Has anybody else lost a child to pre-term pregnancy???

Kerri - posted on 10/23/2010

I lost twins at 26weeks. They were born and lived for a day

Nycole - posted on 09/22/2010

My first born I lost at 27 weeks, but my daughter was born at 23 weeks and survived.

Tarah - posted on 09/13/2010

I had a baby boy in 2007 aat 24 weeks..Well they told me while in the uterus he was only 23 weeks just to find out a two weeks after i delivered him that he was 24 weeks..I spent 2 1/2 weeks in the labor and delivery trying to stop contractions and bleeding..I aske numberous times for a steroid to help mature his lungs so maybe he would have a fighting chance..They told me i couldnt have steroids and that my baby wasnt viable...Come to find out after all of my own research he was Just tears me and my husband up everyday..It is the hardest battle of security that i have lost knowing that ALL of the doctors and staff were letting me almost bleed to death and could have given my son a chance at life..But they must not realize the impact of what a loss of a child is to some people..I did everything in my power to keep me and my son healthy and thats the least they could have done was actually help in the situation...I Totally understand your feeling!!

Louise - posted on 09/10/2010

hi i have no idear what your going through and this is in no relation to me but my friend had he little girl at 23 weeks and she survied and is now 1 yrs old shes had a few problems but other then that she just perfect and health now,did you ask them why they would save him ect thas alfull they should have atleast tryed for his sake he proberly would have lived if they had just tryed.

Alda - posted on 09/05/2010

That's awful. I don't know where you are, but here in the UK they try and save babies born from 23 weeks on. In South Africa they don't even try to save babies born at 28 weeks (so we were told when we visited my sister there last year). My girls were born at 28 weeks and everything possible was done to save them. The one had an ileostomy and stoma, and heart surgery. It was touch and go, but today they're strong and healthy 2 year olds.

I feel for you all, I came close to losing mine and I was in tears reading all your posts. x

Tiffany - posted on 08/31/2010

I'm so sorry, I've had a similar experience. In 2000 I went into labor at 21 weeks. They were able to stop the labor, and kept me in the hospital upside down at a 45 degree angle to keep pressure off my cervix. I was hopeful that I could keep her in there long enough for her to be viable--they told me that 24 weeks was the viable age. I don't know why they wouldn't give your baby a chance, I know it's possible for a baby that age to survive with the right care! A week after I was admitted, my water broke, my daughter Sabrina was born 3/28/2000 at 1 am. The labor was horrible, my ob wasn't able to make it so some mean, cold dr. delivered her, and a bunch of medical students stood by to take notes as she described everything that was happening as though I was a lab animal. I held my daughter and memorized every detail of her face. That was 10 years ago and let me tell you, it never stops hurting. It does get easier but you will always feel a hole in your life. We had a proper funeral for her, and I visit her grave on her b-day every year & on holidays. I've had 2 more children since then, both of them preemies (32 & 30 weeks). I'm so grateful that I have them, I think those of us who have lost our babies or had to see them fight for life in the NICU appreciate our children a little more than those who have had no issues. I don't know what faith you are, I do know that you're probably very angry with God right now, I was. Try not to let this experience destroy you, as hard as it is, there are lessons to be learned from it, though you may not see it for several years. You will get through this, and you will be so much stronger and wiser for it. God bless you, life has wonderful blessings in store for you, I promise!

Maddi - posted on 08/24/2010

I myself have not been through this, but my aunty has, My daughter was born at 34weeks and weighed 1.5kgs and was in hospital for 4weeks and was able to come home.
My auntys baby was born at 23weeks weighing 500grams and they tried to save him but after 3weeks of fighting for life he lost his battle.. It was a sad day for all of our family and we still miss him lots each and everyday!
Im so sorry for your loss and that they did not try and save him!

Tamara - posted on 07/02/2010

I am so sorry they weren't even willing to try to save him. I hope you have been able to find some peace since your loss. I have experienced something similar.

In 2007, I lost my son at 22 weeks. He weighed 1 pound 1/4 ounce, but they told me they couldn't do anything to save him since his lungs weren't developed. I was traveling at the time I lost him so he was born in a tiny town that didn't have a NICU and they claimed no hospital near by would take me unless I was 24 weeks along. I still believe if I had him where I live he would have survived.

Then in 2008, I lost a daughter at 19 weeks. She only weighed 8 ounces and there wasn't anything they could do since she was so small.

In 2009, I went into premature labor AGAIN, this time at 23 1/2 weeks. They were able to stop the labor for 2 weeks. My daughter was born at 25 weeks weighing 1 pound 12 ounces. She spent 65 days in the NICU and luckily only had minor issues which she overcame quickly. She is almost a year now and has caught up to her chronological age.

Candace - posted on 07/01/2010

Sorry for your loss..I dont understand why the doctor refused to help your baby because your baby could have been saved. My goddaughter was born at 25 weeks and she survived. She spent five months in the NICU and there were times when the doctor thought she wasnt going to make it but she pulled through and is now about to be three years old on the 11th of this month. It just doesnt seem right for the doctor to do that

Janet - posted on 06/30/2010

That is horrible I am super sorry about your lost. My daughter was born 6 weeks early in Miami, Fl and in the NICU where she was born they have saved babies as early as 22 weeks of gestation. Get a lawyer and check everything your babies life was let go because they did not want to help you!

Kylie - posted on 06/28/2010

I am so sorry that the doctors refused to save your son. That must have been extremely frustrating for you. While I personally haven't experienced this, there are two forums here in the UK where you might be able to 'meet' other bereaved parents.

The first is SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Forum):
http://www.forum.sandsforum.org/forum.ph...

The second is Bliss (a premature baby site but it has one forum for parents who have lost a child): http://www.blissmessageboard.org.uk/inde...