Our grandson is out of control. Does anyone else have this problem?

Karley - posted on 03/08/2012

If it were me, I would definitely be as patient as possible with him because it sounds like it is something that he cannot help doing. Definitely get his pediatrician involved and see what testing she might recommend.

I completely agree with Kelly about removing him immediately from a situation if becomes a a danger to others or himself. Until you get your testing results back, I would also recommend a reward chart for good behavior and when he fills that chart up with stickers for good behavior, he then receives a reward...ex: favorite ice cream dessert from dairy queen, small toy from dollar store...

I promise you, it will get better. It just takes lots of patience and time from everyone that is involved. Just always to continue to let your child know that he is loved and that he is not a bad kid....he is just doing unacceptable behaviors that need to be corrected now before he gets old enough where he will be set in his ways.

Good luck to you!

Sofia - posted on 02/23/2012

I agree with Kelly. The first step is proper parenting. Use reward system or time outs when needed. Structure, routine, etc.

Beyond that, the parents may need to have your grandson tested for other mental health issues. He really might be unable to control himself. However, even children with mental health problems need to learn there are consequences to their actions and that there is a difference between right and wrong. So keep that up and good luck!

Kelly - posted on 02/18/2012

It sounds more like there are psychiatric issues here and extensive testing is required...

whatever the diagnosis.... structure and consistency in parenting is a must. Regular very structured schedule, consistent consequences for behavior, rewards and sticker charts for doing well, no surpises or chaosis, removal from situations of overstimulation, and always keep others (including himself) safe. If he is physically out of control there is a sort of constraining hug you can do. Sit on the floor with legs straight out and legs spread in a V, They are in front of you so you are "spooning", Their back to your front. Then their arms are like if they were in a straight jacket crossed in front of them and you hold their opposite wrists. You can help by putting your back against a wall to make it easier on you. It keeps them safe, provides the most safest and nurturing hold and you remain calm and don't try to talk to them while they are in a rage. Wait until it passes and then talk about it. If he liked you could quietly hum or sing a song but chances are he still might reject it if out of control. Keep in mind depending on his behaviors it depends on how often you reward or give stickers. Kids who act out frequently might get them every 15 mins. Some kids it could be every hour.