Anyone have kids who were preemies who are older now & are you experiencing any behavior probs?
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Maria - posted on 04/06/2010
I have four prem babies my oldest is 10 this year and has severe behaviour problems. I have been to peadiatrician, behaviour therapist, CAAMHS(child and adolesent mental health service) and is now being transfer TAAMHS (teenage mental health service) by his school. The education system will play a big role in Jordans diagnosis as everyone has said he has problems but noone has diagnosed him as yet.
I would say at least two of my children have behavioural problems so i would say this has a link to the prematurity.
Hope this helps remember you are not alone
Carole - posted on 04/01/2010
My daughter was born at 28 weeks at 3 lbs. 12 ounces. She is now 8 and was diagnosed at about 5 with ADHD. She has some serious behavioral issues and im about to get her started on a child psychiatrist. Not sure if its completely needed but im willing to try anything at this point b/c her behavior is just completely out of control. But from what i have been told, this is extremely common for premature babies.
Karen Sue - posted on 03/31/2010
My daughter is now 8, and physically she has no delays. She's very articulate, too. She was born at 28 1/2 weeks weighing 2 lbs. 14 oz. The behavior problems with her started very early. She has always been high-maintenance and highly spirited. She is doing okay in school and doesn't display the behaviors there that she exhibits at home, but at home, she has a very short fuse. She has kicked and punched holes in my walls. She often seems depressed and anxious. I am concerned about her reading level and when I watch her read and listen to her sound words out, I worry she might also have dyslexia as she seems to jumble the letters. Maybe none of this is due to the prematurity, but I've long thought her problems could be related to her low birth weight and being born so early. My baby girl is certainly a fighter and on the surface, you'd never know she was a preemie. She's in counseling now and hopefully that will help with her behavior issues - and I plan also to have her tested for food allergies and hyperglycemia (I have type II diabetes and know firsthand how moody low blood sugar can make a person). Thanks everyone for your sharing your experiences.
Teresa - posted on 03/30/2010
when you talk to the school request an IEP. Now its very important that you actually ask for the IEP. They school has 10 days to respond to you. They will evaluate your child and decide if they feel a need for the IEP. If an IEP is deemed necessary then they have 60 school days to complete the IEP. If they deem it not necessary then if you request a second oppinion they have to provide the second oppinion from an outside source. In the mean time talk to your pediatrician and get a referal to a Pediatric neurologist or Pediatric Psychiatrist. Either one can diagnose your child for ADHD and help to provide solutions. Some schools are easier to get on board once they are diagnosed. And others a a very active part of the diagnosing team. You are your childs best advocate. I just went through this with a second child. If the school gives you a hard time then threaten the department of education and your state representative. Your child does not have to be hyper to be ADD and have a learning disability and can be Hyper and not have ADHD. I have a 6 year old with ADHD and has a hard time with comprehension and retaining information. I have a 16 year old step son with aspergers who was misdiagnosed for 12 years. He had an IEP and still does. But is in regular classes now. In the honors society and a 4.5 GPA. You can over come learning disabilities. But you need to get the services. You are your childs best advocate. Fight for their rights to get the help they need. Good luck and God bless.
Allison - posted on 03/30/2010
hi my daughter was born at 36 weeks and is 8 now she has learning difficulties and displays behaviour problems and has exstreme low self esteem i suspected ADHD i spoke to her school and they were not interested can you advice me what to do.
Lisa - posted on 05/14/2010
Hi, I am new here. My youngest son was born at 33 1/2 weeks, He weighed 6 lbs 15 oz, with fluid on his lungs and in an oxygen hood with feed tube for 6 days. He dropped to 5 lbs 8 oz after they gave him lasix and he dropped to 5.2 when he was discharged. He was an easy going baby, but was quick to let you know when he was unhappy.
He has always been full of energy and we didn't think it was anything except being a very active boy (our other son is 10). The two private sitters and his preschool never had any major behavior issues with him, nor did we. When he went to Kindergarten the first 6 weeks, I had notes or calls constantly about his impulsive behavior and the teacher first talked about ADHD. We knew he was busy but also thought it was a) development due to preterm and b) being a boy. Our Dr. suggested to wait until he turned 6 to see if some of the busyness settled down with maturity. At about mid year, we started food eliminations, then supplements with no change. He turned 6, 4 weeks before Kindergarten ended and there had been very little change with his behavior.
So we pursued checking into ADHD and started him on meds. We had hoped for positive results, but couldn't believe what a difference it made in every aspect of his life, from how his peers acted, to the calmness of our house. We were concerned that his personality would be stifled as well as weight loss he only weighed 37 lbs at the time. He is a very happy, loving child and we did not want that change. We held him in Kindergarten for an extra year and wow what a difference in this child. He went from barely able to read and write to reading fluently and printing almost as well as his 10 year old brother. His peer relationships skyrocketed and I have only had positive notes and meetings with the teacher this year. She has had tears in her eyes more than once about what a difference this has made in his life. He will tell you that when he takes his medicine that his brain doesn't tell him what to do anymore. He is small for age 7, 42 lbs, but he has followed the growth pattern identical to his brother who was born at 43 weeks, 8 lbs, 2 oz and was the same size at age 7.
I hope that if any of you are suspecting ADHD you will at least try medicine. We were very against it but decided to try saying that if it didn't make a difference we could stop. We were blown away by the all the positive aspects, he has gone from a child who said I can't to a child who says I can do it. As a typical mom, I cried to think that we had disciplined him for things that he really could not control.
My son is only almost 6 months old so I don't have any personal experience with this but my next door neighbor had her son at 26 weeks, he currently is 8 years old and has the mentality of a 4 year old. Her son has some wicked behavior problems and gets down right violent at times. I don't know if this was due to being premature or not. When he was born he had to be on intubated for 3 months on almost 100% O2. I know that being on O2 like that for a long period of time can cause brain damage so maybe that's what's wrong with him.
I kind of fear that something will be wrong with my son later down the line because god had chosen a rough road for me to walk. Nothing ever comes easy to me but I pray that he is healthy.. physically, mentally and emotionally.
Maria - posted on 04/07/2010
lol Yep i have days like that most days. Its just that split second where you think WHY but then you just get on and deal with the situation x If you ever need to moan any of you just message me and if i can help i will try xx
Teresa - posted on 04/06/2010
If I did that every time I had one of "those" days I would have been bald long ago. Hang in there. We have one driving, one teething and my husband is deployed to Iraq with the Army. I have moments where I start crying and laughing at myself at the same time. But at least I have hair, which is more than I can say for my husband. lol
Hi karen I have 3 preemies, my 10 yr old was born at 36 weeks and is high functioning autism ,and a 6 yr old born at 25 weeks he has aspergers and we think also adhd just waiting confirmation on it! both are boys. And I have a 4 yr old daughter she was born at 32 weeks and so far is not showing any signs of any behavour issues. Im sure my boys would have had issues no matter what stage of pregnancie they were born at though.
Teresa - posted on 03/30/2010
My first son was 6 weeks premature and he has ADHD. It wasnt an issue for us until he started having problems learning at school. He now has an IEP and school is getting easier ofr him. I also Have a 10 week premature baby that is not quite 6 months old. Yet again he seems to be developing as expected and I now find I have concerns as to if he will be found ADHD as well.
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