will my son be 5 weeks behind?

Stacie - posted on 02/21/2009 ( 32 moms have responded )

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i lost me first son at 24weeks, and my 2nd was born 5 weeks early, i just wondered if anyone could help me. will my sons development be 5weeks behind? hes 4months now, he smiles,laughs,coos, hes found his hands. is this what a 4month old should be doing? if not what should he be able to do now? xx

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Donna - posted on 08/14/2009

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I have twin girls that turned six in July. They where born 9 weeks early and spent 55 days in the NICU. They both struggle with a lot of basics to this day. A recent evaluation put them on the level of a 2 1/2 year old. They will be going through their second year of kindergarten this year. We have been told that there younger brother will probably catch up with them in school. So we will probably have three children to graduate from high school. ( then we will probably get are they triplets. lol)

Nicole - posted on 07/31/2009

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My son was born 6 weeks early and he had some delays in the very begining, but he caught up and is thriving now at 2 years old. He started off doing things a month or so behind (sitting up, rolling over) and by one year was doing things ahead of time! I think it all depends on the child. I am sure he will catch up just fine!

Melanie - posted on 07/31/2009

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My Daughter was also 5 Weeks Early I have been seeing a specialist for her developmental learning the specialist advised me she advanced in some areas of learning and just below in some areas she is catching up real fast which is pleasing to hear and see I used to get worried that she will be a little slow now I can see in some areas she just needs a little bit more practice at things but she will get there

Amber - posted on 07/28/2009

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i had a 3 month prm and he is not behind at all he is 3 in aug and he is incredible he also is big too and i hada son at 4 weeks early and he is one and almost walking he is into every thing and is a really little trouper i think it all depends on how much time you spend with them prem or no prem they can all achieve great thing s

the funny part is both my prems were up with there mile stones and my 2 weeks late girl dident walk till 2 or crawl till 1 and a halph

she is bounding now but she wasa really lazy baby

Heather - posted on 07/28/2009

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Sounds like he is right on tract. I wouldn't worry about it, whether they are full term or early they develop at there own rate. My twins were 8 weeks early they hit all their milestones right on time. My third was full term, she didn't start walking till she was 2. Just enjoy him and love him he will be fine.

Emma - posted on 07/25/2009

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my girl was born 5 weeks early too and she was at the same stage as her cousin that was born 7 weeks before her but later than her due date. some things she was slower at and some things she was faster at. all babies have a different development age; it's nothing to do with how early or late they were born. just b/c your baby was born early doesn't mean she will be stupid and just b/c somebody elses baby went full term doesn't mean they will be brainy

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I think these guys are right, all babies are different..my twins were born 6 weeks early and basically get a credit on their size and development count back 6 weeks and that where they absolutly should be..but according to our pediatrician once they turn one they quit getting that credit..If you notice any delays you can find out about good services that can help..probably just call your local public health nurse and she should be able to tell you what's available.

Linda - posted on 04/22/2009

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My eldest was 5 weeks prem and my youngest 6 weeks prem and my daughter wasn't at all behind but my son is about 6-8 weeks behind but has other health problems i think it all depends on the child but i wouldn't worry about it all children do things at there own pace smiling and laughing at 4 months is perfectly normal and all babies do different things my partners neice at 4 months couldn't sit up and was just about laughing yet my daughter was crawling. my health visitor advised me with both that it all depends what they focus on and how detemind they are im stubbon and so's my daughter but my partner and son are laid back(lazy) as long as your son can sit unsupported at 8-9 months don't worry about the rest. good luck

Melanie - posted on 04/22/2009

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My Little Girl was born 5 Weeks Early I too was worried whether or not her development will be 5 Weeks Behind we went to see her Physio on Monday to get it all checked out and yes she is slightly behind she has just turned 5 Months 3 Months 3 Weeks Corrected She has just found her hands Smiles alot and laughs Her doctor has given me some activities to do with her to encourage her to do the basics e.g sit roll show interest in her toys and its been a few days now doing them and she is really starting to get the hang of things slowly but surely with time she will catch up there is one thing she is ahead of when it comes to most babies in my home town and she has two teeth so each baby is different so don't worry too much

MaryJo - posted on 04/10/2009

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my daughter was 4 weeks early. she was only 17 inches long and 5 pounds when she was born. the doctor said she might be smaller then other kids. she is 6 months now and taller then other babies her age. she seems to be developing on time also.  but every baby is different. my son was an early walker and talker. he was 3 weeks early. every child grows at there on rate. good luck with your baby and sorry for your lose.  i too lost a child when i was pregnant with my son. he was a twin.

User - posted on 04/04/2009

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the medical world will correct his age or adjust his age for appropriate issues such as size and milestones. My daughter was an extreme prem at 29 wks and 2 lb 9 oz and develpomentally she is great and almost advanced for her real or corrected age, but ohysically she is very small 21 lb at 2y 9m and they seem to think that she will catch up by the time she goes to school. It has only been the last few months that she actually wants to eat real food rather than formula. I would not worry if in the first few years your son is behind a month or so in milestones, be happy that he his healthy and alive. My LITTLE one did not walk until 16 months but holy cow could she ever crawl fast. hope this helps

Linda - posted on 03/25/2009

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Some have slight delays, some don't. However, by 24 months they usually stop allowing for gestation vs. actually age. My daughter was 32 weeks (8 wks early) and by 12 months she was caught up (except for size). However, she is now 11, 5ft 2in. and wears a size 10 shoe. I'd say she caught up!

Sara - posted on 03/24/2009

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certian areas of their development will be behind like being able to hold their own head or sit up, but by the age of two the specialist told me she will be caught up to a normal two year old.

Donna - posted on 03/23/2009

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Your son is doing everything a 4 month old should be doing, My daughter was born at 31 weeks, she was small for a baby born at 31 weeks compared to other babies born at 31 weeks, she crawled at 8 months, she was wlking along the furniture at 10 months and she walked at 15 months, the only delay was her walking but i'm happy to say she is absolutely fine now, she is 11 and starts high school in september.

Alisha - posted on 03/19/2009

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My son was born at 28wks and his progressing very well.  It sounds like your little one his right on track.

Barb - posted on 03/11/2009

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my son was also born 5 weeks early and he seems like he is ahead of some babies it all depends on the baby when hes ready he will do be doing different things, it doesn't mean that hes behind hes just not ready , you just need to wait and see. if he smiles and laughs and coos then hes right on track

Kayla - posted on 03/10/2009

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My Son Also was born 5 weeks early and he is not behind one bit he is now 8 1/2 months old and is crawling, cruizing around furniture, eating big boy foods sitting in a big boy carseat and taking big boy baths and talking well babbling anywho My son was born in June of 2008 5 weeks early, weighing only 5lbs 11oz and 18in when he was born he culd not breath and didnt even cry or open his eyes then they revived him and he spent 3 weeks in the special care unit and when we brought him home he weighed only 5lbs within the last 8 months he is over the weight of a normal 8 month old weighing almost 24lbs he still has not caught up on lengh yet but he will anywho There is not any research to say that your premature child will be behind cause I was told that by many and look at my son now He is precious and learning to walk. Put it this way my friend has a little girl that is one year and 2 months old(Who Was born at 41 weeks) and she hasent walked or crawled she can talk but can't even hold her own bottle so that tells you wat a premie can do in the nick of time Thanks For Listening Momms I am here if anyone needs me just send me a message!

Emma - posted on 03/10/2009

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my son was 9 wks early. like the other mums on here say its each child to thier own! your health vistor will nolongr count him as prem from the age of 1 yr.(well our area didnt) he is now 18 months and is about average if there is such a thing! the doc etc will do development checks and follow him,but if there is no need they will sign him off with gold stars!! x

Michelle - posted on 03/10/2009

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My twin girls were 7 weeks early and at 1st they were behind but now they are 16 months old stil not walking but can do anything else any other baby can!!!!



1st born I would actually say is ahead she tries to talk and I don't just mean googling I mean she says proper stuff like what is it, drinky, din din, who is it what is it she can count to 3. amazing



2nd born is a little more behind than the 1st but she isnt really benind she can say little things like yeah and simple stuff. She was the more poorly twin at birth tho so this is what we have put this down too, also she tends to let her sister do all the things so she doesnt have too, probably more lazy than the other   lol

Dawn - posted on 03/07/2009

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My son was born at 33 weeks , he is now turning 6 months i haven't seen any delays in any milestones so far but your baby seems to be doing everythinq a 4 month old should so you should be happy =)

Leanne - posted on 03/05/2009

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Hi my son was 5 weeks early and we had a check up at the hospital recently and he is developing like a normal full term baby! we have been warned by the neonatal doctor that he will start walking soon after he starts crawling and that in a couple of months to safe guard the house!! hes only 10 1/2 weeks old! but he holds his head steady with no bobbing and can sit on his own for a short while! so all babies are different!

Emma - posted on 03/02/2009

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hi ya my daughter was 8 weeks early she is now 3 yrs old and able to count to 10 and do her abc all they way through to z on her own i think it is all down to the babyus parents how they help the child progress my daughter did not start walking till she was 2 yrs old but my god has she picked up my mom n dad was only sayin few days ago that when my daughter starts school that they will; be teaching her annie apple ect but i think that if a child can do it thr ight way then why should they be sent back to basicas i would just do everythin in your power to develop yr child and as for what he is doing now at four months old it seems fine my second daughter was born at 37 weeks and she was dooing that at 4 months so it sound just fine and it sound like you are doing good job keep it up..... good luck xxxx

Melissa - posted on 03/02/2009

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Hi my daughter was born 5 weeks early and in April will be a year old...we have not noticed any delays with her....she is my second and at times i think she does better than the first one did...i wouldn't worry about it unless the dr. worries....each child is different and is going to do their own thing...i learned that lesson very early on when the second pregnancy landed me in bed and she was 5 weeks early...she will always do her own thing and in her own time is what i like to tell myself...enjoy your baby!

Carrie - posted on 03/01/2009

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It's hard to say as all children progress at different rates. My son was born 6 weeks early and hes just starting to catch up (hes almost a year). But I would say he was about 6 weeks behind other children.  But I also noticed as he got older that the 6 week delay was less and less noticable. 6 weeks seems huge at first when you are waiting for the first smile, and rolling over, crawling etc. But eventually 6 weeks becomes just that..weeks.  I also noticed that with all kids he was ahead in some areas and behind in others.  But to me it sounds like you're little guy is doing just fine.

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Both my kids were born 6 weeks early. We were told they might be delayed but have been told all along by pedeatitions and child health nurses that they are advanced for their ages. I don't think being born early means they will be delayed, all kids are different and u will find kids that were born on time do things later than others. Don't read to much into books etc that say that kids should be doing things at certain ages, they all develop at different rates and most catch up i the end! The only difference with my kids as they were small, but my oldest caught up after 18 months.

Marlo - posted on 02/26/2009

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My son was 5 weeks early, and he smiled at 3 weeks and rolled over at 4 weeks so it depends on the baby, same goes for full term babies, and at 5 weeks they aren't to far behind the full term babies, so i wouldn't worry too much about it.

Sarah - posted on 02/25/2009

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hey my second son was 5 weeks early just before we got to take him home at 4 weeks old we had to have a meeting with the doc and he was sayin all these things like hell be smaller and he do everything late but in all fairness he never really did hes 17 mths now and he hasnt been early at walkin and crawlin but he has done everything around the same time a full term baby would do the only thing i used to worry bout was that he took 8 weeks to smile and i used to think it was coz he hated me lol it just made it all the more special when he eventually did. your little man sounds like hes doing great so try not to worry to much (easyer said than done lol) my health vistor always told me to allow my son 5 weeks to "catch up" and if your worried bout something your health vistor will always have some advise for you xxx

Sarah - posted on 02/25/2009

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hey my second son was 5 weeks early just before we got to take him home at 4 weeks old we had to have a meeting with the doc and he was sayin all these things like hell be smaller and he do everything late but in all fairness he never really did hes 17 mths now and he hasnt been early at walkin and crawlin but he has done everything around the same time a full term baby would do the only thing i used to worry bout was that he took 8 weeks to smile and i used to think it was coz he hated me lol it just made it all the more special when he eventually did. your little man sounds like hes doing great so try not to worry to much (easyer said than done lol) my health vistor always told me to allow my son 5 weeks to "catch up" and if your worried bout something your health vistor will always have some advise for you xxx

Christi - posted on 02/25/2009

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My Daugher was 5 weeks early. In she was a little behind in the begining. She is now 8 mths old and crawling trying to walk etc. I know the drs say the first 18mth they can be behind there is no need to worry.

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My son was born at 31 weeks and he was slightly delayed for about a year and a half. When I say slightly delayed I mean that he just hit his milestones about 2 months after a full term baby might. He is now 2 years old and just about all caught up with other kids his age. If you can try not to get too hung up on the milestones, I'm sure he will catch up.

Liz - posted on 02/22/2009

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it's a possibility, but he might be totally normal too. My son was born at 33wks and and had slight delays in rolling over and sitting independantly, he crawled at 10mo and walked at 15mo, no other development problems. We went to all the recommended well baby check ups and the high risk infant screenings suggested by the nicu. I learned a lot at the screenings and they helped keep him on track. He is now 2 1/2 yrs and you would never know he was a preemie.

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