Lonely and trying to Stay Positive

Mary - posted on 09/13/2009

hang in there girl. my son was born at 29 weeks. which is about 2 and a half months early. he stayed in the nicu for 2 months. he weighed 2 pounds and 4 ounces at birth. it was most def. the hardest thing to go though. i was at the hosp. everyday all day with him. except for once when i was sick. i hated that day. my dad was my support. my fiance was there too but he had to work too so it was mainly me. but, he made it through and im very very thankfull he did. he ended up getting rsv like 2 weeks after i brought him home. he made it through that too. so ive been there. just gota stay tough and be there for ur baby. i know its hard. just dont stress too much around the baby. im here for ya if u have a question or just wanna talk. be strong mommy!

Natalie - posted on 09/13/2009

My first was born at 37 weeks. My second was 35 weeks and 6 days... No NICU time for her though. We were able to bring her home. My last baby has not been so lucky. He was born at 36 weeks and 6 days. He has now been in the NICU for a week and will probably be there another week. It's really hard to see him go through this and to leave him everyday. I can absolutely not imagine what you are going through. I do, however, know how you feel when it comes to feeling lonely. I have had moments when I feel completely empty. I look around my home and see all of his things here but not him. When I was told he was not coming home this weekend I finally broke down. I had a day when I all I could seem to do was cry. Today was the first day I went to see him and did not cry when I left. I just keep telling myself it's ok because today he was one day stronger, one day better and one day closer to coming home. I just started thinking about the financial side of the things today and both my husband and I have decided to just put it on the back burner until the bills start coming in. Hang in there.

Brittany - posted on 09/11/2009

i commend u for staying as positive as u can!! thats the best not olny for u but for ur lil one.. i have 24 weeker twin boys that are now 10 months old... my husband and i were in trouble with money bc i wasnt and couldnt work due to a c section and twins that were born so early! he joined the military and left for basic 2 weeks after our twins finally came home after bein in the N.I.C.U for 4 months....

the best advice i can give is to see her as much as possible and stay positive like u are and like liz said talk to th nurses and case workers they may be adle to help u financially or just keep u company... if u need any thing or have a ? im here

Liz - posted on 09/11/2009

i know some hospitals have some places where they allow parents to stay in the hospital with their kids and spend the night there. You might want to check into that and see if they offer something like that. How is your daughter doing? Keep in mind too that just because they say your daughter has to stay in for a certain time she might surprise everyone and allow her to come earlier.

Liz - posted on 09/09/2009

I understand what you are going through. My husband was away for work while I was on bedrest in the hospital and again when our son was in the nicu. My mom was my support person. I was glad to have her but really missed my husband. Remember to rest and take care of yourself, you are still healing from your c-section. Do the nicu nurses know about your situation? Talk to them, maybe they can help. Does the nicu have any activities for parents? Scrapbooking? classes? Stay with your daughter if that is what makes you happy. Hang in there cause time flies and she will be going home with you soon!