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is it that extreme

Dominic - posted on 01/31/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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hello ladies i need alittle help. my husband has many problems which include PTSD and TBI. i know it might come out sounding bad but its the only way i can say it. i just think that he is playing the card alittle too much. i mean i understand playing the card with his docs but to me? really? he doesn help out at all. i mean his siter told me that he was a neat frak back when he was younger and now.... like hes the master of disaster. he always is sleeping and always is hurting. i mean when he tells me that he is gonna take a nap i dont say anything and when i do he right away jumps on me. i mean what about me i need a nap too. i take care of the baby and the 2dogs o yeah and him. when he sick he sleeps. hes in the WTU so he dont really go to work. his work is appt THATS ALL! he sleeps until i dont know when and when he wakes up its time for me to go to bed. i mean i have been told by him and others to take a nap when the baby takes a nap but if that was the case i wouldnt be able to see the floor in our house. befor we were married i was able to talk to hi about ANYTHING. and i do mean anything and now... heaven forbid i talk to himabout helping me make a grocery list or doing the dishes. i tried asking him numerous times to go to marraige counseling with me and hes tld me NO. so i go to a couselor by my self. and i dont think there will be enough sessions to say what i gotta say. o yeah not to mention im not from around here and i have no one to talk to. so i ask what now?

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Nichole - posted on 01/22/2012

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Actually it is that extreme, sad to say. And yes my husband plays that card all the time, I'm so sick of it! it's a memory problem, the hearing problems. He can remember what he did with the kids a week ago, but he can't remember yelling at me for not making sure his laundry was done, folded and put away before he wakes up (he works nights).But i can't do the laundry because he wont let me spend the 20$ to get a part for the dryer to make it stop sqeeking. Don't even get my started on the marriage counceling less than one hour into our one and only session he looks at the doc and screams "your a nut job, and have no idea what your talking about" looks at me and says "if you stay find your own way home". we lived over 25 miles from base at that time. as for the sleeping, yes he does that all the time (even before he started working nights), and if he wasn't sleeping he was playing the call of duty games. which i dont understand because it makes his night terrors/dreams worse. i've been keeping a video diary of everything that goes on when i can, and if he's awake i keep tape recorders all over the house (hidden) so that i can prove to him he did things and said things. I'm so sick and tired of the way i'm being treated it's not funny.



As for the what now part of your question ... all i can say is if i find out defore you i'll let you know, just do the same for me ... PLEASE!!

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