Angie - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )
My 14yo son went into residential the end of May after being arrested again; 1st time was last November ...juvenile is involved in my life, children's division are involved in my life, and I would've never thought knowing terms like FST, DFS, DYS, DJO, GAL, and court hearings would be part of parenting my child, nor getting facility approval to celebrate his 15th bday.
After 2 months of little improvement from him, the facility director recommended we have 30 days no contact so he can focus completely on improving his behavior without distraction. Although I whole-heartedly hope this could be the solution, after 2 weeks, he gained his level but lost it because of an incident. And I want to keep hoping and believing, but I have serious concerns about this facility ~ I involved the director after 3 weeks of no response from his case manager re: behavior reports, policies, security (they didn't ask for ID on my 1st visit); they just violated a court order the judge specifically ordered my involvement with medical/med changes.
Children's Division are aware of all this, but say they are limited on facilities & he will only get 9 months there to get his behavior turned around...and then what? I don't know...he's on a suspended sentence to go to DYS (kid jail) pending him completing this program successfully.
He can be such a great kid & he is super intelligent, I think sometimes too intelligent. He is thoughtful & loving and good days he wants to make better choices; but can get very defiant when he can't decide what he can/can't do...and I mean very defiant! He has been restrained, contained, taken down, & sedated at some point in the different facilities we've tried....doctors say it's not safe for him to be at home. His diagnosis is Conduct Disorder, meds don't help much, he's got to find what will make him care....I pray every day that happens soon & no contact makes it so hard to know how he's doing & I miss him so much....2 more weeks of no contact...I can do this...at least that's what I keep telling myself as I count these days down....