Did anyone have a preemie who would not stop crying and has trouble sleeping?

Emily - posted on 08/07/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My baby is 3 months, aka 1 month adjusted age, and if she´s awake, she´s crying. Even when she´s been fed, changed, and is in a cool room. We´ve tried all kinds of positions, but she is very fussy and won´t sleep more than 20 min. at a time during the day and will hardly eat at night. Any advice?

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My premie baby screamed all the time for a year. I had to hold her a lot. Kangaroo care helps a great deal. Strap your baby to your chest with just a nappy on and your heartbeat adjusts the baby's rythyms. Look for a book called "Born too Early". It has great helps on what to look out for as your baby gets bigger. Kayleigh had a lot of indigestion and cramping. The digestive tract does not seem to develop as well when they are prem and she just needs some time. Be careful of overstimulation of light and sound and reduce shopping trips. They cannot tolerate as much as other babies and this does get better over time. My little girl is now 7 and has some sensory integration issues. Give your baby firmer touch rather than feather light touch as this can be irritating to them. I have probably said too much. Sorry. My little one was 3 pounds at 33 weeks and she didn't sleep or feed much. She never slept for more than 2 hours at any one time for the first year. It does get better over time. Make radical changes to your own diet to help you cope. Vitamins, fruit, raw veggies etc. It does help a lot. Be kind to yourself. If the feeding and sleeping is too bad, search for a doctor, dietician who knows about premies. Don't give up. Some doctors understand and some don't. I didn't try hard enough because i was overwhelmed. My baby also had heart surgery and it was just a blur. Try some of the premie forums on the internet as well. Some of them are very good. Try searching through pubmed and medhelp sites. There is hope. I am sleeping now after 7 years and i even had another baby. She is a treasure to us and she taught us many things as we all grew together. Love Naomi

Lynne - posted on 10/27/2009

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hi my son tyler is 6 month but 3 month adjusted age and since i have got him home from hospital he never sleeps he dosent eat a lot,he just needs constant attention and he is always sick i have tryed everything xxx

Jayme - posted on 09/27/2009

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My son was born prematurely and he had the same symptoms you're describing. After 3 weeks of screaming and no sleep we took him to the doctor. It turns out he was lactose intolerant. My advice is take your daughter to her doctor, it may be that the milk or formula is upseting her stomach and it hurts her. Hope this helps!

Sarah - posted on 09/27/2009

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somtimes over stimulation can keep your newbe awake. My son is now 11 but he was born 5 weeks early. I remember the more we tried to get him to sleep the longer he was awake. we ended up asking the hospital in the nicu unit for their advice they said wrap him tightly in a recieving blanket lay him down and put one of your hands on his chest without moving him or your hand. we did this and for a few days he cried but around the third day he wasn't overly sensitzed and it worked! from then on we layed him down with our hand on his chest and with in a matter of minutes he would sleep everytime. It was very very hard at first but better for him in the long run. thats what we want for our kids right? whats best for them is not always whats best for us at there time of need. good luck and may you have many blessed quiet nights

Jamie - posted on 09/25/2009

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I found it helped to wear my daughter in a wrap during the day. I bought a gypsymama wrap and, man, it's a lifesaver!

Hallie - posted on 09/22/2009

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Much like what Alisha said....my daughter was 11 wks early and my MIL insisted on having a party there were a lot of kids making lots of noise and she just screamed her head off all night long.  From the book we got from the NICU stated preemies hate loud noise and lots of activity around them.  They don't like to be passed around from person to person and love to be swaddled.  My little girl is now 2 and still enjoys listening to Mozart music while she sleeps.  




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Quoting Alisha:

Preemies are WAY different from other babies.They like low lighting and for you to speak in a low calming voice,They don't like a lot of noise.My daughter was a preemie and the same way.Swaddling is wonderful and I mean where she can't move her arms.Swings are good .They love music.If she wants to be held...hold her.It's perfectly fine.They like to hear your heart beat because it reminds them of the womb so laying her on your chest might be helpful.It's a hard journey but so worth it.Hang in there.





 

Melissa - posted on 09/21/2009

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My daughter born at 34 weeks. After she came home from the NICU she had her days and nights mixed up and would cry for hours at night. I found giving her a warm bath and a massage, combined with rice cereal in her bottle at night helped. Also getting a routine down help A LOT! I hope this helps! By the time she was 4-5 months she was sleeping thru the night.

Alisha - posted on 09/11/2009

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Preemies are WAY different from other babies.They like low lighting and for you to speak in a low calming voice,They don't like a lot of noise.My daughter was a preemie and the same way.Swaddling is wonderful and I mean where she can't move her arms.Swings are good .They love music.If she wants to be held...hold her.It's perfectly fine.They like to hear your heart beat because it reminds them of the womb so laying her on your chest might be helpful.It's a hard journey but so worth it.Hang in there.

Lateisha - posted on 09/09/2009

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My twins were 6 weeks early. They are only 6 weeks old now. The doctor advised me to give them rice cereal for reflux. It helps with the reflux but they also sleep alot better now.(especially at night)

Sandra - posted on 09/08/2009

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Wow my daughter is going through the same exact thing! She was born a month early..now she should have been born a few days ago and all of a sudden she doesn't sleep, and screams alll day long. It seemed to me like she had colic...but now I don't know..we're getting NO sleep in this house. I'm bringing her to the dr tomorrow..hopefully we find out whats going on or how to help this. My daughter seems hungry all the time but can't handle a whole lot of fomula..it's tough. Sorry I have no help/info to give! I'm in the same boat though :-/

Chrissy - posted on 08/29/2009

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Awww, My baby had to be held all day long, and he too would only sleep for 20 minutes. People acted like it was my fault or something major was wrong with him that he didn't sleep more, because "newborns sleep ALL day" During the night he would go 4-5 hours so it was ok. But he was colicky and when he hit his real due date everything got better. he ate better, pooped better, slept better. This actually made me feel better. He was only 4 weeks early but I could still tell he wasn't ready to be out.

Etoyia - posted on 08/27/2009

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My son did this for along while, the Doc said it was called controlled crying, but turned out he had a double hernia that looped down into his testicles and caused some massive pain. The only way we found out was durring a diaper change, his little boy parts were very swollen and had a grayish color to them. He had emergency surgery and now 10 months later he is going strong.

Jennifer - posted on 08/23/2009

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I had the same problem with my daughter. She would not want to eat and would only take 20 min cat naps every couple of hours. Finally, after three weeks of being home from the NICU and only 2 hours of sleep in a 36 hour period I took her to the hospital. I found out that she was allergic to lactos and ended up switching her formula. It worked and she is great. Use your mother's intuition if you think some thing is wrong then it most likely is call your doctor and don't hesitate to take them in. I found out that my daughter was dehydrated and needed fluids that night. My intuition saved her life.

Penny - posted on 08/10/2009

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My preemie is now 13 years. We were diagnosed with reflux. He was uncomfortable and in pain. Turns out...it is not reflux but an eosinophilic disorder caused by a food allergy. What are you feeding her? Does she spit up quite a bit? Have you considered seeing a GI? What does your pediatrician think? Please see a specialist and if you are not pleased with the answer see another..They told us this was all in his head, he was manipulating me, etc. Check out information on Cinncintti Childrens Hospital Website
http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/healt...

Alda - posted on 08/08/2009

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I had twins born 12 weeks early. I had the same problem with the one - she just screamed and screamed. She still does occasionally (12 months old, 9 months corrected). After trying everything in the book - checked for colic, reflux, gave her gaviscon, raised her the head of her moses basket/cot, gripe water, you name it. We eventually had to try controlled crying. Within four nights she was settling as soon as we put her down. We still occasionally have to do it for a few nights, but she is so much better now. Never had any problems with her sister. You might want to try Nelsons Teetha - teething granules - calms babies down beautifully. I actually think she sometimes screams just to get some Teetha lol - she loves it!

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so true joyce that was the other thing u r prob over feeding i didnt know till some 1 told me.. my son did that 2 and they actually have pains

Joyce - posted on 08/07/2009

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Are you nursing or feeding formula? If nursing, look at what you are eating. she may be colic-y. Also, as a preemie, remember that her belly is very small and she needs to eat more frequently. My sons were 5 and 4 weeks early, way back in the 1980s. It took nearly 18 months before they would sleep longer than 2 hours at a time at night and 30 minutes for naps. I know it can be frustrating when you are a new mom, but it will pass. Sleep when you can so you can attend to her needs.

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Yes I have 5month did exactly what you sd and even was showering him..... keep being persistant during the day and its really control crying.. and at first it will seem like they r so upset but thats how it is... and is bub in ur room or by her self?

Naomi - posted on 08/07/2009

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i would just let her stay awake for the day if she is tired she will go to slepp.i would add an extra ounce to her last nite bottle and give her bath and massage in a quiet calm room maybe with some music(so she associates the music,bath and massage to bed time). i just started doing this to my son and it has worked 3nites in a row now but u must b consistant set a routine and stick to it.oh and if she cries its not gonna do her any harm to cry herself to sleep.the earlier they learn to sleep by themselves,the better.

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yes... and i have a seen her baby was more premmie went through stage... its control crying ignore and its stops... its premmie babies

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