finally, I just stopped trying to force it. One day, at 3.5 he came to me and said "Mommy, I'm ready to potty now". He's been on a roll ever since. Let him take his time and dont get discouraged just because other moms may tell you he's too old.
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