1 year n 5 month relationship.. can i have a sleepover???

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Im 14 years old and me and my boyfriend have been going out with a strong healthy relationship for a year and nearly 5 months and i want to have a sleepover but not for any sexual reasons me and him dont want do nor intend to do anything until were old enough, so me and him want to have a sleepover but my parents wont let me they know him really well and trust him yet say no, im confused. all we want to do is cuddle up watch films and sleep. i dont know what to do...

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I'm am mature I was just saying it was rude what you said and I was asking a question saying what to do so and no I didn't think that I was upset and wanted to little advice there was no need to offend me by saying I would do that I'm indefinite NOT ever and nor will be that rude, you don't know me and have never met me so stop making accumptions.
for 14 I'm proberly the most mature kid in my school cos everyone smokes and does things they shouldn't and me and a little few don't so I'm very mature for my age

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/05/2016

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Your reply to me indicates that you ARE NOT mature in any way, shape, or form.

You thought, in your infinite wisdom, that you'd find a bunch of strangers on the internet that would tell you "sure, go ahead" so you could take that back to your mother and "show her how old fashioned she is", but it backfired.

I know your mother isn't stupid, because she ALREADY SHOT YOU DOWN.

Go play with your friends now. You aren't mature enough to have a boyfriend, nor an overnight stay with a boy.

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Lena - posted on 09/15/2017

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No, you can't have a sleep over. You are way way too young. Sorry. Don't know how old your boyfriend is, but if he's your age, his parents aren't going to let that happen either. If he is older, way older, then he knows better and he can go to jail.......Take time and think about it.....Good luck

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We never have temptations we've been alone in the house plenty of times and never done anything because we're different

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There's nothing wrong at all with having a fun sleepover with my BF when we're best friends is there as I said in the post were NOT going to do anything so tell me where's the problem, he's a boy and so what nothing wrong with that he's different from other boys he doesn't urge to have sex cos he's behaved Unlike some

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Ev Ive been with him for a year with my mums and dad's accept so yeah it's ok to have a boyfriend an at least I haven't lost my virginity at the age 13 like most kids at my school so I'm very mature I have to look after my two year old sister because my mum can't. And yeah my mum said no but what all of you are saying is very rude I haven't said anything rude towards you have I offending a child that's mature isn't it. An at least I feel comfortable with my boyfriend and at least I'm not doing anything under age because I wouldn't dare. I'm surprised I have a boyfriend now because of how many people have hurt me but that shows how much I can trust him as well as my parents trust him so can you all stop commenting cos none of you are helping at all your just all offending a child

Ev - posted on 10/06/2016

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{I'm am mature I was just saying it was rude what you said and I was asking a question saying what to do so and no I didn't think that I was upset and wanted to little advice there was no need to offend me by saying I would do that I'm indefinite NOT ever and nor will be that rude, you don't know me and have never met me so stop making accumptions.
for 14 I'm proberly the most mature kid in my school cos everyone smokes and does things they shouldn't and me and a little few don't so I'm very mature for my age}

You are not mature. YOU are a 14 year old girl who thinks it is alright to have a boyfriend and a night over with him. YOU do no understand a lot of this world yet. There is so much more to your life at 14 to do than to worry about a boyfriend. Grow up more before you need to have one. Also just because you do not smoke at 14 does not make you more mature than the other kids at school that do.

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I'm deleting this post because you all haven't gave any advice just offend me and I said I can have a boyfriend not do what I want dove my boyfriend is the best thing in my life and he's the one keeping me going you don't have ANY clue what's happening in my life but he's the one helping no one else

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Shawn that was a seriously quite rude wasn't it, my mum isn't dumb thank you very much and I can have a boyfriend if I want, I'm old enough to and were strong and happy isn't that enough and I said we won do anything so there isn't a problem

Ev - posted on 10/03/2016

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I agree with Shawnn. My kids (son and daughter) were not allowed to date until age 16 and never slept over at a Gf or Bf's house underage. The only time that my daughter's one BF ever stayed over she went to her grandparents house to sleep at night because he was staying over at my house with my son and me.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/03/2016

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Ask your mother. If she is dumb enough to let you, then go for it.

You have no business having a single boyfriend at your age, let alone having a sleepover. Get real.

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