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Ashley - posted on 02/03/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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When my twin boys were born, they were sent to the NICU. They had minimal problems, needed feeding assistance and some oxygen, and were released after 8 & 9 days. They are almost 6 weeks old now and not a day has gone by that I havent been nearly brought to tears thinking about how lucky I am. While I was in the NICU everyday visiting my boys I witnessed things that as a parent were utterly unbearable. My heart bleeds for the mothers that are unable to hold their child or children and have to look at them struggling to survive. I was overwhelmed with guilt the day I left the NICU for good, how unfair it was that I was able to leave when so many others had to stay.



I remember the first day I was able to dress my babies in ACTUAL clothes, not those generic white shirts and diapers. It was probably one of the best days I had in the NICU, because even with all of the monitors and cords and such, my babies looked like babies, just like they would if they had been home with me. It didn't change the fact that I was still sad they were there, but it did make me feel like more of a mother as silly as that sounds.



My boys did not fit in their premie clothes for very long, by the time they came home they were too long to fit in them. Unfortunately, almost everyone that bought me clothes bought premie sizes. Luckily I have a 1 y/o son and the boys can wear his old clothes. Since I have all of these clothes and TONS of recieving blankets and such, I plan on putting together a bag and taking it to the NICU that my boys were at. I figure if I can give a few mothers that same feeling that I had when I got to dress my boys, maybe I will feel a little less guilty about being able to leave when they couldnt.



As I thought more about this, I realized that there are THREE level 3 NICUs in my area (Cleveland, Ohio). The city in itself is full of poverty, and alot of people simply do not have cute comfy clothes to put their premature babies in. So I got to thinking, and even though this may not work out the way I am hoping it will, I figure it can't hurt to ask or try.



I was wondering if there are any mom's out there that would be willing to give up their premie clothes. I would absolutely love to put together something to where I could take clothes and recieving blankets and things to the other 2 NICUs in my area for those mothers who can't afford it. Like I said I live in the Cleveland, Ohio area. I would be willing to pay for shipping and handleing for anyone that would be willing to donate their clothes or anything else they feel they dont need. I know it's alot to ask, but I figured it would be worth a try.



I will still be taking my collection to my NICU, and maybe those of you that live farther away could do the same with your local NICU, I really believe it will help. Message me in private if you wish to help and I'll send you an address. Thank you :)

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Milly - posted on 09/04/2013

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Sorry im knew here im a mum of 3 have been sleeping with my ppartner unprotected the last 3 week's im 9 days late negitive test but have lots of symptoms heartburn tiredness quezzy help

Karie - posted on 06/27/2010

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I was lucky that my son was only 5 weeks early and weight 7lb 2 oz. he was on O2 for the first 24hrs and IV for the first 48hrs. I cant imagine how hard it would be to go home with out your baby.
I live between youngstown and cleveland and my mom and i knit full size baby and premee hats,and new handmade flannel blankets and donate them to our local hospitals. I never thought about the hospitals(NCIUs) taking 2nd hand premee clothes. We will keep that in mind as we knit and donate to the hospitals.
You are a very giving person. Thanks

Tiffany - posted on 06/07/2010

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hey, Ill tell you my story about my little girl. She was born 8 weeks early, spent the first month of her life in the NICU. She was born at Riverside Methodist Hospital in Columbus Ohio. Her name is Kaylee Brooke Bartlett and she spent the first month of her life in the hospital. No one was aloud to go back and see how tiny she was but for the grand parents and my husband and I. That month that she was in there seemed like it was forever. I thought we were never going to get out of there! When she was born she really didnt have anything wrong with her but she was on the c-pap machine for the first 6 hours of her life, later she was put under the billy ruben light and then nothing after that. We then were just waiting on her to start sucking from a bottle. The first time we were aloud to put clothes on her was a wonderful feeling. When we were at the hospital we met some really amazing people. When I had Kaylee we didnt have any clothes that would fit her so we were talking to them and the next day we walked into the room where Kaylee was at and there was a bag or prem clothes for us. After that it made me think that there really are some amazing people out there that still have a heart to help other people out. and I think that you wanting to donate the clothes and blankets is really nice and I would love to do it but I want to make sure that I don't have another baby anytime soon that would need them. My daughter is 7 months old now and doing really great It makes me get tears in my eyes every time I think about he being in that dark cold NICU. I'm so thankful that they were there to help but never again would I ever want to go through that time again! thanks for letting me tell you our story.

Amalie - posted on 06/06/2010

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I to saw a mother that came every now an then to see her daughter that had been in the n.i.c.u for over 3 mths she said it was to hard to come back an forth to the hospital I lived over 200km from the hospital the day they told me to go home but she had to stay I cried all the way home walked in the door an said Take me back there right now & I went back it cost me $420 awk to board at the hospital then another $100 or more for food I had 3 other kids at home an a husband I don't care if it cost me 4times that amount I could never walk out on my kids..An we are not wealthy people my husband lost his job & started going to brothels My whole family fell apart but not once did I think it would be easier to walk away or let her go An as for the cost of premmi cloths I can get a jump suit for a new born at $9 but for my 1.1kg $38 I think I got 6 outfits for $190 its not right at all... I cried every day in that N.I.C.U for the babies that never got to go home.the one's that didn't get there mum's cuddles & the little boy over in the corner that his mum walked in & said he'll be home soon I've got other kids to worry about I can't be stuck in here with him..she was NEVER there when he cried for hrs cause he just wanted to be held the nurses sneak cuddles but as a rule there not allowed to hold them so when they cried like that they would put there hand in the window & pat them...I know its what they have to do But I'd have to walk out for a while There not animals you don't pat them.. my daughter will be 1yrs in 6wks so at her party we have asked No presents donations to the N.I.C.U.. hoping to rise a good amount for them..

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i had done the very same thing i had 3 prem babies all 28 weekers and all spent 3 months each in nicu i had a charity drive in my local town where i asked people to donate to help purchase premmie clothes for the hospital i of course recieved a permit to to this, i then had an agreement to purchase the premmie clothes in adams id for half prize per item we had raise over 4500 after buying alot of clothes suits blankets bibs cardigans and of course the hats, we then went on to purchase premmie nappys premmie soothers and donated the rest to the hospital my 3 daughters now have a name on the wall in the hospital on the nicu corridor along with thanking the public its a great feeling

Jennifer - posted on 06/04/2010

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My son was a 29wker whom was abandoned at birth in the NICU. We were matched with him when he wasn't yet three weeks old and he has been ours from that day forth, but the three weeks before that he had nothing because he had nobody. The nurses "adopted " him and did what they could but the first day we met him in his little isolet he was dressed in the strangest odds and ends of baby cap, button front shirt, another shirt on as pants, booties and mits and nothing remotely matched!!! The nursed explained that they had to "borrow" from the "lost and found". I of course scrambled to get some preemie stuff up there and due to our wonderfully excited family and friends he ended up with a huge wardrobe! LOL! We did donate back to the NICU after he grew out!!! And now through March of Dimes during prematurity awareness month in November we help collect for the local NICU's, our playgroup makes it part of our Thanksgiving project. Did I mention my son just turned four years old!?! So thank you for your thoughtfulness, everyone, and keep up the good work!

Tahisha - posted on 06/04/2010

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That is a great idea to donate the preemie clothes. I gave my little ones preemie clothes to the nicu too! I wanted to keep one outfir cause it was sooo cute, but it wasnt her first outfit she wore home, so I donated it too. The nurses dressed my baby in an outfit they had at the hospital when she was there. I remember thinking "oh my gooodness she is a real little person", because she was wearing real clothes, not the diapers and white shirts like you said! When I came back with clothes the nurses were so happy that I donated clothes! I just wanted to help out, because they dont stay in the preemie clothes for long! And baby clothes are expensive now a days!

Courtney - posted on 05/31/2010

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I had been thinking about donating my sons newborn onsies. I took him up to the NICU today with a bag full of onsies. They were so happy to have them and very happy to see him! They said it is nice to see how well the babies are doing after they leave especially with the sad situations they have with the ones that don't make it out of the NICU. It was nice to be able to give back even if it was just a small donation. Nothing can compare to what they did and continue to do for our little ones!

Ashley - posted on 05/26/2010

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...that is wonderful that you are dong that, i love my NICU too for taking care of my little girl. She was born at 33 weeks with gastroschisis, itestines outside her body, she spent 2 months in the NICU 2 hours frojm my home so i stayed at th Ronald Macdonald House down the street from the hospital. Your story brought tears to my eyes to think back to when Rylie was there. Most mothers dont understand the importance of putting clothes on for the first time or eating for the first time, or in my daughters case pooping for the first time was a huge deal.

Lyneeda - posted on 05/23/2010

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what hospital is that? that is a diaster and i would have been working digelently to transfer my child to a better place where they are a little more caring.

Lyneeda - posted on 05/23/2010

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well my daughter is still in the nicu an isnt due home to july but i would love to pass some of her things down as they become available you wouldnt believe how hard of a time i have finding preemie clothes.and i also feel you on the excitement of seeing your baby in clothes my baby is now 2lbs&14.8ozs and just can put on clothes they have to be taped so they can fit her. her nurse kim is like her stylist she makes a way out of no way to help her fit her clothes to look perfect for her mommy.i would also like to find a way to thank the nurses for their excellent care!

Brandy - posted on 04/18/2010

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in dayton ohio at miami valley hospital the nicu nurses have babyshowers yearly and they buy the preemies clothes! it was such an exciting day when my daughter could wear something besides a little diaper and the outfit was provided by the hospital. i think more hospitals should do this and i think that donating is a great idea as well unfortunatly ive already donated my stuff.

Ayalani - posted on 04/16/2010

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I think this is such a fantastic idea and you are so right, it DID make it feel so much more real dressing my boys in 'real' clothes. I also donated a lot of my boys first clothes (keeping a couple of special items) to the NICU that they were in and they were very greatly appreciated.

I understand your guilt completely. My boys were born at 27 weeks and unfortunately Jonas did not make it home from NICU... the day I bought Finn home for the very first time was one of the hardest days of my life. I was sooo happy that he was FINALLY coming home (12 weeks later) and yet sooo sad that Jonas (and other precious babies) did not get to go home.

Gina - posted on 04/16/2010

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Something we plan to do at "our" NICU is drop in once in awhile & ask what they need most, then go about collecting it - whether we get it donated, find it in thrift stores (As soon as my son was born my MIL found a TON of preemie clothes & bought ALL of them! Which are left in the NICU "baby laundry" as he outgrows them!), however we can get it. Another idea might be to see if you can put collection jars at local businesses & take that money to the NICU & let them purchase what they need at the time.
As for feeling guilty ~ It's hard when you *know* the baby next to yours will have lifelong problems, doesn't have anyone coming to hold them & nurture them ~ but I'm a "long term" NICU-Mom & Every time I see someone leaving the NICU to go home it brings a HUGE smile to my face & a well needed dose of hope to my heart because I look forward to going through those doors too! :)
I love your idea & I think you can very likely help your local NICU's ALOT!

Alicia - posted on 04/10/2010

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Both my boys were preemie. My oldest wore his preemie clothes longer than my youngest but once he was out of them I too donated all but the outfit I brought my kids home in. My NICU didn't have much for boys & I found my sons being put in yellows & whites. So now they have a nice selection of boys clothes since I gave them all of mine!

Kaytie - posted on 04/10/2010

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I totaly get where you are coming from! My little man was in the NICU for 2 weeks. I was not able to hold him for the first week. I think it was one of the hardest times. I remember the day I came in and one of the nurses asked me if I wanted to put jammies on him. It was the best feeling in the world to see him look like a real baby and not a sterilized little person in all white. I no longer have any of my preemie clothes but I did want to let you know that my mom makes baby blankets and we take them up to the NICU that my son was in about every 4 months or so. Last time we went we took I think 40 or so. They give them to the moms and dads that just need somthing warm to hold when they cant hold there babys. My mom croshays the cutest designs on them. you cant help but smile when you see them. The nurses have told me that when they give a new mom and blanket that it always makes that visit much happier. I think what you are doing is wonderful and I hope and prey that you do well.

Brittany - posted on 02/18/2010

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o my god i love u!!! i mean taht in a motherly way!! that is great u wana help.. i also had preemies mine are twins and they had to stay in pittsburgh at magee for 4 months.. ill never forget xmas eve 08 they dressed caden up for the first time and i started to cry.. bc like u, he looked like a real baby and a BIGGER baby.. and xmas Aiden had an outfit on and i got to kangaroo care him for the first time ever.. (they were born in nov) but anyway, i had a family give me hats that there son had grown out of and some clothes and i couldnt have been more thankful!! i saved there hats but all the preemie and newborn clothes i did give to the nicu.. along with blankets.. in pittsburgh they have this group called project linus and the kids in homec classes make blankey's and donate them to the nicu.. not only did it help the families that had preemies but the baby's that had no mum or dad bc they were put up for adoption!!! it made me sad but i got to know alot of the nicu nurses... i talk to my fave one every other day.. they truely appreciate the donations and recieving blankets they love to switch in and out for the lil ones!!! i wish i could help but i sent all mine to the nicu my twins were in.. but if i can help in anyway hit me up.. im currently stationed in GERMANY with my family... i wonder if they hav e anicu here.. id love to just snuggle with babies ahhaha :)

Kendra - posted on 02/17/2010

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I kno how you feel.My son was sent straight to the NICU then after two days he was sent to another hospital for three weeks because he had problems eating.I was so sad that I couldn't have him home for his first month of life, but so glad when he came home.I also donated his cothes he couldn't fit anymore because he's so big now.He's six months and 22 pounds.

Jessica - posted on 02/15/2010

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I think this is a SUPER great idea....and just wanted to add, not sure how to get them there, but the babies in Haiti sure could use some help right now!

Brady - posted on 02/15/2010

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I live in iowa and at the university they have an amazing program its called the premie project and people donate there time to make premie things. This maybe something you could try there. I recieved alot of stuff from them it was a life saver

Emma - posted on 02/15/2010

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I have already given my preemie clothing to the local NICU but this is a really good idea. MY daughter was lucky not to be in NICU but I know if she'd have been there they'd have done alot to help her out.

Jess - posted on 02/14/2010

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That is such a sweet gesture ! Im from Australia and for the most part the hospital's don't allow premmies to wear second hand clothes. Every hospital has a devoted group of woman who knit tiny little outfits for the babies.



Perhaps to bulk up your donation you can get together a few knitters !!!



But all the same its still a wonderful idea and I hope you get a lot of support. xoxo

Candi - posted on 02/12/2010

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That is a very good idea. My son was born 12 wks early and weighed 2# 9 ounces. He spent 95 days in the NICU. and it was heartbreaking seeing all those babies there, the worst was not being able to hold my son for 2 wks. And when I did it was the best thing I have ever done, the bond that was there immediately. Unfortuantley my son was so tiny he couldn't even fit into premies we had a few outfits made for him and donated them to the NICU, Good luck to you wish I could help

Chelsea - posted on 02/11/2010

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Ashley
I think that is a great idea!!! my son was born 10 weeks early and was in the NICU for 2 months. I had to leave him there night after night and that was the hardest things I ever had to do. It was also really hard to watch other babies go home before mine but I had to be happy for them at the same time. Jayden(son) went thru alot when he was born. The hospital he was in, they had times when you could go in and see your baby and what time you could change your baby and times when your could hold your baby. I hated being told when I could and couldn't touch my son or I had to wait another 5 mins before I could change his diaper. I know it was for the best for him but my heart was breaking every second that I couldnt be with him when he needed me most. Jayden fit his premie clothes long after he came home. I gave some of his clothes to the hospital and some to other moms that I knew that had a premie. But the special ones I am having my mom make a blanket out them.

Nothing could ever prepare you for what you will have to go thru with having a premie baby but they are the greatest gifts ever!

I want to thank you and every mom for either donating clothes, talking to other moms that are going thru it now, being supportive, sharing stories, or just being there to listen. I know how we handle something so scary or unknowing like having a premie the way we do. I guess it is just the mommy in side of us.

Erinn - posted on 02/10/2010

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My daughter came a whole 2mo early and your right it tore my heart out to watch some of the things that i saw. My heart still breaks. While my daughter was in there there was a baby girl thats mother never came to see her except 3 days before my daughter got out. The mother was older in age and walked up to the incubater she didnt even want to hold her baby girl. I couldnt understand I died inside for the first 3 days I couldnt hold her (she had jondess) the nurse made her hold her little girl after 2 minutes she set her baby down and walked away the nurse asked her if shed be back tomarrow, she simply replied no i wont ever be back. we were stunned the nurse asked what she ment she said her husband believed girls were worthless and she didnt care what they did with the baby but she wanted nothing to do with her and she left. Never in my life have i cryed so hard or question god in my life. I went home and brought everything my baby girl didnt need and brought it to the hospital for all the babies i possiably could i even brought mmy sons clothing who passed away in 2008. I understand what your doing and i pray more people will join our cause. I have been collecting clothes for the past 3 months as my daughter is a little over 4mo. now. My god bless you for what your doing and bless the people who help you. Im not a religious person but i believe there is a special angel for babies and another one for the people who help them. Maybe this story will inspire more people to help..... Good luck

Tracy - posted on 02/06/2010

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This is a great idea, I did the same with my sons preemie clothes and the NICU was so thankful! They get all their clothing from donations, so everyone please try to help your NICU out! After all they helped to save your little miracles!

Julie - posted on 02/04/2010

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I have already re-gifted our preemie clothes locally, but I think that is a great idea. Well, I did keep the first set of jammies he wore ;).

I cannot believe preemie clothes wear out very quickly, and I hope the ones I've passed will continue to be passed on and on ...

I am originally from the Cleveland area, I didn't know there were 3 NICUs. Are they Metro, UH and ? I don't have a third guess.

Anyhow, GREAT idea!

Leighna - posted on 02/03/2010

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I was one of those moms who had to leave my little man in the nicu 120 days,as he came 13 weeks 4 days early, weighing 820 grams ( 1 lbs 13 oz).which gave me lots of use of ALL the preemie clothes we aquired.Our nicu has a dresser of clothes for the babies who dont have any of thier own and the nurses take turns doing the laundry,like they dont do enough allready,so when it was time to come home we donated all of them to the NICU,and i encourage you all to do the same,thank u in advance

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