Emma - posted on 05/01/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )
So, my MIL came yesterday, everything was going well until she mocked my husband. He had previously asked her to call our daughter Jayne, not Jayne with a y, my little sweetheart, my little chicken or any other name as she had started not responding to us when we called her name. Anyway, she called her my little girl and then turned to her sister in a horrible way and said 'oh I'm not meant to say anything like that am I?'
well, this had been going on for sometime and not only that she had previously told my husband, whilst hugging him goodbye, on many occasions to lose weight, shift his belly or some other snide comment and it has been going on since I've known him which is 6years in Jan.
Also, she has previously looked down her nose at me, as I was 19 when I had our first daughter, told him that we should have waited as we had just moved in and basically told us that the way we have brought up our eldest (2years) is wrong. Our youngest isn't old enough to be judged about.
I know I'm going on and I'm sorry but I had a go at her and told her if she carried on making snide comments about her sons weight, our parenting and also looking down her nose at me that she wasn't welcome in our home as I didn't want my children hearing her call their father as he'd do anything for them, I told her she was out of order etc etc. This has been going on for some years and at the end of the day I think she should love her son whether he's (what she feels) overweight or not and the way she goes on about it, it's like she can't love him because he's 'big.'
The main reasons I told her she wasn't welcome is because she's upset her son to the point that he feels me and our girls don't love him, he feels he's a rubbish husband and dad, I feel that our girls instead of saying 'what you say to daddy is wrong' will copy what she says as that's how they learn, he feels so uncomfortable in his own house when they are here that when they go he says 'thank goodness they've gone' and also because at the end of the day (as I've said) he's her son and she should never say anything like what she does.
I was just wondering if I was in the right or in the wrong?
I'd love to hear your opinion or stories, thanks.