People and their rude comments

Katelyn - posted on 02/24/2009

i totally know how you feel! i feel like i go thru it daily! my daughter was also born early and staying in the hospital for a month. shes 19 months and shes totally amazing!! i wish people could just see how happy and loving she is, instead of realizing that she doesnt, crawl, walk or pull herself up! i know soo many people that had babies the same year and the year after and their kids are sooooo much further along, it hurts to see them look at your child differently! esp. when she has 3 and starting soon 5 hours of therapy a week, i know she'll get there when the timing is right for her but still its hard to not let other people get you down!

Sheila - posted on 02/23/2009

By the way if you want to talk more about it, you can chat with me or email me if you need someone to talk too. I understand it is so hard especially for a first time mom like us not to have someone of the same case to to talk to. Smile always!

Sheila - posted on 02/23/2009

HI! This is sheila. I understand how you're feeling. My son Jigi was born 28 weeks On July 31, 2007. Hes on therapy now. Physical and occupational therapy. Hes also referred to a Neurologist and soon will have his MRI to know the cause of his delay since hes very premature. He didnt learn to crawl and until now he doesnt know hoe to sit without support. He cant even stand and walk yet. But hes walking with the help of his walker. He can move around and stand with the walker but hes on a tip toe. The only problem with him according to the therapists is his balance. He can baby talk and can produce sounds can say mom and sometimes can pronounce his name Jigi. Please don't get frustrated with what other people say cause they dont really understand and feel what were going through. We do not compare our children to to other babies who was born in full term. They're preterm and is taking a lot of care and special attention and they're really have lots of delays and that is expected. Sometimes, I cant avoid comparing but when I look at my son with the pain and sufferings he had been through in the hospital that stayed for 3 months in the nicu, I m still thankful and happy with what I see in him and I know until now hes fighting for his life and as a mom I am here to support him and take care of him til he grow up. Smile and look at your son's development. Only their smiles and stares and gigles that makes our day complete and satisfied.

Lisa - posted on 02/23/2009

First of all, I'm SO sorry you are going through this without any support! I know how stressful it is as a mommy being worried your child isn't doing things at a "normal" pace and having everyone remind you that he isn't daily. My son was born at almost 35 weeks after a very difficult pregnancy in which my labor was stopped at 31 weeks and he still came early. He has always been delayed a little also...he didn't sit up on his own until 11 months, crawled at 12 months, and didn't walk until 14 1/2 months. He still isn't talking much (we just found out recently though he may have hearing loss and he is scheduled to be retested so this may be the cause of his speech problems). You aren't in it alone! Just keep reminding yourself that he is a true MIRACLE and he'll do things in his own time! If you ever need to chat or just vent feel free to message me! ♥ Lisa