Leigh - posted on 07/09/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
I have many questions, as we are in the "waiting for a diagnosis" stage. My mommy instincts told me early on that our son was special, to make it brief, sensory issues, not listening, aggressive, but also very smart, bright and social. He is amazing with his hand eye coodination, good at sports, riding a bike. Very hard to transistion, likes routine, very much wants me to do everything with and for him. Very sensory seeking, always wanting to rough house and be tickled, to the extreme, but also defensive like with gagging, choking, food around his mouth...it's been 3 years of trying to teach him to use a cloth, not his clothes, to constantly wipe his mouth and hands when eating...the list really could go on and on...
These are the things I've heard from others: autism (I don't think so), adhd (I doubt it because he CAN focus on things when he is in the right environment, or really is interested in it), ODD (i really don't think so) but I think it's SPD and possible something else like allergies (just got a full panel test done, waiting for results).
BUT back to my question. Why does he act much worse with us (mom, dad, 2 younger sisters) than when he is with grandparents or at the doctors office (which I've been to a few and they look at me like I am crazy because he's just sitting there, happy and quiet and not at all like at home) Our son has always been better one on one, or in new situations he's USUALLY more calm. Most of the day, he has a hard time calming down and controlling himself, is this SPD or something else? Anyone else with kids with SPD behave better one on one or with other caretakers? (and I should mention, not all the time, when it's just him and Grandma, he's an angel, but when it's him & sister and Grandma it's different...some people say jealously issues, but I know it's more than that, because there's so many other things we deal with daily).
Any help or feedback, or questions are welcome!