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Janie - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone! I'm Janie. My 6 year old has spd. I am wondering what you guys do to help your kiddos with their anxieties. My son is fearful about doing new things, being assertive, or taking initiatives because he's so afraid something will go wrong or he'll lose the game. We talk about being brave, strong, and courageous and we've had countless conversations about games being for fun, but it doesn't seem to really help him get past the anxiety. Any suggestions would be great!

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Janie - posted on 02/23/2009

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Thank you all for your suggestions! It's always nice to know that we're not the only ones having this kind of struggle! He is definitely one to want control over everything. We've been going to OT for quite a while now and our crying episodes/tantrums have become easier to handle and less frequent. OT and our at home sensory diet stuff has helped us so much, I just wish there was some way I could take away the fear he feels. He's way to young to be worried about all the "what if's" in life!

Wendy - posted on 02/22/2009

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My son is 2 and we are are battling the same things. We just found out he has SPD about 2 weeks ago. His communication is not great yet and usually it is just an all out screaming meltdown! We have started OT and I am hoping that will give us all some insight

Holly - posted on 02/22/2009

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Quoting Janie:

Thank Sandy! I'll take a close look at this website. We don't have any speech delays but we have lots of trouble with transitions and when things don't go as he's expect or want.



Rebecca is the same way...terrible with transitions and when things don't go the way she wants.  I interpret it as major control issues.  Everything I am learning from her is that she MUST have complete control over EVERY situation or she loses it.  Being that she is 3 this is very challenging when an average 3 year old wants to assert independence...now add SPD on top of it and you get a very difficult young lady some days!

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I KNOW totally what you mean.... My daughter has tactile defensiveness... and this is a huge challenge for her. I've not found any magic answer - but I've tried 2 basic things... one - I try & have her put things in perspective... If she's getting upset about something (like a bag isn't full all the way with cheerios) - I ask her which she would be more sad about - the bag of cheerios - or her favorite bunny getting lost.... The other thing I try when she is nervous or doesn't want to try something I ask her to tell me what's the worst thing that can happen... I ask her to tell me what it would feel like to lose the game... and would she maybe have fun playing that game - and that fun might be more than the sadness of losing... I have no clue if it helps - but that's the approach I'm taking. let me know if you run into any successes!

Janie - posted on 02/20/2009

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with my spd 6 year old I think most of his fear is a fear of failure. he is a perfectionist and if he can't do something perfectly the first time, he has a hard time even being able to attempt something without melting down.

Jen - posted on 02/20/2009

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being brave and trying new things is hard...and I find if my kids (one SPD the other 2 not) find it a lot easier to be brave if no one is watching. I will find something challenging for them and then busy myself in the next room. if they say they need help or cant do i will ask them to give it one more try and give them the time required to make a solid attempt before stepping in and helping. I can usually get ONE more try of about 3 seconds before a meltdown from my SPD daughter.

Janie - posted on 02/20/2009

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Thank Sandy! I'll take a close look at this website. We don't have any speech delays but we have lots of trouble with transitions and when things don't go as he's expect or want.

Sandy - posted on 02/20/2009

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My twins have ASD and Sensory isues.  They are in OT once a week and they work on some of those issues there.  They are great.  They have been using picture schedules and last week they tried out a new picture "change".  We have been slowly working it into their daily activites.



Yesterday we had a meltdown because the graham cracker didn't break on the lines.  SO that cracker grew wings and flew across the room, and so did then next one, and the next one.   Thank goodness there is an end to the bag.  LOL  



 



 

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