Caedmom - posted on 10/28/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
My son constantly argues with me. Not the type of typical arguing when he doesn't like being told "no." He argues with me about general knowledge. We will have a conversation and no matter what it's about, he always contradicts me. For example, he'll ask me, "when can I drive?", I'll answer, "when you turn 16" then the argument begins, "no, I can drive now..." and so on. I'll go back and forth calmly, "well, the rules are that you can drive when you turn 16 and we need to follow the rules." But at some point I get incredibly frustrated! He always has to be right and if I try to correct him, it turns into a never-ending argument and only stops when I blow up at him. I'm a single parent and I feel that part of my job is to educate him and guide him towards appropriate behavior and general understanding of things. But it's as if I have zero credibility. It's exhausting me. I don't enjoy interacting with him when it always turns into an argument. Often I don't see it coming because it's so absurd. He just needs to be contrary. Has anyone else experienced this? Is this a typical stage? Any strategies on how to shift this dynamic?