1 year n 5 month relationship.. can i have a sleepover???

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Im 14 years old and me and my boyfriend have been going out with a strong healthy relationship for a year and nearly 5 months and i want to have a sleepover but not for any sexual reasons me and him dont want do nor intend to do anything until were old enough, so me and him want to have a sleepover but my parents wont let me they know him really well and trust him yet say no, im confused. all we want to do is cuddle up watch films and sleep. i dont know what to do...

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I'm am mature I was just saying it was rude what you said and I was asking a question saying what to do so and no I didn't think that I was upset and wanted to little advice there was no need to offend me by saying I would do that I'm indefinite NOT ever and nor will be that rude, you don't know me and have never met me so stop making accumptions.
for 14 I'm proberly the most mature kid in my school cos everyone smokes and does things they shouldn't and me and a little few don't so I'm very mature for my age

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/05/2016

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Your reply to me indicates that you ARE NOT mature in any way, shape, or form.

You thought, in your infinite wisdom, that you'd find a bunch of strangers on the internet that would tell you "sure, go ahead" so you could take that back to your mother and "show her how old fashioned she is", but it backfired.

I know your mother isn't stupid, because she ALREADY SHOT YOU DOWN.

Go play with your friends now. You aren't mature enough to have a boyfriend, nor an overnight stay with a boy.

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Dove - posted on 10/06/2016

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lol No... you aren't any different than any other immature and disrespectful teenager. You aren't some special snowflake that gets to do whatever the hell she wants regardless of the rules. That is LIFE. Life comes w/ rules and respecting authority is a very important lesson. Your parents are the authorities in your life. It doesn't matter what kind of crap you have gone through or what your struggles are... if your parents say no while you are still under 18... the answer is NO.

Grow up and get over yourself. You aren't different. You aren't mature. You are a spoiled little girl that wants what she wants and doesn't give a damn about anything else.

All of your comments on this post have proved that.

And yes... if my teenagers acted as spoiled rotten as you are on this post... I would respond to them the same way. They don't act like this though because they ARE mature... not like you.

Dove - posted on 10/06/2016

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YOUR MOM SAID NO. If that isn't enough of a reason for you then I don't know what to tell you anymore. That is all the reason a mature and respectful teenager will need.

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We never have temptations we've been alone in the house plenty of times and never done anything because we're different

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There's nothing wrong at all with having a fun sleepover with my BF when we're best friends is there as I said in the post were NOT going to do anything so tell me where's the problem, he's a boy and so what nothing wrong with that he's different from other boys he doesn't urge to have sex cos he's behaved Unlike some

Dove - posted on 10/06/2016

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It is good that you have someone in your life that you can trust and depend on. Go ahead and keep that. A sleepover is unnecessary to keep that and can potentially lead to temptations that neither of you need in your life right now.

Dove - posted on 10/06/2016

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If the truth offends you and you are throwing a hissy fit... another sign of immaturity. How are we not helping by telling you the truth? I'm sorry the truth is upsetting you so much, but I'm not reacting any differently than I would w/ my own teenage daughters and nothing I've said would offend them.

YOU need to own how you react to people (another sign of maturity that you are lacking). Not put it on people who are simply telling you the truth w/out candy coating it.

What kind of answer are you looking for here? You said you want to have a sleepover and your mom said no. We are telling you that no is the right answer and you need to respect her. What else IS there to tell you? No one here w/ any sense is going to tell you that it is OK. If you want input on something else you actually have to ask about it cuz we aren't mind readers.

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Ev Ive been with him for a year with my mums and dad's accept so yeah it's ok to have a boyfriend an at least I haven't lost my virginity at the age 13 like most kids at my school so I'm very mature I have to look after my two year old sister because my mum can't. And yeah my mum said no but what all of you are saying is very rude I haven't said anything rude towards you have I offending a child that's mature isn't it. An at least I feel comfortable with my boyfriend and at least I'm not doing anything under age because I wouldn't dare. I'm surprised I have a boyfriend now because of how many people have hurt me but that shows how much I can trust him as well as my parents trust him so can you all stop commenting cos none of you are helping at all your just all offending a child

Dove - posted on 10/06/2016

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I have two daughters that are almost 15... they are mature enough to realize that what you are doing and wanting is unacceptable.

The advice you were given is that a sleepover is not appropriate. Period. You just want to ignore the advice and argue w/ parents that have kids older than you are now because we are not telling you what you want to hear... again, another sign of immaturity.

Your mom is letting you have a boyfriend. Not a decision I agree with, but I'm not your mom. She said NO to the sleepover. If you are really a mature person you will respect your mother whether you like it or not.

So... are you mature.... or just a teenager that thinks she knows it all better than adults that have been around for decades longer? That will show how mature you are or not.

Ev - posted on 10/06/2016

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{I'm am mature I was just saying it was rude what you said and I was asking a question saying what to do so and no I didn't think that I was upset and wanted to little advice there was no need to offend me by saying I would do that I'm indefinite NOT ever and nor will be that rude, you don't know me and have never met me so stop making accumptions.
for 14 I'm proberly the most mature kid in my school cos everyone smokes and does things they shouldn't and me and a little few don't so I'm very mature for my age}

You are not mature. YOU are a 14 year old girl who thinks it is alright to have a boyfriend and a night over with him. YOU do no understand a lot of this world yet. There is so much more to your life at 14 to do than to worry about a boyfriend. Grow up more before you need to have one. Also just because you do not smoke at 14 does not make you more mature than the other kids at school that do.

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I'm deleting this post because you all haven't gave any advice just offend me and I said I can have a boyfriend not do what I want dove my boyfriend is the best thing in my life and he's the one keeping me going you don't have ANY clue what's happening in my life but he's the one helping no one else

Dove - posted on 10/05/2016

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There is a problem... your mom said no. This whole 'I can do what I want' attitude is proof that you aren't old enough or mature enough to be making your own decisions. 13/14 IS too young for a boyfriend whether you agree w/ that or not.

What did you expect coming on here asking a bunch of moms of teens and older?

You might think you won't do anything and maybe you wouldn't, but your mom is extremely wise to not let you risk it. It would basically be like throwing temptation in your face and no decent parent is going to let that happen.

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Shawn that was a seriously quite rude wasn't it, my mum isn't dumb thank you very much and I can have a boyfriend if I want, I'm old enough to and were strong and happy isn't that enough and I said we won do anything so there isn't a problem

Dove - posted on 10/05/2016

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Your parents are already way more lenient than they should be... Personally I say 14 is way too young to have a boyfriend at all. 16 is the youngest for unsupervised dating in public and sleepovers would never, ever happen under 18. I'd prefer no sleepovers until marriage, but once my kids are 18 it is no longer my decision.

Ev - posted on 10/03/2016

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I agree with Shawnn. My kids (son and daughter) were not allowed to date until age 16 and never slept over at a Gf or Bf's house underage. The only time that my daughter's one BF ever stayed over she went to her grandparents house to sleep at night because he was staying over at my house with my son and me.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/03/2016

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Ask your mother. If she is dumb enough to let you, then go for it.

You have no business having a single boyfriend at your age, let alone having a sleepover. Get real.

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