Rachel - posted on 12/17/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 3 yr old daughter, becomes another child once it is time to leave the house (and i start the getting shoes/jacket on process well before it is time to leave). I will tell her to put shoes on. she will refuse, until i am forcing them on her, and even then she just takes them off and throws them at me. same with the coat. it continues all the way to the very last second, and at some point i HAVE to go to get to my son's bus stop, or to work.
So far i have tried: making her walk barefoot to the bus stop (brought the shoes in hopes that she would cave in). Nope, she screamed the whole way, but walked to and from the bus stop, and still refused to put the shoes on. (our next place to go was daycare, so shoes are a Must.)
When she is standing there (or flailing on a neighbors lawn) having her fit, she will refuse to walk back home with me. I have left her and stood behind a car (so i could still see her) and she at no point stopped to come chase after me. She just stayed there. This happens at stores, too. Unfortunately I just don't have all day to wait for her to come to me, so i have to go get her, and then she runs! it is rediculous.
I have complimented the times she doesn't do this.
I have made immediate threats: if you don't come here now i will take away._____ toy. I have followed through, and it doesn't do any good.
I have tried sticker charts. (when in the tantrum mode she will scream she doesn't want the reward).